Having fun time with your husband

Before I get into this I just want to say I do love my husband very much. Been with him 10 years married for two. I don't know if this is just our relationship or if other women have the same problem. I have a very high s** drive and I'm always wanting to have fun with him. That's how I unwind and feel connected to him. When we were younger we used to have it all the time, but as we have gotten older it's slowed down tremendously. Especially when I got pregnant. He just did not feel comfortable doing it while I was pregnant. We did it twice because I had to beg him cuz I just couldn't take it anymore. But after giving birth to my son and I'm healed up, I want to have fun with him. But I can't get him to do it with me. It has to be on his terms. He has to be the one to initiate it. Last time I tried because it physically hurt cuz I wanted to feel close to my husband. He literally said we need to get your hormones checked. Is this just a me problem in my relationship or just anyone else have issues with this? Because I absolutely feel like crap and unwanted.

3

Read more on Peanut

The views expressed in community are solely the opinions of participants, and do not reflect those of Peanut.

Learn more about our guidelines.

Add a comment

This has been me always up until my current husband. It was so disheartening, frustrating, and often I felt hopeless.

It’s such a difficult conversation to have, but it is an important one.

I wonder if he is feeling stressed, scared, overwhelmed with life, with providing, with the possibility of pregnancy again, etc.

I would also suggest doing the love languages quiz- both of you.

Here is a pdf, you score it yourself at the bottom.
you both can take it and score. Feel free to message me if you want to talk more about the results. :-) i am a therapist and always encourage my clients to take this!
https://nbcgutah.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/09/5.LoveLanguageTest.pdf

Am not saying is bad,but maybe u should just check on that i also had a high sex drive and honestly I had to learn to calm the drive. The fact that u had to beg ur husband says u are struggling to accept his no, it could be ur scared of rejecting. Am not trying to put u down,but there is other ways to love. I honestly feel a much better person since my sex drive been down. One's I learn to let go of the drive I discovered other parts of me that wanted love. I still enjoy and sex, but is stressful when the sex drive is not being meet. Is stressful for both side. Physical love is good,but thier other ways to be intimate. I wish you the best!!!

Sorry I have no advice!!! Just wanted to say I wish I was like you. We’re in the opposite position, my partner wants sex all the time and I do not at all, it’s the last thing on my mind. I do wish I had more to give him but since having a baby I’m not interested :(

in our community

Why is it hard to make friends?

😕 why is making mom friends harder than dating? swear I'm always left on read... is everyone just exhausted or do I just say the wrong things lo

7

19

Having fun time with your husband

Before I get into this I just want to say I do love my husband very much. Been with him 10 years married for two. I don't know if this is just our relationship or if other women have the same problem. I have a very high s** drive and I'm always wanting to have fun with him. That's how I unwind and feel connected to him. When we were younger we used to have it all the time, but as we have gotten older it's slowed down tremendously. Especially when I got pregnant. He just did not feel comfortable doing it while I was pregnant. We did it twice because I had to beg him cuz I just couldn't take it anymore. But after giving birth to my son and I'm healed up, I want to have fun with him. But I can't get him to do it with me. It has to be on his terms. He has to be the one to initiate it. Last time I tried because it physically hurt cuz I wanted to feel close to my husband. He literally said we need to get your hormones checked. Is this just a me problem in my relationship or just anyone else have issues with this? Because I absolutely feel like crap and unwanted.