Exhausted SAHM

I think so many moms can relate to this. You can love being a mom and still want your body, personal space, and alone time back sometimes. That doesn’t make you any less grateful or any less of a mother. I also think dads need to learn how to soothe their babies, too. Just because baby cries or wants mom doesn’t mean dad should immediately hand him back. He needs the opportunity to learn, too! I agree communication is important, but there’s a difference between asking for help and having to manage every aspect of parenting for another adult. You shouldn’t have to reach your breaking point before your partner realizes you need a break. You deserve to clock out sometimes, too. ❤️

I would really encourage you to sit down and have an honest conversation with him about how you’re feeling. Try explaining that you’re not just physically tired, you’re mentally exhausted, too. You miss having time to yourself and being able to do something as simple as sit on the couch without being needed. Let him know that when he comes home, you’re looking forward to having a teammate, not having to continue managing everything. Maybe establish that when he gets home, he takes over baby duty for a little while so you can shower, relax, or just have time to yourself. He might not realize how much you’re struggling unless you open up, but you also deserve a partner who takes initiative without you having to ask every single time. ❤️

I was also in the same space. I had a sit down serious talk with my husband and we talked boundaries, needs for myself, and needs for himself. We agreed that when we tell each other we will lead with love first not anger. The biggest thing was he “couldn’t read my mind” so from then on, I vocalized it from then on. 18 months later and it’s definitely been a journey but way better to talk it out.

You got this mama!

I’m in the exact same boat, my beautiful daughter will be 3 months on the 12th and I feel like I’m constantly having to try and explain things to my husband. Unfortunately I’ve found myself being up until 3-4am to get the basic stuff done that needs to be done, laundry, cleaning and even taking care of myself as in showering or sometimes eating for the first time. It’s definitely something I’m trying to navigate through and it’s reassuring to know I’m not alone