Nursery complaint?
I really don't want to complain - but I feel like my daughter is regressing with her play and independence.
She is 2 in December, all of her nursery friends have moved up to the toddler room in the last 2 months. The nursery seem to have a hard rule that it is about age (2) and not development - my daughter is a chatterbox and communicates much better than some of her friends that have moved up.
She is now in a room with 1 other child of similar age, the rest are all 10-14 months old.
I just feel like she is showing much less independence, and the only imaginative free play she is doing is mimicking the nursery workers trying to get all these babies to sleep 😅 it is quite funny watching her say oh no this one needs a cuddle, oh no this one is up again etc etc.
Does anyone work in a nursery and confirm if it really has to be a hard rule on age? I know it all depends on ratios etc. Would I come across super pushy if I asked that when ratio allows, can she join in with toddler activities?
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I don’t think you’re being pushy if you word it like that. My son is born August 14 and there’s a child born August 15. My son moved up to toddler (in February when he was 18m) and the other child didn’t. And it was just 1 day that separated their age. Just because the ratios allowed one kid to move and my son was technically older.
That other kid sat in the infant room until September of this year. When he was 25 months old and moved up to toddler 2 with us. It’s literally all about age and ratios. If they have the space, they should move her. It could just be that there isn’t space right now.
I don't think you're being pushy at all. I had exactly the same with my boy and they ended up moving him up early because he was in the baby room still but his speech and overall development was where it should be but he was with babies nearly 6 months younger than him.
Usually it is due to age due to certain legalities in the rooms but she's close enough in age that I don't think it should matter
It doesn't necessarily have to go by age, and I agree that if a child is plateauing in the younger age room then there is absolutely a case to ask for them to move up early. However, it could be the case that the team in the older room are tied by legal ratios and so can't move more children in until they have made space by transitioning older children out into the next room. Unfortunately the EYFS has to be very rigid on staff:child ratios in order to maintain safety and so it could simply be that there isn't the space for your child to move up early.
I agree it must be frustrating feeling that your child is no longer being challenged, but at least you know it is only the case for a few more weeks. She is also likely to be doing a few extra sessions in the older room as she prepares to transition so hopefully she will get more challenge over the next few weeks
Nursery practioner here. It can be because it affects the ratio of staff needed in the next room, she is currently on a 1-3 ratio with the staff in toddlers (2-3) ratio is 1 to 5 so they might not have a member of staff to cover that ratio, it all depends on management as they are ultimately the ones who get the final say in whether the children move up
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