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Six months pregnant. I used a donor. I bought donor sperm because I was approaching 40 with endometriosis, and I really wanted to have a child. I met my partner after, and we tried to make some embryos, but only managed to make one. I had multiple failed embryo transfers with the donor embryos, and I had two left. So I wanted to try again with one of those because I felt attached to them, and also we only had one between us to work with. I thought we were going to get married and he would be the father, even though I used the donor, but now he says he doesn't want any legal entanglements, even though he wants to be with me, and he wants to be the father, but he doesn't want to be the legal parent. I'm just wondering if I should walk away right now. Feeling very pregnant, also have become financially dependent on him. I am a lawyer though so I could work after the baby.

I feel sad for the unborn child like I found them a father figure that won’t commit to me or them. I thought we were going to get married because he kept saying that was in the future and even bought a ring.

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if he really loved you he definitely would love the child you got after so much struggle. no legal entanglements means he can walk away easily when he want. ask him to do so if he really loves u n child he would do that tell him youll leave him otherwise

Maybe since the baby is not his, he has no feelings towards the baby. Maybe he’ll change once he sees the baby 🤷🏽‍♀️ Just ask those questions. But when the baby arrives and he starts to act like the baby is only yours, then I would walk away. Are you finally able to do that with a baby?

He may just need time. You were doing this on your own, and quite frankly, continued to do it on your own even after he was in your life. You used the donor sperm/your egg even though you are in this relationship now. I understand why he is hesitant.

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