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The entire time I was pregnant and before I even got pregnant me and my fiancé always talked about having multiple kids together, I trusted how he would be as a dad because I've seen him with his son he has partial custody of and he is amazing with him. Now that I'm 6 weeks in to raising our son I don't think I ever want to do this again. He doesn't help with night feedings or get up with him in the morning, he has taken 2 nights with him and made me feel terrible about it, he's told me I'm disappointing him because he thought I would do better, in the past three days I think he's held him for an hour all together. I feel like I'm doing this all alone which is something I told him the entire time I was pregnant I did not want and he assured me he was excited and ready to do this. I love him and he's still a great partner in other ways and I stay home and he works a very difficult, dangerous job. I also think once our son is older he will probably want to do more with him and I know he will be a great dad I just feel completely unsupported now and I never want to go through this alone again so I don't want to have more kids with him now. Am I being overdramatic and emotional because of sleep deprivation and post partum emotions or has he really dropped the ball? Sometimes I feel so angry at him, sometimes I just want to cry, and sometimes I'm convinced it's all my fault for expecting to much. talking about it doesn't seem to help, I feel less overwhelmed with the baby at this point but I still feel so alone in this. I've stopped asking him for any help at all at this point and just started not expecting anything and letting him do what he wants.

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It seems like he lied about how involved he was going to be, and how supported you'd be. Words are easy, actions are the proof, i learned to believe what they do not what they say. Him saying, that you are disappointing him because he thought you'd do better, is gaslighting and super manipulative, when he is the one who is disappointing you and you thought he'd be doing better. It's like crazy talk.

My honest opinion, you deserve better, and if he is only holding his baby for 1 hour in 3 days, that's heartbreaking to me. Making you feel like you won't ask for help because he won't anyways, and like there's something wrong with you emotionally, is completely messed up. Paying rent and working, are things he have to do even if you weren't around (what's he going to be homeless, and not support his other kid) so i wouldn't give him credit for any of it. Id focus on the negative things that are weighing on your mental health, because those are real and valid. Sorry you're feeling like this 🙏🏽

You are not being over dramatic. What you expect is completely normal expectations of your partner.

In actuality, he’s not just not doing his share of parental duties, he’s also being cruel and mean. Cuz a loving, supportive partner would never make you feel like a terrible mom cuz you asked for support from the child’s other parent. And saying he’s disappointed in you, when he’s not pulling his weight is also cruel and emotionally abusive. I also want to reassure you that none of what you described is your fault and I’m concerned that you think it is. How do you think this is your fault? How old is his other child?

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Nursery asked for a meeting

Hi ladies,
Advice or thoughts.
My daughter has currently turnt 16 months & nursery deputy manager asked for a chat before picking her up.
Basically said my daughter is always on the go, they do activities in the room & she’ll do it & shortly after she’ll wonder off & do her own thing & even when she plays with toys, it isn’t for long until she wonders off. Also mentioned sometimes refuses sleep but eventually she does fall asleep.
I did say she behaves the same way at home & if she was trying to tell me my kid has ADHD altho it’s early to be diagnosed such thing until they’re two & she said no, she can be just a busy baby & I said so what’s the point of this conversation🙂
You tell her to put toys away & she will do it, tell her to get something & she’ll get it, call her name & she’ll look at you, ask for a kiss & cuddle & she’ll occasionally do it haha depends how she feels.
Also mentioned my daughter has this “obsession” with one of the staff that she’s always under her feet or cries when the lady leaves the room etc & I said she does the same thing with me, probably her safespace person but I know my daughter can be dramatic with her crying.
She also has a bad habit of getting things that isn’t hers for example phones, remotes, at nursery it’s the radio, thermometer which is something that was mentioned to me today, my response, she’s just a curious baby in comparison to the other babies in the room. For your information, there was at least another two babies in her room who are 18 months which I assume isn’t like her

What’s everyone’s thoughts?

Am I too hasty?

I’m 6 weeks in. Bf is excited about pregnancy. He’s inbetween jobs, we live with his parents & he helps them out here and there. I met his friends a while ago and they enable each other’s drinking. His best friend’s wife is cool. But sometimes she calls my boyfriend (without his best friend on the line too) and I don’t know how to feel about that either. I understand that it’s hard for some men to not be the provider in the relationship. But it’s to a point where we don’t get intimate with each other. We argue over little things and some days I wonder if I should just get my own place. I’m concerned about his drinking and anytime I bring up that or his BF in away that could be negative he blows up at me. Am I being hasty?

Sick of my partner

I am currently 4 months postpartum with my second child. Sunday evening my partner said he was going to see his brother and left the house our 5 year old wanted to talk to him before bed so I called this man and he didnt pick up. I then called his brother who said he was at work so I should call one of his house mates as he might be there so I called the house mate who said he wasn't there called everyone I know he chills with and they all had no idea where he was so I used find my phone on Google to see his location. He later calls and says he's waiting at his brother's work place which is a lie because his location is completely different which I pointed out that why is his location saying box park and he blows up saying I'm fucking with his phone and how I'm controlling and how he doesn't want to chill with me anymore because of the way I'm acting mind you the only person who goes out and does whatever they want in this house is him. I am always with the kids never have time for myself. This man has not been home for 5 days now and has had 0 contact with me no communication at all our son keeps asking for him and I keep saying daddy is at work because he's not picking up his phone. It's soo emotionally draining dealing with him and I'm soo sick of it. I later found out from our friend that he feels like he is under surveillance and he can't do anything around me. Don't know what to do but I really don't want to be dealing with this. He knows he's the only support system I have because my mum is not in the and my nan is dead. What d do I do

I feel so worthless

My husband tells me all the time how he’s unhappy with me, he wishes he didn’t have to take care of us, he threatens that he’s not going to keep buying our food, and he wants me to start saving up for my own place.

It just hurts so bad. I’m 19 weeks and 5 days pregnant.

Primary school

When should we be applying for Reception 2027 start? and how do we do it, i was told we get something in the post in january is this right or do we message the schools we want to first to ask for places

Weaning

My girl is 7 months old
I’m really struggling with weaning.
I’m a second time mum but my son was weaned years ago so i don’t remember much. However, my son now has eating issues so it’s been a very stressful time for me. I’m worried about the same happening with my daughter.
Can someone help me with meal ideas, what your day of weaning looks like please. I’m quite embarrassed to admit how much I’ve struggled with this as a second time mum 🥹😣