Ex in his life (I’m 29 weeks pregnant)

So my boyfriends baby mum (she’s 7 years old just turned) doesn’t let her go ANYWHERE without her so he never gets proper daddy daughter time with her, I use to think she’s just very over protective and be ok with this ie we all go for food together/to the park/shopping which at first was nice and we get on but now being pregnant I’m getting abit frustrated as in like when his little girl sees her baby brother for the first time she’s going to be there and see my baby before some of my family, I definitely don’t want to get in between them but I want my own little family now and have my own relationship without the mum being there finding out things before my own family because we obv course wants to share things with his daughter, he’s scared she’ll stop him seeing his little girl but like she’s 7 years old now and old enough to tell her if something goes wrong or doesn’t like something so I’m also frustrated like where does it end what age is appropriate for her to stop being around, me and him have been together for over 3 years now and she’s been there every single time we’ve done something with his daughter. Am I in the wrong for wanting this? I’m FRUSTRATED.

Also when we found of the sxxx of the baby his little girl wanted to be the first to know if it was a boy or girl so he FaceTimed her straight after and told her but then obvs her mums in the background so it pissed me off that she knew (the baby mum) before my own mum, like she congratulated me and was nice but it’s not the point I feel like I’m having to share everything with her and I want my own family unit

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Sorry to say but her mum ain't going anywhere. If she doesn't want her daughter around her dad alone that's her choice. You unfortunately need to adjust to it. Has the mum done anything to you when she found out the gender etc to warrant this much hatred from you? Is she horrible to you or does she flaunt that she knows things before your own family or is it all from you? That you're just upset that this woman knows before your own mum? I get YOU want your own family unit but that girls family unit still includes HER mum.

You picked a guy with a daughter, you did not pick a guy with an ex to tag along to your every family moment. You can have a great relationship with someone (essentially extended family) and still want to protect your bubble.

Pregnancy is so vulnerable. Our hormones are everywhere and it's damn scary. I wouldn't want someone knowing all my business either regardless of how much I like and respect my husband's family.

If it's a hard line that your step daughter can't be around her mum I have two questions which I'd ask myself.
1. Where does this come from? Is dad involved or somehow irresponsible?
2. What happens when you want to go away on trips with your little one? Are you allowed to bring your step daughter or will her mum tag along to every special family moment?

If the mum won't budge that's her right but (and I'm sorry to say this as it's 100% not your step daughters fault) your step daughter needs to get used to the fact she might not always be "first" to know or even to meet the baby.

Awww bless yeah that’s currently me 😭stressed out over thinking everything, it’s being out the worse.

Exactly it’s stresses me out he’s not sticking up for himself, there’s no reason I know of he can’t spend time alone with her he’s scared that if he says something she’ll stop him seeing her and he’s honestly the best dad.

I’ve not actually spoke to him about it tbh he gets all awkward, I have mentioned like a “I wonder when she’ll let her come on her own” sort of thing but then it gets awkward and changes the subject

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