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I want to tell my partner I’m pregnant on Christmas Eve but really struggling with keeping it to myself !

I found out I was pregnant on Friday. I’m 5 weeks tomorrow. I really wanted to tell him on Christmas Eve as I think it will be really special. But I keep getting anxiety and wanting to tell him, but I think I’ll wish I waited. What would you all do?

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I’d tell him I got you an early Christmas gift 🎁😍

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tell him 👏🏻

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I don’t want to be a downer or make you worry, I’d definitely tell him now, if something awful happened (touch wood it doesn’t) you would want his support and I think he would be disappointed you hadn’t told him before hand. I can’t say for sure but there’s also a chance he wouldn’t be as upset and understand the pain as much as he wouldn’t have had the same bond.

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I would tell him ASAP. I was thinking to wait a week with mine but ended up telling him the same day I took a test. Was the best thing I did cos I had so many symptoms and he was able to take care of me during that week

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Girl just tell him. Not everything has to be this “picture perfect” pre planned moment to be meaningful. The fact that you guys are having a baby is meaningful enough. Let him share in the joy and excitement

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Maybe wrap up the test and give to him as a early Christmas present. Good luck

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wait why would you wait to tell the father lol

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I’ve told him 🥰❤️

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I wanted a picture perfect moment too.. I found out the night before my husbands birthday so would’ve been perfect right to wait just a matter of hours.. nope couldn’t do it. I ran into his home office WHILST he was still working and told him 😂😂😂🙄. It’s still special however it’s done!

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That seems like a very long time to wait tell your partner

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Congrats, looks like you told him!
I was gonna say do it, personal experience story. I found out before Christmas last year that I was having number two and thought it would be cute on Christmas Eve to give him the baby jammies that match the ones we had one with a pic of the positive test. Long story short I got pissed at him and he didn’t understand why I reacted so big. I ended up throwing the test and jammies at him and then he understood why I reacted so big.

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I texted my husband while he was at work the morning I got my first very faint positive test. He was really excited too. But we had been tracking ovulation and trying so he knew it was coming.

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I’d say just tell him

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It’ll b a great surprise Xmas eve x

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I found out on Christmas Eve last year I was pregnant. I was so excited that I told him to come check the test even though I had already made a big plan to tell him in a special scavenger hunt🤦🏼‍♀️ I blew my own suprise

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I would just tell him right away

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Cute idea but I wonder if You might end up revealing it accidentally between now and then— puking or something. I waited until the evening the day I found out and kinda felt bad keeping it quiet that long. At 8 weeks now I can’t imagine not having told him— he makes me nice snacks and does extra things, and you would miss out on that special treatment ;)

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I’d just tell him. The second I saw the faint double line on the pregnancy test I SCREAMED for my husband and shoved it in his face🤣 and then made him go get me more tests

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You could make it a Christmas surprise for the rest of your family/families x

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