HFMD

I just received a notice from my sons nursery saying there has been a case of HFMD. Would you still send your child in or keep them off? Don’t really want him catching it.

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We moved into this new house being extremely excited about the insane size of the garden for our kids to play. As we have 3 children under 3 years old I was excited to have them play in the garden sometimes while I can get some few things done at home or rest my mind. 1 month ago this person started ringing on our door asking to come through to the garden because someone has thrown his glasses over the fence to us and he needs to get them. I immediately felt danger and suspicion and told them to come round the back. There I found a bunch of Dr Pepper cans, a plastic bag and his glasses. Gave them to him, told him to stop throwing shi* to us and he denied that the bag and cans were from him (even though in our home there is never Dr pepper drinks). He repeated that 5 times on that day, 30 min apart and my husband got extremely angry and told him that next time he does that he will throw his glasses away, he has lost nothing on our property. Another guy from that house (the supervisor of that supported living) came over to us apologising on his behalf and saying that his schizophrenia makes him do that and we shouldnt be so harsh on him. Yesterday we told our tantruming kids to go ride their bikes in the garden and go on the trampoline while we would charge their electric cars for them. THANK GOD my husband spotted this guy in our garden, imagine he didn't!!! He let himself in by climbing over the fence or by breaking it. I remember that fence at the back being wobbly but standing whereas now it's completely broken and I can't prove it with footage unfortunately. My husband threatened him as now we feel like our children are not safe anymore and we're not sure if we are either. Reported to landlord, landlord escalated to council. Mental illness is no excuse for threatening behaviour and intruding people!!! I now feel always watched and paranoid that he is there and I am also anxious that a few times my husband and me had sex downstairs and might have not pulled the curtains completely because it's our garden and that this guy maybe saw smth? Also a few times freshly postpartum I went to make bottles for my baby downstairs when I wasn't dresses properly at all 🫣
I truly believe he could harm me or do something to our children. He can watch them from his window while they play in the garden and grab a moment when I am inside so now I can't let them out anymore unless I am right there at all times. There are so many murderers that were described as "schizophrenic". I don't care what you are, if you are making people unsafe you don't belong living on a street full of families!!!

Funding for childcare while on UC

I've got 2 children who are 2.5 and 11 months. I'm unemployed, a stay at home parent and on UC. I would really like to do a Level 3 Healthcare and Midwifery access to higher education course. Full time, which is 3 days a week.

My oldest daughter already does 2 days a week, which we will be moving up to 3 days once we get the funding. Also my youngest daughter will be going to nursery in January.

My question is, does anyone know if I would qualify for childcare funding from UC if I'm in full time education? Or do I need to work? My partner works full time. I've also asked the college about grants which they do help with childcare, but it doesn't say to what extent

What would you do?

My boyfriend and I have a complicated history. After he cheated on me with his child’s mother, he’s been actively trying to change his ways, and I do recognize the effort he’s making. However, there’s still a lot of damage in our relationship that we’re working through.

We have a 5-month-old daughter together, and he also has a 5-year-old son. Recently, he started including our daughter and me in the morning routine of taking his son to school. We’ve only been doing this for about a week, but his son constantly makes comments about not understanding why my daughter and I have to come along every day.

I’ve told my boyfriend that I find these comments rude, but he thinks I’m overreacting and doesn’t see anything wrong with them.

What makes this situation more complicated is that I’ve primarily been responsible for caring for his son for an entire year. A lot of that responsibility has been placed on me rather than his son spending more time with his own mother. I’ve helped with his daily care and taken on responsibilities that I don’t necessarily feel should fall entirely on me. I’ve always taken him to school for an entire year.

I also notice that when his son goes places with his uncle and cousin, he doesn’t make similar comments about them not needing to come along. So I can’t help but wonder why he repeatedly makes these comments specifically about me and his baby sister.

I understand that a 5-year-old may want one-on-one time with his father, and I don’t have an issue with them spending time together. But I do think there’s a difference between wanting individual attention and repeatedly making comments that can make other family members feel unwelcome.

Am I overreacting by finding this rude? How would you handle this situation? Should his father be addressing these comments and teaching him how to express himself differently, or am I expecting too much from a 5-year-old?

I’m not trying to compete with a child for his father’s attention. I just don’t want to establish a family dynamic where my daughter and I are made to feel like outsiders, especially when I’ve spent so much time helping care for his son. When I tell my boyfriend that I would like to just focus on my daughter and let his mother focus on their son, he gets upset with me and says I don’t care about his son..

Nursery complaint?

I really don't want to complain - but I feel like my daughter is regressing with her play and independence.

She is 2 in December, all of her nursery friends have moved up to the toddler room in the last 2 months. The nursery seem to have a hard rule that it is about age (2) and not development - my daughter is a chatterbox and communicates much better than some of her friends that have moved up.

She is now in a room with 1 other child of similar age, the rest are all 10-14 months old.

I just feel like she is showing much less independence, and the only imaginative free play she is doing is mimicking the nursery workers trying to get all these babies to sleep 😅 it is quite funny watching her say oh no this one needs a cuddle, oh no this one is up again etc etc.

Does anyone work in a nursery and confirm if it really has to be a hard rule on age? I know it all depends on ratios etc. Would I come across super pushy if I asked that when ratio allows, can she join in with toddler activities?

HFMD

I just received a notice from my sons nursery saying there has been a case of HFMD. Would you still send your child in or keep them off? Don’t really want him catching it.

Should I make up with my sister?

Last Xmas my middle sister was supposed to come to me to celebrate, but she decided against it and went to my youngests sisters instead. She decided to invite our mom round to hers so she wasn't alone after my nan died, they all wanted to be together and i didnt want to go. I dont get on with my mom, she abused me growing up, and is a narcissistic alcoholic who neglected my poorly nan many times whilst caring for her. I was upset with my youngest sister having made those arrangements and leaving me on my own with my kids. My middle sister didnt have much to say about it when I brought it up. I havent spoken to my youngest sister since and shes made no effort for my girls birthdays, and never checks in on them despite being involved with my niece and nephew. I think the xmas thing I could maybe forgive, but its the fact she dies on my niece and nephew, my kids have to listen to it and doesnt bother with mine. I also helped her move house last year, and when I moved she didnt offer to help at all.

I have no other family and no friends, I'm on my own and feeling shit with xmas coming up.

My whole life I've tolerate stuff like this from family, friends and partners, hence why I'm alone now because I dont like getting close to people. I also have bpd (caused by my mother)

But do i just move on and message her? What would other's do?

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Should I make up with my sister?