Bed Bugs 🤮

My FIL keep bringing bed bugs into my home. Having them has been a huge fear of mine since I was a child. I feel so disgusting. Im too paranoid to sleep knowing they will crawl on me. Im already sleep deprived waking up with baby. Im already overwhelmed with laundry but now im washing every sheet and blanket constantly I cant stop. I cant stop cleaning even though i know that doesnt change their presence. The exterminator didnt find a single one or any signs of them but I have bites so we know there are a few of them hanging out. I pray they will never come back. Im furious that he keeps bringing them into my home. Idk how to move forward besides not allowing him over ever. Im so damn frustrated and tired is an understatement. Ive already had a few meltdowns so I need to vent. YUCK 🤮

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Solids ☹️

I know I shouldn't be, but I am so so nervous to start full on solid foods for my 7 month old, we've been doing purees and mashed foods with texture, but doing baby lead weening and letting him just go at it makes me so nervous, I know his body is built to avoid choking and I know the difference between choking and gagging but I still can't push it down. I've talked to his pediatrician and they say to just follow his lead so I have been, but if anyone has any advice on what they started with as more full solid (obviously soft/easily mashed) foods, I'd love to hear it. Please no judgement or passive aggressive comments. I'm beating myself up enough, just genuine supportive advice please 🥺🙏🏾 thank you

Detachment

So this morning my hormones just went bad really bad and I started “arguing” with my husband and just let my mouth run free. What he understood from that is that he should start neglecting himself and even disconnected his entire pc and brought it in the storage room although that’s his only way of winding down from stress. And he then started doing all these unnecessary stuff around the house that I didn’t even ask him to do. He barely lets me take care of our daughter and now I feel even more worthless and like the villain. And when I tried to make him understand that he misinterpreted what I said this morning he refused to listen.

Idk what to do anymore it’s only day 9 and it feels like the marriage is falling apart.

Wwyd?

I have drafted up a message to send to his uncle because this isnt the first and it isnt the last time for sure I know it will happen,
Basically he just comes by WITHOUT any notice, no text, no call and asks where my partner is even if we are having a family day out or just relaxing as i have started to work full time again.
Basically he came round today,I thought oh its a parcel as its almost my sons bday, no its was his uncle,I got no text,no call
As soon as i answered the door he asks ' oh is roma in?' No hello to me just that I said hes resting from a night shift could you come by later? He said it'll only be five minutes its been longer than that
My partner has never said cant not today he gets me to say he cant when its his uncle im just annoyed as it just keeps happening.
What do I do?

I just wish people stop asking me if I am working

Like when I met other mums at my child’s (17 month old) nursery and one of the first questions they asked me were ‘Are you working? FT or PT? Are you living in flats or house?

I don’t have family nearby to help with childcare. Am I not allowed to use a nursery because I don’t have a job? I actually desperately want to go back to full time work and hate being SAHM. I have been using this time to work and submit job applications but no luck yet. We’re not eligible for UC btw, child’s dad work long stressful hours, the nursery fees were paid directly out from his salary and we are still dealing with lots of nursery illnesses.

17 month old is a difficult age to handle with all the tantrums, screaming and poor sleep. Sending him to nursery is the only thing that helped me and better for his development. I just wish other mums could stop asking this question about my career or living condition. It’s like doing background checks on me and made me feel guilty for using nursery. I feel like I need to lie so my child is worthy enough to use a nursery for early education and socialisation.

There was one time I saw a post somewhere saying ‘If you send your child to a nursery and not working, you are not sahm, you are a stay at home NOTHING’. I have to post this anonymously.

Potty training tips

Can I get some tips to start potty training please. My little girl actively tells me when she’s weeing/pooing in her nappy.
Do you still leave them in nappies or do you put them in underwear from the get go? She loves sitting on her potty but hasn’t grasped to do anything on there, soon as she comes off the potty she will wee instead.
Really want to get things started so any tips would be greatttt

Purees or store bought pouches?

Hi, I’m a full time stahm and was wondering if everyone’s cooking from scratch or giving their babies store bought food ? because I feel so much shame around it and I know the nhs says not to rely on them because the way they’re processed kills the nutrition so I’m worried they won’t get much 😩 and most days I don’t know what to cook and it can get very overwhelming and I never wanted to give my baby pouches but l feel awful especially because I’m home all the time and there shouldn’t be any excuses😩