"Your brain is lying to you"
But is it really though? Im doing research on how to deal with severe body dysmorphic disorder and the thing that is constantly repeated is that my brain is lying to me. That other people aren't focusing on the things that I see, but aren't they at some point if its blatantly obvious?
Big teeth, yellow teeth, bald patches on hair, weight, what youre wearing, bad makeup, etc,. Isn't natural human nature to notice the obvious and think inward even if we dont initially mean to?
Im constantly hyperfixating on how fucking ugly I am and how other people probably perceive me, even if its true or not. If the scale came into play id probably be a 4 on a good day. All those things I listed above are attributes of mine I hate. My hair has been thinning severely for a while and now im getting bald spots and widening part and theres been nothing i can do to stop it only adding to how fugly I am.
I see how fucking ugly my face is and question is it the BDD and my brain "lying" to me or is just fucking fact? Im able recognize when my brain is lying to me about being "fat" but if I cant recognize the same for my face maybe that means im just fugly as shit. Soon enough I wont be able to hide the balding and thinning and it'll make it impossible to go out in public. I fucking hate myself and I have a hard time believing my brain is "lying to me".
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There are therapists who can help you! Have you tried therapy or would you consider it? I’m a therapist myself.
Hey, there is no way to tell unless you share with someone who is completely honest with you. And then, if they were honest with you, would you go out of your way to address those things? For example, many people go out and spend money for cosmetic changes, make up, teeth whitening, hair treatments, and research their cause of hair thinning, so change the way they look until they are happy with themselves. I think it becomes unhealthy when they have an unrealistic ideal that they are aiming for and never seem to reach like those who over do plastic surgery.
That being said, learn to love your self for who you are first. Even if you spend all of the money in the world to change your outward appearance if you aren’t happy with who you are as a person, it might still not be enough. Surround yourself with people who will pour into you. 💛
Therapy is a win 🥇 and it will help you focus away from looks of yourself and others and just the way you treat yourself and others. You will wish you had started ages ago xxx
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