Seek Child support or not seek Child support

In the UK, the dad doesn't even need to be on the birth certificate to get child support. He raped you when he removed condom without your knowledge or consent, which is classed as rape. He made those choices he can help pay for the consequences. Don't put him on the birth certificate, but do get child support. If you have his admission of removing condom etc in text, you have enough evidence to even press criminal charges, definitely enough for child maintenance.

I would do some research about this guy. If he has money that just makes it easier for him to fight for custody which he is more likely to do if you go for child support. You might find out he is someone you absolutely do not want in your child’s life and then I would avoid all contact with him.

Do you know what he does for work? If they work under the table, you arent going to see a cent unless hes an honest man.

My husband pays for his 2 older kids from each check. During their meeting to set child support and custody, they had him bring paystubs. Anytime hes moved job texas has done a good job about finding his job and taking the money the 2nd paycheck or so.
My cousins bd on the other hand works construction and under the table. He reported he was unemployed and because theres no w2 to keep track with the ssn, my cousin isnt seeing anything.

It may also worth consideration, what if this man becomes spiteful and asks for custody too just to avoid cs or to get under your skin? Then you got more to stress out about. Do you trust him with your child considering he didnt want them?

Yeah but let's say worst case scenario, he says he wants to have custody. If they allow it, where would you be? Just making sure you dont end up screwing yourself by trying to get something from him. Ive seen things go the wrong way in court. Sometimes its best to not involve them. If you think you can make it without him, is it worth the stress of having him in your life? What if one day he decides he wants to be a dad and drags you and your baby through it

Honestly it’s best not to seek child support you get more money from the state depending on the job he works and on top of that you can lie say it was a one night stand and you don’t know the name you’d get 2k the first month then many 700 after and on top of that if you put on child support he’s get claim on taxes in the future it’s not worth it

I can't believe what I just read, he removed the condom without knowledge or consent is that not now rape ? He literally caused this scenario and then has the audacity to want you to get an abortion to cover his ass. You have enough evidence already but even if u dont it wouldnt be hard to get it next time he messages or has the hump about something yoy can just be like.. this is your fault you removed the condom without me knowing then tried to get me to have an abortion, it dont work like that then his response would be all the evidence you need unless he lies of course. This is not ok. I would file child support but tell them how you are pregnant because of what he did so you are protected

I am kinda going through the same situation. I met my baby daddy in March. I believe we fell in love. We started living together a short while after because he was determined he wanted a family with me. Some months later we broke up. I don’t exactly know why we broke up but I left him because something just didn’t feel right. Something in his energy and behavior. After moving out, about 3 weeks later I found out he was still in love with his ex because she called to verify timelines in which me and him were together. I honestly thought she was a prank. Shortly after that he and I got back together. He told me she was a crazy ex, I believed him. I got pregnant in July. I moved back in because he said he wanted us to try for a family. While living there I was still not getting the feel of safety and security that I needed emotionally so I left again. This time he said this was the last time I was walking out on him. He said he needed a dna test. I offered him one several times.