Co-Sleepers VS Crib Sleepers

I got a crib lol it’s a nice place for blankets and my husband and I call the pac n play baby jail😂 just follow the safe sleep 7 and do your research we are 7 months in and still breast sleeping

Super late comment but I’m trying to decide what is best for me right now and it seems like my newborn will only sleep in the crib for like an hour at a time then is up for 2 hours cause it takes so long to soothe him to go back in the crib. I have a dock a tot and was thinking of using that to co sleep but do most people just put him right in the bed next to you? Just afraid my blanket will end up in his face or something. Also, if they’re in bed with you do you get out of bed to do a diaper change? My baby soils his diaper literally every time I breastfeed. I’m desperate to figure out what the best way to co sleep is cause I’m literally up ALL night right now!

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Please don’t suggest the dock a toy it is a suffocation hazard and only meant for supervised sleep

I’m a first time mom and I had to have an emergency c-section. So after the first day of having the IV’s out, my son slept with me. I did not want him away from me(I was that first time mom, doesn’t want anyone near there baby) it wasn’t until he has over a month old that I was told I had to put him in his crib. I was so hard because I was use to the co-sleeping but little did I know that my son would sleep better in his own bed. It’s harder on mama than it is baby to stop the co-sleeping

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How long did it take you to get your baby to sleep on their own

After I finally gave in and put him in his own crib was super hard because he would cry and cry and cry. The advice I was given was a miracle but at the time I thought that I was being a bad mom doing it but I finally realized that I just have to let him cry he would learn to comfort himself (just let him cry if you have to turn the baby monitor off for 5-10 minutes to help you cope a little. Also I know its frowned upon by the pediatricians but if your baby can roll over and has good head control, i did two or three stuffed animals and a baby blanket, just do what you feel comfortable with doing, but by doing that it also helps with comforting themselves because they have something to do and they aren't "alone" that they have something friendly. Make sure the eyes aren't hard so they cant come off and choke the baby. After he learned to comfort himself I then began to put a little rice in his bottle at night to thicken it up a tiny bit, couldn't breast feed I barely had anything from the start. And pretty

I bought a rocker for my baby. She loves how it hugs her and the motion keeps her asleep for the longest. I would also recommend co sleeping. My baby is two months old and sleeps best in the bed with me cradling her but be sure to prop your arm up with a pillow and only try if you are a light sleeper

With my son I got a crib- he hated it and we coslept. He’s had sleep issues since and comes in our room at night. With Our daughter I put her in her crib when she outgrew the bassinet and she sleeps in her own room in her crib all night long. All I do is lay her down and tell her to lay down and go to sleep and she does. She’s also 15 months now. But always been a great sleeper. She hasn’t depended on me to sleep her entire life. It’s amazing :)

Our son sleeps in the bed with my husband and I. He has since day one. We have a crib but won’t use it until he is older. (We use it for naps). I thoroughly love having him in our bed because it makes nursing a breeze and I get to sleep. Lol Do what you feel comfortable with. My husband and I aren’t big drinkers and we don’t take medications and are light sleepers so it works for us. I know if we were ever feeling like we were “Drunk” we would put our son in his crib to be safe. It’s all about what will be doable and safe for you and baby. ☺️

We use a cosleeper crib called Babybay. It's a half-moon-shaped crib that connects with the mattress flush with our mattress. It was kind of expensive, but I love it. It's the best of both bed-sharing & having a separate crib. Baby's separate & safe, but right up against our bed so I can reach her & she can see me at all times.

I was bedsharing with all of my children.I also personally thought it was so cruel to put a little baby in a crib in a room by themselves. Biologically speaking babies and young children are SUPPOSED to sleep with their mothers. Human babies should not ever be sleeping alone. It most western sciences try to scare parents from bed sharing. In japan where bed sharing is the cultural norm, they have the lowest rates of SIDS in the entire world. It allows more breastfeeding which in turn allows more antibodies for babies and also more much needed sleep for mom and baby. Infants require this contact and proximity especially because of nutritional needs (breastfeeding) but also because of the immaturity of their thermo-regulatory, immune, and cardio-respiratory systems, in addition to their dependence on touch, all systems closely tied together to promote efficient functioning of all of the infant’s immature organs and the central nervous system in general. Don’t let people scare you away from bedsharing.

