I've got 2 children who are 2.5 and 11 months. I'm unemployed, a stay at home parent and on UC. I would really like to do a Level 3 Healthcare and Midwifery access to higher education course. Full time, which is 3 days a week.
My oldest daughter already does 2 days a week, which we will be moving up to 3 days once we get the funding. Also my youngest daughter will be going to nursery in January.
My question is, does anyone know if I would qualify for childcare funding from UC if I'm in full time education? Or do I need to work? My partner works full time. I've also asked the college about grants which they do help with childcare, but it doesn't say to what extent
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Hi, if ur referring to the childcare grant, it is a sum of money that is used to cover you for the year in the childcare account that you create once it's approved for each child. You have to link the childcare provider to the account so they can request 85% of the funds for each child to be paid to them, and you pay the rest of the nursery fee. The money can't be withdrawn. And any money that is left from the whole term of the year that you study is taken back, so if, for example, they grant you 3k and you still have money left by the end date of the grant, they take back what is left after the end date.

I could be wrong about all this but i think uc offers childcare help but I think both parents have to be in employed work
Here's the link to the government calculator https://share.google/KTkYEYcZNNXosR4nb
If youre going to apply for student finance, I would check how much it will lower your UC, it could deduct your UC. But with student finance there is a childcare grant.
Your specific college might offer their own thing so my advice to you is
A) ring the college and speak with them about entitled childcare grants. They often have Welfare or Finance Adviser
B) Ring the UC helpline and ask about childcare and studentfinance and what your options are
I think even with the childcare benefits you still have a small fee to pay so definitely call everyone and find out what the best thing to do is. Put it on your UC journal too

From UC, they will still pay 85% of ur childcare, and you cover the rest. Still, you might lose ur benefit depending on ur study hours, since it might get stopped. It happened to me when I studied an Access Level 3 because they took my hours as full-time. I had to reapply and have the college write a letter on my behalf so I could submit it to UC. If you're doing an apprenticeship, it is totally up to you what service you're going to use.
Im deep in the resentment phase towards my husband who’s always busy with work and gone from the home nearly 14 hrs a day. When he is home, he isn’t present, on his phone or out smoking. and still needs to be told what I need help with rather than just figuring it out for himself. Our baby is 9 months old and I feel like a single parent rather than having him parenting alongside me. He’s never home for bedtime or morning routines and im exhausted from the physical and mental load of caring for the baby plus all the home care things like meals, laundry, cleaning, etc. I go back to work in Feb and I just don’t understand how the entire house won’t fall apart without me home 24/7.
Anyone been through something similar? This mama is exhausted, resentful and honestly, a little lonely.
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My boyfriend and I have a complicated history. After he cheated on me with his child’s mother, he’s been actively trying to change his ways, and I do recognize the effort he’s making. However, there’s still a lot of damage in our relationship that we’re working through.
We have a 5-month-old daughter together, and he also has a 5-year-old son. Recently, he started including our daughter and me in the morning routine of taking his son to school. We’ve only been doing this for about a week, but his son constantly makes comments about not understanding why my daughter and I have to come along every day.
I’ve told my boyfriend that I find these comments rude, but he thinks I’m overreacting and doesn’t see anything wrong with them.
What makes this situation more complicated is that I’ve primarily been responsible for caring for his son for an entire year. A lot of that responsibility has been placed on me rather than his son spending more time with his own mother. I’ve helped with his daily care and taken on responsibilities that I don’t necessarily feel should fall entirely on me. I’ve always taken him to school for an entire year.
I also notice that when his son goes places with his uncle and cousin, he doesn’t make similar comments about them not needing to come along. So I can’t help but wonder why he repeatedly makes these comments specifically about me and his baby sister.
I understand that a 5-year-old may want one-on-one time with his father, and I don’t have an issue with them spending time together. But I do think there’s a difference between wanting individual attention and repeatedly making comments that can make other family members feel unwelcome.
Am I overreacting by finding this rude? How would you handle this situation? Should his father be addressing these comments and teaching him how to express himself differently, or am I expecting too much from a 5-year-old?
I’m not trying to compete with a child for his father’s attention. I just don’t want to establish a family dynamic where my daughter and I are made to feel like outsiders, especially when I’ve spent so much time helping care for his son. When I tell my boyfriend that I would like to just focus on my daughter and let his mother focus on their son, he gets upset with me and says I don’t care about his son..
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I've got 2 children who are 2.5 and 11 months. I'm unemployed, a stay at home parent and on UC. I would really like to do a Level 3 Healthcare and Midwifery access to higher education course. Full time, which is 3 days a week.
My oldest daughter already does 2 days a week, which we will be moving up to 3 days once we get the funding. Also my youngest daughter will be going to nursery in January.
My question is, does anyone know if I would qualify for childcare funding from UC if I'm in full time education? Or do I need to work? My partner works full time. I've also asked the college about grants which they do help with childcare, but it doesn't say to what extent

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So my grandmother in law raised my husband like a mother so we see her as a mother in law so for context her son has passed away a while ago and now I have my son we are living with them because it's cheap and easy so she wants my son to call her grandmama and Everytime me and my husband bring the baby around her she tells us not asks us to hold him and when one of us tells her no she asks the other one then when he's crying she says oh it's because he wants his grandmama but my husband would call her nani then she has a wallpaper of her dead son that she wants to change to my son and she calls my son her little baby or her little pumpkin (we put him in a pumpkin for Halloween) she won't let anyone who isnt us hold him for long before she tells them to give him to her and now I don't know what to do because I feel like if I talk to her I'm overreacting but I don't wanna cause conflict
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I've seen people say that it's impossible to potty train at night until the child basically grows out of it around age 7. I've also seen people say that their child was fully potty-trained by the age of 3. I don't want to rush nighttime potty training if it doesn't make sense to, but I also don't want to delay it if it doesn't make sense to. I know it probably depends on the child individually, but I'm not sure. We haven't started any kind of potty training, but we are thinking about it. What worked best for your child?
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What kind of thing are you feeding your babies for weaning?
I have Arfid and my husband does shift work so there’s no real “meals” that we have routinely so I’m struggling to think of what to give her for lunches. Breakfast I give her yoghurts and toast but she doesn’t seem interested in the toast most of the time
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