How you manage with 2 ?
Girls How do you do to manage with 2
My big one is 4 years old and he is so demanding … and my second is 2 months old.
I feel if i take care of one of them the other one is crying or waiting to be changed of pop or the other one is not taking the shower 2 days or not brushing the theets uffff
My big one feels alone i see it and now he is all the time with the dog.
I don’t manage to share time with him when my husband is at work and then he act very bad few times a day and that makes me so mad also he want my attention by doing bad things
I feel very bad mum what I try to do is mornings before my husband leave to the job. I get shower get cream on my face. Have a breakfast have my coffee and do whatever I need to do at home like organizing or cleaning something if I have to cook, I also try to cook in the morning. I think this is something good but after the baby requires me a lot of times in the day and when I am busy, the big one wants to be on top of me all the time and I need to be with a baby and I need to sleep the baby and the big one makes a lot of noise and wake up the babyand like this sometimes it happens 34 times after a while the baby cannot sleep anymore without me and I have to take him with me and again I cannot be with the big one end by the time that the baby sleeps it’s already a nap time for the big one and at night at the bed I think about the day and barrelly I pay attention to him or play with him I just remember me saying no, no , he quiet stay there , don’t shout don’t do noise , I can not I don’t have time … all day 🥹
And he Mamá we play this, look at this , read me a book , but when I can do the things he don’t want and I cant correct him sometimes because the little one is on my chest and get scary fuck! 🥹🤐
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Hey girl, I have a 6 month old and 5 year old and it is HARD, as you say. 5 year old is very demanding and misbehaves a LOT for attention and will compete a lot with the 6 month old by wanting to be held too, when I’m holding her and testing my patience 😅.
What has helped me is letting her know she has a “big job” of being the “big sister” and I’ll ask for her help with stuff like “can you pass me the diapers, please? Can you pass me the wipes? We’re going to bath baby, can you get her towel ready for me?” She loves it and it gives her a role as well, which has helped.
Boredom leads to bad behaviour, so I’ve also enrolled her into karate. She got an award for being the best behaved last week, which was actually surprising to me, ‘cause of how much she doesn’t listen at home, but we’re seeing a lot of the discipline she’s being taught in karate play out at home as well, so I would definitely recommend activities like karate, sports, dance or swimming. Good luck, we’ve got this! 😅 x
It’s not easy. I have a similar gap. I try and make the baby wait and say it out loud so that my eldest still feels cared for. I also involve my eldest in tasks for the baby and he loves being my little helper. Of course there are tears, but I explain why I can’t do something with my eldest but I also say when I’ll be able to attend to him.
Before the 7 month or pregnancy my kid and I where so in love all the time
This is just a moment it will pass i was like this with my oldest 2 I do have to say keeping noise in the house while baby is asleep is a big help. Also involve the big one as much as you can as well as cuddles on their own they understand a lot more and just need reassurance there not forgotten.
I’ve explained him that if he is quiet when baby sleeps we can spend more time together and play or shower or eat together… this is an explanation that I give him all day and everyday .
He is a boy very active and have lot lot lot of energy and my home it’s very small uff
Yeah this is exactly what we thought actuvities
Wear ur baby. Then you can be fully hands on with ur oldest especially if the baby doesnt want to be out down. See if they can help woth the baby and when you can have one on one time.
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My big one is 4 years old and he is so demanding … and my second is 2 months old.
I feel if i take care of one of them the other one is crying or waiting to be changed of pop or the other one is not taking the shower 2 days or not brushing the theets uffff
My big one feels alone i see it and now he is all the time with the dog.
I don’t manage to share time with him when my husband is at work and then he act very bad few times a day and that makes me so mad also he want my attention by doing bad things
I feel very bad mum what I try to do is mornings before my husband leave to the job. I get shower get cream on my face. Have a breakfast have my coffee and do whatever I need to do at home like organizing or cleaning something if I have to cook, I also try to cook in the morning. I think this is something good but after the baby requires me a lot of times in the day and when I am busy, the big one wants to be on top of me all the time and I need to be with a baby and I need to sleep the baby and the big one makes a lot of noise and wake up the babyand like this sometimes it happens 34 times after a while the baby cannot sleep anymore without me and I have to take him with me and again I cannot be with the big one end by the time that the baby sleeps it’s already a nap time for the big one and at night at the bed I think about the day and barrelly I pay attention to him or play with him I just remember me saying no, no , he quiet stay there , don’t shout don’t do noise , I can not I don’t have time … all day 🥹
And he Mamá we play this, look at this , read me a book , but when I can do the things he don’t want and I cant correct him sometimes because the little one is on my chest and get scary fuck! 🥹🤐
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Girls i nees to get this off my chest because i feel like im drowning in my emotions.
How are we coping with overbearing in laws? For some context i have autism and adhd but its very well managed but as expected im ocerly sensative and i understand that i may be over reacting but i also think some lines are being crossed.
So im pregnant with my first baby and everyone is excited and so happy for us which is amazing but my partners family are coming on so strongly with everything im struggling to see it as helping but more taking over, for example they want to buy baby loads of clothes and keeo a wardrobe at theirs (baring in mind before finding out we were pregnant i never really heard a peep from them expect for important events for 10ish yrs which was fine by me) when talking about my babys name they said about not allowing anyone to shorten their name they have to be called by their full name. Assuming they will be there in the room with me for labour and assuming how i will give birth and telling the whole family when i havent discussed it with any of them. Calling my baby 'their' baby.
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Its honestly making me want to back away and it feels ridiculous but im just scared they are going to take over.
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