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Had a bassinet for the first few months in our room then went to the crib. I was very paranoid about sids and tried my best to follow the recommendations put in place by Canadian paediatrics (alone, on their back, in an approved sleep space that is flat and free of any loose bedding, etc.). Even so, there are nights I was desperate to get my baby to sleep and we co-slept, so I recommend looking up safe co-sleeping regardless of your choice because it will most likely happen occasionally whether or not you plan it. But a baby in their own crib in their own room will wake less frequently than a baby in your bed who can smell your yummy milk. So with my second I plan to move him to his own room sooner than I did with my daughter. We had a lot of sleep issues and I believe having her so close contributed since I was picking her up before she cried to avoid waking my husband (probably unnecessary since he sleeps like a log but as a first time mom I didn’t know any better). Good luck whatever you do, and be safe!

I have my crib but my daughter sleeps in the bed with my husband and I. The first month or so she slept on my husbands chest on in her bassinet. & then somehow ended up in our bed. That’s where she sleeps most nights. Whenever I really just want to cuddle with my husband, we put her in the crib. But other than that. My baby sleeps in my bed!

I bought the crib first too. Then I found out he hated the huge space for him being so little. Plus I couldn’t see him and I wanted him close to me, so i bought an arm’s reach type of bassinet. Love it! But he still didn’t like it, with the startle reflex he’d wake himself up as soon as I’d lay him down. So we had the swaddler too. With the swaddler he’d also put himself to sleep with no issue!Worked perfect with the white noise until he was 2mo and started to break out from the swaddler. Só took the swaddler off and by 4mo he was too heavy for the bassinet and now he is sleeping on a sleep sack on his room on his crib :)

I bought a arms reach bassinet. It’s like a co-sleeper almost, as I can bring the guard down and be pretty much with him on the same level. It’s very handy for breastfeeding!!! I bought a regular bassinet before and I do not recommend, it was higher than the bed so I had to be getting up lol yeah I got spoiled after the arms reach! Plus the regular bassinet would only hold up to 15lbs and the arms reach stayed with me until my baby was 18lbs. I didn’t want him in our room at first, thought it’d be hard to bring him to his room but the truth is, I couldn’t sleep without him. Now I’m transitioning to his room and the one suffering is me! Hahahah

My partner and I are using a bassinet for our son. It’s helpful since he is starting to wake every 5 hours. He’s turning 3 months on Sunday. He does have naps in his crib to get him familiar with it. For the most part he sleeps pretty well.

We co-slept until he was about 6 months old and not waking up so frequently to nurse. He had no problem with the transition. Went to sleep just fine every night and wakes up around 7 in the morning and gets in bed with me and we fall back asleep.

My boyfriend and I have a docatot co-sleeper in the bed with us. My babe is 3 months old and is still waking up every 2 hours to eat, so having her right next to me in the bed is so easy for night time feeds. The docatot gives me piece of mind that She wont pull the blanket over her face or roll off the bed at night and it gives my boyfriend and I a chance to cuddle and her sleep

Generally we try to keep our daughter in her crib (right next to my side of the bed), but she has night terrors and has had them since 4-6 months old. They’ve become more frequent and a lot more intense so if she has a bad night, which is most nights, I put her in bed with me. I love having her close and it helps to soothe and calm her faster when she starts screaming in her sleep. I don’t believe in the cry it out method or any of the other sleep training suggestions that pediatricians or family members gave us, the screaming and crying is different than her normal tantrums like you can tell she’s actually terrified so this just works better for us. Nap time is either on my chest or in her pack n play, she doesn’t sleep long enough to have terrors during naps, but I just enjoy the closeness and I know it won’t be long before she won’t want to sleep on my chest anymore so I’m trying to take advantage of it now. 🙂

We used a cosleeper in the middle of the bed. My husband and I preferred it and will do it with our next. I didn't think my husband would end up liking it, but we both missed our daughter once she moved out of the bed (3 months) and then out of our room (6 months). We still stalk her on the video monitor (18 months). We moved her at the times we did due to her being a light sleeper. She was in the pack n play in our room after our bed. I think being in the cosleeper instead of actually in the bed or up next to us (this only happened a few rough nights) taught her to sleep on her own but still feel us near. I don't have a picture handy but we actually made a cheap version of a nest type sleeper. Pool noodle curved into a pillow case. I also folded a towel in the pillow case to add a little support.

I never thought I’d have my baby in the bed with me... till he was born. Lol. I usually put him in his bassinet and halfway through the night when he wakes up we’ll nurse and sleep in the bed for the next few hours. It works for us and I make sure it’s safe.

I've gotten a bassinet for my son and he slept fine but he would feed every 3 hours, plus I felt like I wasn't getting much sleep cause I was constantly checking on him. I found it easier for him to sleep with me so he can eat whenever while I'm catching up with z's.

