Postpartum depression or baby blues..

How does one know if you have either of these..!? Im 3 weeks postpartum (csection) and i literally can't stop crying.. i have no appetite.. i get mad so easily... like its not so bad that I don't feel like taking care of my son but me i honestly haven't showered in a few days and haven't gotten more then 2 hours of sleep at a time.. help!🙏🤞

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So sorry you’re feeling that way. The first few weeks are so hard and there is so much to adjust to, baby, lack of sleep, recovery, massive changes in hormones the list is endless. I think baby blues lasts a few days to a few weeks and anything over that it could be PPD. Here’s some helpful info

https://www.healthline.com/health/baby-blues

Definitely reach out to the professionals for help and talk things through. It will get better 😘 message if you need to talk xx

Talk to you doctor, definitely sound like ppd. I had a little bit of it, but it wasn't like that either I would cry jjst looking at my daughter, and feel worried about something happening to her etc. it passed but definitely call your dr

I am going through the exact same thing. My daughter is 12 days old and I had her via emergency C-section. About 1 week after having her I was hit with the baby blues and still really suffering now. I feel so anxious but can’t put me finger on what is making me feel this way or why I feel this way. I feel like I want to cry a lot and I have no appetite at all!!! Im not afraid to hold her or scared something bad is going to happen to her but I just feel really down! I am so not myself. My partner is amazing and the BEST dad so I have so much support too. Sleeping hasn’t been a problem- I am sleeping well. I’m hoping this is just hormonal but worrying that it’s postnatal depression and I’ll have to go on antidepressants to feel normal again. Can anyone relate to this and if so how long did it take to pass? Did you have to take medication to help?

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