I feel so worthless

My husband tells me all the time how he’s unhappy with me, he wishes he didn’t have to take care of us, he threatens that he’s not going to keep buying our food, and he wants me to start saving up for my own place.

It just hurts so bad. I’m 19 weeks and 5 days pregnant.

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Honestly, fuck that man!! Any “man” who can emotionally abuse you like that is no man at all. Let him get his own place, you’d probably be better off!

I hope you’re doing ok, if you ever need to talk please message me x

Can you leave and put him on CS? It sounds like he won’t be helping when the baby arrives anyway.

Wow. This is actually sad. I hope you find your way out and you find a good man one day. 🩷 he’ll regret it but one things for sure that man is not your soulmate, he’s a pos. Getting treated that way while you’re carrying his baby is pure evil. Karma is real and it goes for people like him.

I'd start calling around support services and get a good idea of what you are entitled to. There's no chance that this is going to work out. Not with a scumbag like him.

Seeing the evil that exists in the world please leave him. Please leave before he decides how to get rid of you and your child.
I’m so so sorry that you’re tied to this person through shared blood but you don’t ever have to accept that in a partner.
He has no power in how you choose to live, who you choose to love, and who you choose to be.
Let him be alone.
Free yourself from him and allow your child a life that they do not feel like a burden, because that is what they will feel like in his home. A burden.
You are not a burden. You are not worthless. You have power here, double that because of the person growing inside of you. Stand in that and walk away.

I'm sorry you're going thru this, it's important to see this all at face value. Believe his words, even if tries to take it back or act nice a couple days, believe the bad things, and see the nice things as manipulations.

Def save up to leave, and mourn the loss of the relationship. Grieve the loss of the family you thought you were going to have, and then focus on the beautiful life you'll have without him around making you feel worthless. You'll have your own place, your baby, peace and calm, joy and sunshine, and the ability to find your community who will lift you up not tear you down. Life gets better 🙏🏽💐

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Nursery asked for a meeting

Hi ladies,
Advice or thoughts.
My daughter has currently turnt 16 months & nursery deputy manager asked for a chat before picking her up.
Basically said my daughter is always on the go, they do activities in the room & she’ll do it & shortly after she’ll wonder off & do her own thing & even when she plays with toys, it isn’t for long until she wonders off. Also mentioned sometimes refuses sleep but eventually she does fall asleep.
I did say she behaves the same way at home & if she was trying to tell me my kid has ADHD altho it’s early to be diagnosed such thing until they’re two & she said no, she can be just a busy baby & I said so what’s the point of this conversation🙂
You tell her to put toys away & she will do it, tell her to get something & she’ll get it, call her name & she’ll look at you, ask for a kiss & cuddle & she’ll occasionally do it haha depends how she feels.
Also mentioned my daughter has this “obsession” with one of the staff that she’s always under her feet or cries when the lady leaves the room etc & I said she does the same thing with me, probably her safespace person but I know my daughter can be dramatic with her crying.
She also has a bad habit of getting things that isn’t hers for example phones, remotes, at nursery it’s the radio, thermometer which is something that was mentioned to me today, my response, she’s just a curious baby in comparison to the other babies in the room. For your information, there was at least another two babies in her room who are 18 months which I assume isn’t like her

What’s everyone’s thoughts?

Am I too hasty?

I’m 6 weeks in. Bf is excited about pregnancy. He’s inbetween jobs, we live with his parents & he helps them out here and there. I met his friends a while ago and they enable each other’s drinking. His best friend’s wife is cool. But sometimes she calls my boyfriend (without his best friend on the line too) and I don’t know how to feel about that either. I understand that it’s hard for some men to not be the provider in the relationship. But it’s to a point where we don’t get intimate with each other. We argue over little things and some days I wonder if I should just get my own place. I’m concerned about his drinking and anytime I bring up that or his BF in away that could be negative he blows up at me. Am I being hasty?

Sick of my partner

I am currently 4 months postpartum with my second child. Sunday evening my partner said he was going to see his brother and left the house our 5 year old wanted to talk to him before bed so I called this man and he didnt pick up. I then called his brother who said he was at work so I should call one of his house mates as he might be there so I called the house mate who said he wasn't there called everyone I know he chills with and they all had no idea where he was so I used find my phone on Google to see his location. He later calls and says he's waiting at his brother's work place which is a lie because his location is completely different which I pointed out that why is his location saying box park and he blows up saying I'm fucking with his phone and how I'm controlling and how he doesn't want to chill with me anymore because of the way I'm acting mind you the only person who goes out and does whatever they want in this house is him. I am always with the kids never have time for myself. This man has not been home for 5 days now and has had 0 contact with me no communication at all our son keeps asking for him and I keep saying daddy is at work because he's not picking up his phone. It's soo emotionally draining dealing with him and I'm soo sick of it. I later found out from our friend that he feels like he is under surveillance and he can't do anything around me. Don't know what to do but I really don't want to be dealing with this. He knows he's the only support system I have because my mum is not in the and my nan is dead. What d do I do