We Co slept for the first month then my baby slept in her bed in our room next to me. At 4 months she transitioned to her crib in her room. Very rarely does she have a rough night and end up in my bed.

My daughter slept well in the crib at the hospital then hated it once we got home. She only wanted to be in her bouncer and then we bought a rocker and she would only sleep in that. But at about 1.5 months we decided to transition her to the pack n play set to the crib/ bassinet setting in our bedroom. She has slept in that since and will be 3 months this Thursday. She sleeps all night in it. I have not once co slept with her in my bed but she is left than 2 feet from me and can see me if she wakes up.

I have a 7 month old who sleeps with me. We are trying to transition to a pack and play and then a crib. However it’s not going as planned. I love cosleeping I truly do but after so many months their little feet kick you and they want to start playing with your face. It’s all preference and how you feel! Best of luck!!

We co-sleep in a king bed with our 4 and 2 year old and baby #3 will be in a co-sleeper in bed with us too in a few weeks ❤️

Figuring out sleep in that first year was really hard. But, you’ll find whatever works best for you! Baby will definitely let you know. Never ever thought we would co-sleep but our baby HATED her crib and we were desperate for sleep. We also tried gentle sleep training and it was barely successful for about a week. So it ended up being what was best for us. We researched safe co-sleeping and Baby has been sleeping 10+ hours straight through for 6 months. Can’t complain about that!

We are co sleepers however i do believe it depends on the baby

We did both. Co sleep for 8 months and crib afterwards. Hes 16 months, still loves his crib and is an awesome sleeper (I never thought I’d say that... but yes it got better lol) First time mom here too. Didn’t think I’d co sleep it came naturally since I ended up with a c section and was breastfeeding. It was easier that way. Trust yourself, with time you will know/feel what’s good for you and baby :) congratulations!

I tried a bassinet and cot with my first ... she screamed all the time... I’d put her down calm and she’d immediately scream, I’d put her down swaddled and sleepy and tried anything and nothing worked... so it led to me co-sleeping! My son was an amazing sleeper and slept anywhere but I’d learnt with my first that breastfeeding and co-sleeping work well together so he did too... My third is like my first and won’t sleep anywhere but with me and I’ve tried... she also hates the car, the pram, the carrier etc

We decided to side car (co-sleeper) the crib, so he’s in his own space but I can also bring him close to feed he mostly ends up on the bed with me though but starts of in the crib part.

I'd be flexible and prepare for both options. Some babies sleep better snuggled up to mama, and some sleep better in their own space. With 5 children we've had every combination possible, and they're all great sleepers. Our youngest is 4mths. He starts out in the crib in our room, then comes into bed about 3am. Be flexible and do what works.

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This is so true.

This is so true.

As a new mom, I was convinced that I was going to put my newborn in the crib right out of the hospital... we ended up co-sleeping for almost 4 months and now he sleeps only in his crib (except sometimes in the morning...)

I got a side car w/my first but he hated it and i needed sleep so we co slept. My 2nd loves sleeping on her own in her side car crib. They basically like everything opposite so its whatever works for YOU x

I co sleep my little one rather sleep beside me then in his crib

I think it depends on the baby. When my daughter was born she would not sleep peacefully unless she’s was in our arms. The best option for us was a co-sleeper crib (we just took one side off of her crib since it lined up perfectly with our bed) that way she could fall asleep in our arms and we would attempt to scoot her in her own bed for safety reasons. She’s 20 months now and still won’t willingly sleep in her bed but I just can’t bear to use the cry it out method :(

Both. My babies started off in my bed because that was their natural place—latched. For moms who aren’t breastfeeding, a cradle or crib might make more sense, but both my babies wouldn’t sleep long apart from me in the beginning. I think they needed the closeness after being ripped from inside me. My first slept in his cradle just fine and almost slept through the night at 3 months, but my daughter wouldn’t sleep in the cradle longer than 3 hours until she was about 7 months. It was really tough having her in our bed that long. I don’t know how family-bed people get any sleep. Now both kids share a room (son is 2 years and daughter is 9 months) and sleep through the night in their cribs. We transitioned them from our bed to the crib gradually and respectfully.

My daughter (9 months) slept in a Bassinest by our bed until her bottom teeth came in at 7 months. She was up every 2-3 hours and would not got back to sleep until I nursed her. I decided to sleep train her. I nursed her then laid her in the crib; she cried for 10 minutes (which was heartbreaking) but then she slept until 8am. She now sleeps 8-10 hours a night! Every baby is different but, that is what worked for us. Best of luck with your little one!

