Need advice 😢

My little boy is 1, turned 1 on Tuesday. He’s always eaten amazing; everything we have given him; loads of fruit and veg; home made stuff; porridge etc, never had anything with salt or sugar. On Monday we went to soft play and as a treat along with all the other children I let him try chicken nuggets and chips with a bit of ice cream and his birthday cake. After we got home we had a buffet and I let him try some different stuff there, a tiny amount of chocolate, like a quarter if that of sausage roll etc. Nothing was in massive amounts just enough for a bite and a taste.
Tuesday and Wednesday he was sick quite a bit, but assumed it was from the soft play as he was putting the plastic balls and toys in his mouth, he was having milk fine but gone off his food.
Fast forward to today he has been having milk absolutely fine but been off food completely, and has been crying and whinging non stop from morning till night (literally, morning until night non stop). Have been giving calpol and nurofen when his been at his worst but his just not his self at all and I’m getting worried.
I feel like an awful, shit mum for letting him have these foods as his so young, I just thought for his first birthday for a treat he could try something. Now I’m scared because I’ve done this it may be linking to why he’s not eating his healthy meals I’m making, he won’t even touch his porridge and is having tiny sips of water throughout the day. Have I ruined his eating? Is it just a bug? I don’t know how long they last but we were doing so well and now I feel like I’ve ruined him and it’s all my fault 😢😔😭

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