What a shitty birthday

So on my birthday my husband had a mental break and went to hospital, he wouldnt let me go with him, his friend overstepped alot during this time and went with him insisting he knew him better than me, i was 32 weeks pregnant, after 2 days if him doing this, panicking and going to the hospital mental health ward i had the most awful sleep if i slept and i was so run down and crying worrying i was going to have this baby alone, so on the 3rd day he goes to the hospital and i insist on going with him, i take him in i go get a check up for my anxiety make sure babies okay, i take him home and then something my gut just plummets and i ask him " did you have sex with someone else" he starts shaking and crying and just nods his head, i am enraged, destraught and i feel awful but i just wanted the baby out of me, i feel bad that my first instinct was just to take the baby out because i cant cope with this and that right now, he asked me not to tell anyone i told him he had no right to ask that and hed be lucky for me not to tell our families,

We are still currently working through this because i just feel like he was my person, but i just can not bring myself to be intimate at all, I am also 5 months post partum and had a Episiotomy and assisted birth so I am still tender, so at this point I cant separate the hurt feelings from what I have heard is just regular birth recovery and im wondering if I will ever want to want again.

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If he was “your person” he would’ve never cheated- the thought or temptation would’ve never happened. Him cheating was a CHOICE. You probably can’t get over it because deep down you know you don’t deserve it and won’t stand for it. I’m sorry you’re going through this mama but you deserve to find your actual person 💟

You won't get over it and IF you do then you're going to deal with trust and jealousy issues.. been in your shoes!

He has mental issues and slept with someone else girl please live yourself and go

You deserve better

Very aware I deserve much better, and this is all advice i would have given a friend if it happened to them, but i would have to sell my house and we have 2 dogs and the baby, and I guess thats what annoys me though i feel like he waited till I was so pregnant I couldn't do much about it, its so much more difficult with how entangled our lives are now

Obvs i can/could still up and leave but its just much harder now

Rent out the house to tenants believe in yourself it will only get harder you are pregnant that’s not okay mama

But obviously you know what’s best for you none of us have to live in the situation but just know we don’t like him!

He’ll always make excuses I’m so sorry but you deserve more and the trust esp during such a vulnerable time for you will likely never be the same

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