She sometimes sleeps with us but most the time she sleeps in her crib. For the times she sleeps with us it’s crazy. Very little room. Haha, but I love bring her in her crib. My husband and I have the bed to ourselves and it feels nice. I would get a camera so you can watch her at night while she sleeps. I’m constantly checking on her. I also think sleeping on her own helps her a lot with self soothe herself back to sleep. There are times when she cry’s not even a minute and falls right back to sleep in her crib. So that’s awesome

I’m a firm believer of not rushing ur child out of the bed 🛏 he may not be ready I co sleep with two out of three of my children the two boys one still sleeps with my husband and I he’s 7 and my son Tyler who is 21 but he slept with us until he was almost 10 😄🤣my daughter was like get me the hell out of here 😂😂

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See I don’t want my boys being 10 years old sleeping with me lol.

I’m personally just too terrified of the worst case scenario, the amount of times midwives and health visitors talk about the ways it can go wrong eg overheating, smothering, falling out, being rolled on, I just couldn’t live with myself knowing I’d ignored that. Although Literally every person I’ve spoken to has recommended cosleeping but I just can’t. However, I have occasionally fallen asleep feeding her in bed in the morning when I’ve known my husband is awake to see and I’ve moved the duvet right off me. But that’s only as a last resort accident on the odd occasion I couldn’t settle her in the cot. Also my husband is even more worried about it than me and sometimes wakes me up on those times I fall asleep with her.

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Also her cot has always been in my bedroom.

I have a little one turning 6 months next week n all he wants to do is sleep with me at night instead of the crib.

We mix it. Sometimes she sleeps with me and daddy, sometimes in her crib right next to our bed. I prefer her sleeping in there except when we’re sleeping without daddy, it’s enough space without him so I can sleep comfortably as well.

We have a crib sleeper. For the first 4 months, our son slept in a rock n play for his naps but in his crib for the night. He was transitioned completely into his crib by 5 months.

My daughter is 15 months old. Day naps in her crib and for a few hours when I first lay her down in her crib at night. After a few hours of sleeping in her crib at night she wakes up and cries for me so I sleep the rest of the night with her. I love co sleeping, if you do decide on co sleeping enjoy it while you can because they won’t be little forever.

We bedshare and have him sleep in his crib each night. I would say it's about 50/50 on time in each spot. He starts in his crib and will wake up between 1 and 3 and then I bring him into bed with me because he goes back to sleep faster when next to me. It works for us!

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Addition: he slept in a bassinet the first 8 weeks and now a crib. Both were located right next to my side of the bed.

So I let me son sleep in a bassinet in our room for three months and put him in his crib. Our bed was too small to cosleep 😭😭😭

My daughter is 3 months old and I usually put her to sleep in the bed while I nurse her or cuddle her and then I put her in the crib before I go to bed. Her dad is a crazy sleeper so she would get squished if she stayed in bed all night

My son is 6 months and we co-sleep, it’s Dad-baby-me. He sleeps 100x better with us then in his crib, which is in our room. It just made more sense for us since I breastfeed him. His crib has turned into a giant laundry basket 🤣🤣

My son is 2 now. But from the moment I met him we were co-sleepers because I couldn’t be away from him. He did have a crib in his own room set up but I didn’t put him in it till he was 5-6months. But he slept in a playpin (pack and play) by the side of my bed or with me. This was best for me because I was a breastfeeding mom so it was easier when he wanted to be feed. You just gotta do what’s best for you.

My son is almost 3 years old and has been sleep trained in his own room since he was 4 months. Best thing I ever did, he’s such a sleepy head

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Where did he sleep before 4 months?

I had a great pack n play set that had different bassinet like adjustments. I had it in my room and he would sleep in it and I would get up and bring him with me to bed when he would wake up since I was exclusively breast feeding. By 4 months he would feed before going to bed and sleep through the night

In us they recommend co sleeping but in uk they don’t they say it’s to dangerous you could roll over your baby in there sleep or baby could fall of the bed I use Chicco next to me bed but I would never co sleep untill my baby is strong enough

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The AAP in the US recommends co sleeping (sleeping in the same room in a different bed), but condemns bed sharing. Most people here still do it anyways to some degree, though, haha 😂

We co slept exclusively for this first four months . Now that our baby is a little older and almost sleeps through the night , he’s starting to sleep in his crib

I’m both! Co-sleeping often when dad isn’t in bed with us, if he is then she’s in the crib! She does well for both to, she likes to cuddle but also doesn’t like anyone touching her! Some nights she co sleeps until her 3/4am feed then she’s in the crib for the rest of the night!