Detachment
So this morning my hormones just went bad really bad and I started “arguing” with my husband and just let my mouth run free. What he understood from that is that he should start neglecting himself and even disconnected his entire pc and brought it in the storage room although that’s his only way of winding down from stress. And he then started doing all these unnecessary stuff around the house that I didn’t even ask him to do. He barely lets me take care of our daughter and now I feel even more worthless and like the villain. And when I tried to make him understand that he misinterpreted what I said this morning he refused to listen.
Idk what to do anymore it’s only day 9 and it feels like the marriage is falling apart.
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Feet on dirt when you wake up
Sun for 5 mins minimum first 2 hours of morning and last 2 hours of sunshine before night
COD liver oil or olive oil or avocado pure omega 3s first thing in your belly
This is hormone care I teach Rich ppl having babies lol
I didn’t have any help if you have the time to take for yourself do these little things they make a major difference
Good husband. After give birth I put husband’s PlayStation to garage . For me was annoying that he sitting in living room and playing while I took care of baby.
There is something very manipulative and performative about his response. Where is his compassion and empathy? This is the time when he is most needed as a husband and for the next three months he should be getting whatever support he needs, to then focus on you. I think he heard you just fine. He is pissed off at being asked to step up.
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I know I shouldn't be, but I am so so nervous to start full on solid foods for my 7 month old, we've been doing purees and mashed foods with texture, but doing baby lead weening and letting him just go at it makes me so nervous, I know his body is built to avoid choking and I know the difference between choking and gagging but I still can't push it down. I've talked to his pediatrician and they say to just follow his lead so I have been, but if anyone has any advice on what they started with as more full solid (obviously soft/easily mashed) foods, I'd love to hear it. Please no judgement or passive aggressive comments. I'm beating myself up enough, just genuine supportive advice please 🥺🙏🏾 thank you
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How many times a day are you feeding your little one solids/purees?
Social media has me thinking it should be 3 meals a day, I’ve even seen clips of babies eating steak and all sorts. I don’t know where I’d find the time! Also, I’m giving my baby mash but the finger foods still make me nervous!
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Wwyd?
I have drafted up a message to send to his uncle because this isnt the first and it isnt the last time for sure I know it will happen,
Basically he just comes by WITHOUT any notice, no text, no call and asks where my partner is even if we are having a family day out or just relaxing as i have started to work full time again.
Basically he came round today,I thought oh its a parcel as its almost my sons bday, no its was his uncle,I got no text,no call
As soon as i answered the door he asks ' oh is roma in?' No hello to me just that I said hes resting from a night shift could you come by later? He said it'll only be five minutes its been longer than that
My partner has never said cant not today he gets me to say he cant when its his uncle im just annoyed as it just keeps happening.
What do I do?
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Detachment
So this morning my hormones just went bad really bad and I started “arguing” with my husband and just let my mouth run free. What he understood from that is that he should start neglecting himself and even disconnected his entire pc and brought it in the storage room although that’s his only way of winding down from stress. And he then started doing all these unnecessary stuff around the house that I didn’t even ask him to do. He barely lets me take care of our daughter and now I feel even more worthless and like the villain. And when I tried to make him understand that he misinterpreted what I said this morning he refused to listen.
Idk what to do anymore it’s only day 9 and it feels like the marriage is falling apart.
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I just wish people stop asking me if I am working
Like when I met other mums at my child’s (17 month old) nursery and one of the first questions they asked me were ‘Are you working? FT or PT? Are you living in flats or house?
I don’t have family nearby to help with childcare. Am I not allowed to use a nursery because I don’t have a job? I actually desperately want to go back to full time work and hate being SAHM. I have been using this time to work and submit job applications but no luck yet. We’re not eligible for UC btw, child’s dad work long stressful hours, the nursery fees were paid directly out from his salary and we are still dealing with lots of nursery illnesses.
17 month old is a difficult age to handle with all the tantrums, screaming and poor sleep. Sending him to nursery is the only thing that helped me and better for his development. I just wish other mums could stop asking this question about my career or living condition. It’s like doing background checks on me and made me feel guilty for using nursery. I feel like I need to lie so my child is worthy enough to use a nursery for early education and socialisation.
There was one time I saw a post somewhere saying ‘If you send your child to a nursery and not working, you are not sahm, you are a stay at home NOTHING’. I have to post this anonymously.
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Giving baby “normal food”
Now my baby is nearly 15 months is it okay to give them more normal food eg with some salt or sugar like for example tortilla wraps or pitta bread. Or going out and buying a cheese toastie. Before 1 I was so careful not to give much “outside or packaged” food but now being back at work it’s impossible. Looking for any advice if it’s okay
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