An exhausted mum
Any other FTMs who are just SO done with all the information out there? I've got a 6 month old and I feel like I've done nothing but stress and try to problem solve everything when it comes to my baby. There was once a time when I didn't even know what false starts, wake windows or sleep pressure were and now I feel like the constant overload of information from "experts", especially on social media, is making me lose touch with my own instincts. Obvs it can be helpful when you're thinking, "wtf is happening right now?" but today I've decided I'm going to switch off all the noise, try to be more present with my baby and just accept that there will be ups and downs. Whether that's sleep, weaning or days when she only wants to be held. She's literally only just arrived in this world and there's so much happening in her little body and mind. Not everything needs to be a problem to solve.
I've also decided I'm not going to force a strict routine, because I've never even managed to stick to one for myself, and frankly the thought of it stresses me out. She's a perfectly happy baby and while I might still be a bit sleep deprived at least I won't be stressed about every little thing on top of it!
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I came off social media for the same reason, was so sick of the videos telling me to do this or that. Mum knows best x
I deleted huckleberry and started marking social media content as “not interested” when my daughter was around 6-7 weeks. She is five and a half months now. I couldn’t cope with the sheer amount of instruction. We’re very much baby led here - if she is sleepy, she sleeps, if she is hungry, she eats. I know her patterns and she is happy and thriving. Importantly, I’m much calmer and enjoying it more.
Same here. I deleted huckleberry after 4 weeks as it was stressing me out more than helping me. I just go off of my baby's sleep cues. Now I'm getting overwhelmed by conflicting weaning info online so I've now decided to tune out the noise and go off of what I feel is best for my baby and me
I still use huckleberry with my first son and he’s almost 4! Only to track meds and sleep now but I think those above who have deleted the app have the right idea. It can become so consuming… sticking to all of the wake windows and timings etc and your baby still waking up hourly for months is a kick in the teeth 😂 I really want to delete it myself but it’s going to be hard!
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