Sick of my partner
I am currently 4 months postpartum with my second child. Sunday evening my partner said he was going to see his brother and left the house our 5 year old wanted to talk to him before bed so I called this man and he didnt pick up. I then called his brother who said he was at work so I should call one of his house mates as he might be there so I called the house mate who said he wasn't there called everyone I know he chills with and they all had no idea where he was so I used find my phone on Google to see his location. He later calls and says he's waiting at his brother's work place which is a lie because his location is completely different which I pointed out that why is his location saying box park and he blows up saying I'm fucking with his phone and how I'm controlling and how he doesn't want to chill with me anymore because of the way I'm acting mind you the only person who goes out and does whatever they want in this house is him. I am always with the kids never have time for myself. This man has not been home for 5 days now and has had 0 contact with me no communication at all our son keeps asking for him and I keep saying daddy is at work because he's not picking up his phone. It's soo emotionally draining dealing with him and I'm soo sick of it. I later found out from our friend that he feels like he is under surveillance and he can't do anything around me. Don't know what to do but I really don't want to be dealing with this. He knows he's the only support system I have because my mum is not in the and my nan is dead. What d do I do
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Huuuge red flag and then he’s turning it around on you. What an asshole!
Yeah I want to just not feel anything at the moment because my emotions are everywhere and it's affecting my sleep. The funny part is I am starting to feel like I have trapped myself and regretting having my babies with him.
A guy who says he feels under surveillance is 100% doing things he doesn’t want to get caught doing. I’m so sorry mama. But I think you need to think seriously about supporting yourself emotionally and financially. Don’t react just make plans. You will be okay xx
Thank you but ehat kind of plans should I be making as this is my first and only relationship experience and we have been together for years since our early 20s and now 31. Financially I am great without him but the emotional part is the hard bit cause I want to stop loving him and love myself more but I don't know how
He is upset he got caught, and he is punishing you for catching him. He is manipulative, and abusive (esp cutting contact with his son to punish you and his son for him getting caught). I would start reading books about healing the wounded inner child and building self love and self confidence. Joining mom groups and support groups online and irl locally to get the support you can't get from him or family. You deserve to be loved freely, not like this. You are not trapped, even though it feels like it, you are a powerful woman, who can make anything happen, you just have to know what you want for sure. Grieve the loss of the family you thought you were going to have, cry it out, and do lots of self care, and soothing things like epsom salt baths, chamomile tea, massages, walks in nature and sunshine/ fresh air, connecting with your higher self/ancestors/ mother earth/ the source.
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Nursery asked for a meeting
Hi ladies,
Advice or thoughts.
My daughter has currently turnt 16 months & nursery deputy manager asked for a chat before picking her up.
Basically said my daughter is always on the go, they do activities in the room & she’ll do it & shortly after she’ll wonder off & do her own thing & even when she plays with toys, it isn’t for long until she wonders off. Also mentioned sometimes refuses sleep but eventually she does fall asleep.
I did say she behaves the same way at home & if she was trying to tell me my kid has ADHD altho it’s early to be diagnosed such thing until they’re two & she said no, she can be just a busy baby & I said so what’s the point of this conversation🙂
You tell her to put toys away & she will do it, tell her to get something & she’ll get it, call her name & she’ll look at you, ask for a kiss & cuddle & she’ll occasionally do it haha depends how she feels.
Also mentioned my daughter has this “obsession” with one of the staff that she’s always under her feet or cries when the lady leaves the room etc & I said she does the same thing with me, probably her safespace person but I know my daughter can be dramatic with her crying.
She also has a bad habit of getting things that isn’t hers for example phones, remotes, at nursery it’s the radio, thermometer which is something that was mentioned to me today, my response, she’s just a curious baby in comparison to the other babies in the room. For your information, there was at least another two babies in her room who are 18 months which I assume isn’t like her
What’s everyone’s thoughts?
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Am I too hasty?
I’m 6 weeks in. Bf is excited about pregnancy. He’s inbetween jobs, we live with his parents & he helps them out here and there. I met his friends a while ago and they enable each other’s drinking. His best friend’s wife is cool. But sometimes she calls my boyfriend (without his best friend on the line too) and I don’t know how to feel about that either. I understand that it’s hard for some men to not be the provider in the relationship. But it’s to a point where we don’t get intimate with each other. We argue over little things and some days I wonder if I should just get my own place. I’m concerned about his drinking and anytime I bring up that or his BF in away that could be negative he blows up at me. Am I being hasty?
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Sick of my partner
I am currently 4 months postpartum with my second child. Sunday evening my partner said he was going to see his brother and left the house our 5 year old wanted to talk to him before bed so I called this man and he didnt pick up. I then called his brother who said he was at work so I should call one of his house mates as he might be there so I called the house mate who said he wasn't there called everyone I know he chills with and they all had no idea where he was so I used find my phone on Google to see his location. He later calls and says he's waiting at his brother's work place which is a lie because his location is completely different which I pointed out that why is his location saying box park and he blows up saying I'm fucking with his phone and how I'm controlling and how he doesn't want to chill with me anymore because of the way I'm acting mind you the only person who goes out and does whatever they want in this house is him. I am always with the kids never have time for myself. This man has not been home for 5 days now and has had 0 contact with me no communication at all our son keeps asking for him and I keep saying daddy is at work because he's not picking up his phone. It's soo emotionally draining dealing with him and I'm soo sick of it. I later found out from our friend that he feels like he is under surveillance and he can't do anything around me. Don't know what to do but I really don't want to be dealing with this. He knows he's the only support system I have because my mum is not in the and my nan is dead. What d do I do
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I feel so worthless
My husband tells me all the time how he’s unhappy with me, he wishes he didn’t have to take care of us, he threatens that he’s not going to keep buying our food, and he wants me to start saving up for my own place.
It just hurts so bad. I’m 19 weeks and 5 days pregnant.
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Primary school
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Weaning
My girl is 7 months old
I’m really struggling with weaning.
I’m a second time mum but my son was weaned years ago so i don’t remember much. However, my son now has eating issues so it’s been a very stressful time for me. I’m worried about the same happening with my daughter.
Can someone help me with meal ideas, what your day of weaning looks like please. I’m quite embarrassed to admit how much I’ve struggled with this as a second time mum 🥹😣
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