Before anyone judges, let me put it straight that I do absolutely love being a Mum but recently i’ve found i’ve been losing myself and becoming more and more agitated with little things, I never get a break from being a Mum and sometimes find myself missing the person I was before having a child, I feel awful that i’m feeling like this as I don’t want my Daughter picking up on my moods, I try so hard to make her happy and give her the best but sometimes it feels like i’m not doing enough, i’m juggling everything all at once (trying to get back into work after 3 years and having no luck) (doing course work that has tight deadlines) (trying to make sure I get her out and playing) (making sure she’s eating nutritional meals everyday) (trying to be the perfect person for everyone) it’s becoming a draining and depressing feeling.
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I had this, finding myself getting angry over small stupid things then feeling guilty, Drs said the worry of getting it right and trying to do everything can cause anxiety, I didn’t think anxiety was like that, they prescribed me Sertraline 50mg and after about three weeks taking it I did start to feel me again, and the little things didn’t bother me just laughed at it, I was sleeping better, clear head to get tasks done one at home instead procrastinating

I did get put on 50mg of sertraline too back in 2023 after I had her, I was on them for 2 years but I had to come off as they were just making me completely emotionless to the point it felt like I was dissociating with the whole world it wasn’t a nice normal feeling, it took me a lot to come off of them and as much as they did work I couldn’t go back to feeling like that again. I don’t really want to rely on tablets, I think I just need more support tbh x

There is a lot of pressure on mums, there is just so much to do and keep afloat, we are all super heroes. It's no wonder we struggle tbh. I frequently get more frustrated and angry with things and little patience but I try my hardest to not show that in front of my baby but it's hard! You are definitely doing enough, we just never feel we are. Hoping you have family to help, they really are important

Ahh sorry you feel that way & no-one is judging you on your feelings. I’m sure everyone feels the same way. Being a mum is hard work & doing things everyday & not having a minute to yourself does get to you. But for sure, as you said, needing more support instead of relying on tablets.
Is she in nursery or?? 😊
When did yours start to stop?
I’m 7 months pp and it started around 4 months pp but it’s making me feel so sh*t with the amount I’ve lost.
I take vitamins and eat well and I just want it to stop 🥲
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Before anyone judges, let me put it straight that I do absolutely love being a Mum but recently i’ve found i’ve been losing myself and becoming more and more agitated with little things, I never get a break from being a Mum and sometimes find myself missing the person I was before having a child, I feel awful that i’m feeling like this as I don’t want my Daughter picking up on my moods, I try so hard to make her happy and give her the best but sometimes it feels like i’m not doing enough, i’m juggling everything all at once (trying to get back into work after 3 years and having no luck) (doing course work that has tight deadlines) (trying to make sure I get her out and playing) (making sure she’s eating nutritional meals everyday) (trying to be the perfect person for everyone) it’s becoming a draining and depressing feeling.

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My 8 week old cries for every car journey. Last week we went away on a 3 hour journey and thought we had turned a corner because she fell asleep calmly and we managed the journey with only two stops. On the way back was a different story, we had to stop 3 times in the first half hour and she cried solidly for the final 40 minutes because there wasn’t a services we could stop at. Since then she has cried for every car journey, almost the entire journey. It’s stressful when I can’t pick her up or physically comfort her and it’s putting me off going anywhere in the car. Anyone had this and found a solution?

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I don’t know about other babies but feel like mine has mini tantrums of throwing their body back or giving them something and then they’ll throw it. I thought all this was to begin at ‘terrible twos/three’s’. Even when I say ‘no’ to doing something they just continue and ignore me.
Do other mums have these bad days?
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1. How many naps per day?
2. How long is each nap?
3. How long between each nap? (Wake windows)
4. How many hours before bed? (Last wake window specifically)
Thank you in advance 💟
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You can’t even ask a genuine question seeking advice or maybe just to realize something new because someone just has to be negative. We’re supposed to be supportive of each other but instead there certain women being competitive and taking their pain out on others and I’m honestly sick of seeing it and dealing with it. Some people don’t have a village some people can’t leave there house for medical or other personal reasons. We don’t need some know it all bitch to tell anyone that they’re blaming their problems on others when you don’t even know them. I just hope you have to run into someone exactly like you and they give you the compassion and grace you shower others( which is none) but the acting authoritative and talking down to people has got to stop and you know exactly who you are. Dumb comments will be deleted
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