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What tonies do people recommend for 1 year olds?

in our community

🚷Intruder in garden🚷

We moved into this new house being extremely excited about the insane size of the garden for our kids to play. As we have 3 children under 3 years old I was excited to have them play in the garden sometimes while I can get some few things done at home or rest my mind. 1 month ago this person started ringing on our door asking to come through to the garden because someone has thrown his glasses over the fence to us and he needs to get them. I immediately felt danger and suspicion and told them to come round the back. There I found a bunch of Dr Pepper cans, a plastic bag and his glasses. Gave them to him, told him to stop throwing shi* to us and he denied that the bag and cans were from him (even though in our home there is never Dr pepper drinks). He repeated that 5 times on that day, 30 min apart and my husband got extremely angry and told him that next time he does that he will throw his glasses away, he has lost nothing on our property. Another guy from that house (the supervisor of that supported living) came over to us apologising on his behalf and saying that his schizophrenia makes him do that and we shouldnt be so harsh on him. Yesterday we told our tantruming kids to go ride their bikes in the garden and go on the trampoline while we would charge their electric cars for them. THANK GOD my husband spotted this guy in our garden, imagine he didn't!!! He let himself in by climbing over the fence or by breaking it. I remember that fence at the back being wobbly but standing whereas now it's completely broken and I can't prove it with footage unfortunately. My husband threatened him as now we feel like our children are not safe anymore and we're not sure if we are either. Reported to landlord, landlord escalated to council. Mental illness is no excuse for threatening behaviour and intruding people!!! I now feel always watched and paranoid that he is there and I am also anxious that a few times my husband and me had sex downstairs and might have not pulled the curtains completely because it's our garden and that this guy maybe saw smth? Also a few times freshly postpartum I went to make bottles for my baby downstairs when I wasn't dresses properly at all 🫣
I truly believe he could harm me or do something to our children. He can watch them from his window while they play in the garden and grab a moment when I am inside so now I can't let them out anymore unless I am right there at all times. There are so many murderers that were described as "schizophrenic". I don't care what you are, if you are making people unsafe you don't belong living on a street full of families!!!

Nursery complaint?

I really don't want to complain - but I feel like my daughter is regressing with her play and independence.

She is 2 in December, all of her nursery friends have moved up to the toddler room in the last 2 months. The nursery seem to have a hard rule that it is about age (2) and not development - my daughter is a chatterbox and communicates much better than some of her friends that have moved up.

She is now in a room with 1 other child of similar age, the rest are all 10-14 months old.

I just feel like she is showing much less independence, and the only imaginative free play she is doing is mimicking the nursery workers trying to get all these babies to sleep 😅 it is quite funny watching her say oh no this one needs a cuddle, oh no this one is up again etc etc.

Does anyone work in a nursery and confirm if it really has to be a hard rule on age? I know it all depends on ratios etc. Would I come across super pushy if I asked that when ratio allows, can she join in with toddler activities?

HFMD

I just received a notice from my sons nursery saying there has been a case of HFMD. Would you still send your child in or keep them off? Don’t really want him catching it.

Advice on child picking

Has anyone got any advice please..
My 5 year old keeps picking and it’s really getting me upset now because I don’t know how to stop her.
Whenever she gets a spot on her body she picks it then it scabs then she picks the scab off it’s continuous for weeks I’m at a loss.
I’ve tried taking thing off her then we tried the approach of a reward chart so when she gets 7 smily faces in a row she can have a present the most we’ve got is 3 days (I think this is because they weren’t really scabs at this point) she does it at school during lessons in bed any time. I can’t constantly cover them with plaster.
What can I do?

Should I make up with my sister?

Last Xmas my middle sister was supposed to come to me to celebrate, but she decided against it and went to my youngests sisters instead. She decided to invite our mom round to hers so she wasn't alone after my nan died, they all wanted to be together and i didnt want to go. I dont get on with my mom, she abused me growing up, and is a narcissistic alcoholic who neglected my poorly nan many times whilst caring for her. I was upset with my youngest sister having made those arrangements and leaving me on my own with my kids. My middle sister didnt have much to say about it when I brought it up. I havent spoken to my youngest sister since and shes made no effort for my girls birthdays, and never checks in on them despite being involved with my niece and nephew. I think the xmas thing I could maybe forgive, but its the fact she dotes on my niece and nephew, my kids have to listen to it and doesnt bother with mine. I also helped her move house last year, and when I moved she didnt offer to help at all.

I have no other family and no friends, I'm on my own and feeling shit with xmas coming up.

My whole life I've tolerate stuff like this from family, friends and partners, hence why I'm alone now because I dont like getting close to people. I also have bpd (caused by my mother) and a lot of trauma so I don't know whats normal in relationships.

But do i just move on and message her? What would others do?

Weanings a no no

Is anyone else’s 9 month old just not interested in food? My little boy will drink five bottles in a day but just isn’t interested in food. No matter what I make or what I give him he’s just not interested. He won’t try another not even a mouthful. I’m at my wits end and don’t know what to do. Health visitors just aren’t interested. Trying solids and purées to see if this was the problem but both he’s not interested in.
I’m so scared he’s not doing what other babies do.