Is this ptsd?
I don’t know what’s going on… but deep down I feel like I do?
My husband 99% of the time picks the shows on tv. It gets me enraged (not at him) but all the shows that have people cheating or drug use.. It disgusts me, and I don’t want my husband watching it. I know this is crazy so I’ve totally kept it to myself, but I have to literally walk out of the room every time a scene comes on when someone is cheating on someone or doing drugs. It gets me so angry it can literally ruin my mood.
The only thing I can think is my husband relapsed and went on a 3 day bender a couple months ago (he’s been sober since) and when he came home and I took his phone it was filled with porn. I never cared about porn before though? Is this like a PTSD thing I have going on?
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Why does he always pick what to watch? Have you talked to him about how you feel?
I will say if he is an addict and has only been a couple months sober, I completely understand why you wouldn’t want him to watch drug scenes. But why are you concerned about him watching cheating scenes? Has he cheated before or was it just porn?
It could be, but regardless you are def triggered by what happened. Have you guys talked about it and how it affected you?
Definitely talk to your doctor or try organise some counciling for yourself as it is triggering you like ptsd to help you work through it easier it can make a difference. You also need to talk to your husband about how this and how it makes you feel and how yous can work through it better. I also get stresses about certain shows that my partner really likes to watch. I dont like to hear it or see it so if he wants to watch a show together it can’t be if a specific category because it just causes me stress and its not even regarding something I’ve experienced. If he really wants to watch i say u can watch it alone and so we do agree on something together eventually but in general i dont watch tv much we would organise a movie night, the rest of the time he watches whatever he wants on his pc whenever he likes with a headset which works fine for me.
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Is this ptsd?
I don’t know what’s going on… but deep down I feel like I do?
My husband 99% of the time picks the shows on tv. It gets me enraged (not at him) but all the shows that have people cheating or drug use.. It disgusts me, and I don’t want my husband watching it. I know this is crazy so I’ve totally kept it to myself, but I have to literally walk out of the room every time a scene comes on when someone is cheating on someone or doing drugs. It gets me so angry it can literally ruin my mood.
The only thing I can think is my husband relapsed and went on a 3 day bender a couple months ago (he’s been sober since) and when he came home and I took his phone it was filled with porn. I never cared about porn before though? Is this like a PTSD thing I have going on?
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What do you let your child watch on TV?
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Seems like most things these days, even nursery rhymes havr a hidden agenda.
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