Just need to Vent
So to start, I am a SAHM with a toddler and currently pregnant with my 2nd child. My husband and so just had a conversation and it ended in him feeling bad and crying… It wasn’t anything heated. I asked him who was doing the bath for the toddler. He says that we’re doing our regular schedule… I said “so i’m doing bath and bedtime? He replied “no, you do bath, I do bedtime”. So I could’ve been a bit easier on this part, but I got a little upset and told him “So I do the hard part and you do the easy part? Got it.” then went and told him that he literally works 24/7 (he loves the crap out of his job bc he doesn’t have to), and so I’m always doing bath and bedtime… So now that he’s home, i’m still doing basically 90% of the care for home and the baby… So I asked what’s going to happen when baby gets here? I’m doing everything too?… He started silently crying… I’m not trying to be a butthole but i’m genuinely tired. The house is disgusting, my son has had TOO MUCH screen time due to the fact i’ve literally been so exhausted and can barely keep my eyes open. I don’t eat, I rarely sleep, and i’m just tired… When he gets home from work, I try to keep our son away from him so he can rest. Sometimes he helps out after he gets up, sometimes he just gets on his phone and chills downstairs with us… Either way i’m so tired…
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Also to add, I don’t ever plan on having anymore kids bc this feels like hell. I also would literally go get a job, just to prove I can do all of this by myself, but I don’t want to hold that over my husband. He’s a great man, and he is a great father when he’s focused on us. It just feels like he doesn’t see the struggle i’m truly going through… My first pregnancy, he acted like he had it so easy (he did) bc I literally went to work, went home and slept… If I wasn’t working then I was eating or sleeping. This pregnancy, I’m not sleeping, I don’t eat bc everything makes me feel sick, and I do complain a bit more bc I’m doing EVERYTHING. I’m tired… My body is shutting down. Idk how I’m gonna survive this pregnancy. Anyways, thank you for letting me vent!
When I was pregnant with my 2nd I would bring my daughter into the shower with me because I was too exhausted to bathe her separately 😭
i’m praying for you girl. i felt this too hard.
i have a husband who struggles to understand everything i do at home and for our kids. he also works hard and financially, does it all. but i do literally everything else and it’s exhausting. i had our second baby 7 months ago, but even while pregnant, i did it all. i don’t have advice, but also came to vent i guess! all i can really say is you are not alone 🫶🏼
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