Sex during pregnancy

Whats all your thoughts on having sex while pregnant? I’ve had no sex drive at all through my whole pregnancy and I don’t know if i should feel bad that my partner had to put up with it for another 3 maybe 4 month😂 It just feels weird when we try, i’m like nope😂 and he thinks i hate him or something but I don’t. The thought of it just gives me the ick. Should i feel bad? does anyone feel the same way?

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I've also had no lust of sex. My sense of smell is out of control, I smell EVERYTHING, which doesn't help at all. And my body just feels uncomfortable most of the time.

I think it's normal. It'll be worth the wait :3

Girl I didn't have sex my whole pregnancy!!!

Same here... I’m not interested and I do t feel bad. It’ll be worth the wait lmao.

I’m the same I literally feel disgusted by it lol I just tell him to wank off when he asks 😂 I literally couldn’t think of anything worse. My first pregnancy I was the total opposite! Don’t feel bad

Sex for me is amazing 🤩 I love it but I’m thinking I’m gone get to a point we’re I wouldn’t want him to touch me but for now the sex is actually more amazing now then before pregnancy 🤰🏻 like I always wanna have sex

I haven't had sex since 3 weeks I'm now 13 and it's just from feeling sick at night to already being asleep and i just have no drive. Before pregnancy it was too much drive. Hopefully it comes back

i’m the same way it makes me sick to my stomach thinking of having about it

With you guys on this!
No sex drive at all! I don’t know if it’s my hormones or if it’s just the fact that I don’t feel sexy at all.
I love my new body. I love my bump. And when I think of baby I’m filled with love but when it comes to sex...just ugh idk.
We try. I think we do it 2x a week so it makes me worried bc we used to have sex maybe twice a day most of the days of the week before !!

Plus! When I’m active that’s when I feel the baby move the MOST!! It’s so awkward trying to feel pleasure for myself when I feel a little baby move inside of me

At first I thought it was weird but I really enjoy sex, I found im actually tighter and it’s more pleasurable for both me and partner. Plus midwife told me to go for it to induce baby since I’m almost to my due date so not complaining there

I haven’t had sex since I found out I was pregnant ! I’m 35+5 and I have absolutely NO want to be touched or intimate at all. It honestly makes me sick to think about it and feels really weird that I feel my baby girl moving constantly so to think of having sex while feeling her move is just too weird. Maybe it’ll change after the baby cause I used to want to have sex all the time but who knows. He can wait... and if he can’t then he’s not worth my time 🤷🏼‍♀️

Dang I am the opposite. I am always horny! More horny than when I wasn't pregnant.

Sameeeeee

I have no drive either its super weird!

I’m the opposite I want it all the time lol x

Me and my partner still have sex and I'm 34 weeks with twins and we don't do it like we use too

You can have sex during pregnancy. The baby is not hurt or affected in anyway. However if you have no sex drive than just explain to your partner that you're not in the mood and you can show your love to one another different ways. And be intimate without involving sex.

I’ve had sex about 3 times since finding out I’m almost 32 weeks.. I have no desire for it at all

I’m either 100% not in the mood or instantly 100% in the mood and it doesn’t take much to get me to either point 😂

I was the same when pregant hahah my poor husband had to wait hahah xx

We’ve had sex like twice and I’m 20 weeks, but a few times a week we are still intimate x

I was the exact same, other than the occasional pity sex session because I felt bad lol we didn’t have sex for the whole pregnancy, like you say it just didn’t feel right and as you get bigger it’s even weirder, hats off to women that manage it ... on a positive note though my sex drive came back after having a baby and sex felt better than ever so I’ve made it up to him ... hopefully it will all get back on track after you’ve finished that amazing job of growing and delivering your baby x

Both me and my fiancé have pretty high libidos, so we've been fairly active throughout my pregnancy up until recently. I feel bad because he asks or tries to initiate and I'm not into it at all 😬 he understands, and we do still have sex just not as often 🤷🏻‍♀️
So no you shouldn't feel bad!!Your body and brain are going through so many changes! I'm sure once baby is born and you've had a chance to rest and recover y'all will get your groove back! It's hard for our partners to understand exactly what we go through because it's not like they can experience it themselves! Especially the hormones 😂

I feel the same..the first few weeks we found out I was pregnant I was all for still havin sex but he was scared of risks, now I’m 18 weeks and do not have the sex drive at all. I feel a little bad but I’m to exhausted now so try not to feel bad your body is going thru so much. Try cuddling more I found that helps with feeling more intimate with each other

I'm the same have no want to have sex we did at the start but not feeling it husband keeps hunting but luckily he is understanding xx

Girl, I was the same. For sure. Not only did I have no sex drive, but I was also super sick for most of my pregnancy - my poor husband went through a 6-month dry spell. I felt really bad, but he kept insisting that he didn’t want to have sex if I didn’t want to have sex, so I was like, “Well, okay, then!”

Orgasms help me feel better. But I sometimes am sore/crampy so my husband will do oral so I get some tension relief. I also think it’s important for intimacy/relationship to continue to have sex but that’s just my personal
Preference

I have had 0-7% desire for sex.... My sex drive used to be extremely high prior to pregnancy... I'm ok with that being single and all! Lol smh. I can finally be abstinent.

It was AMAZING... before getting too far along... Never a comfortable position... except spooning... try getting a sensual massage. And cuddle naked... after a romantic meal

I had a high sex drive at the start then a few months I wasn't into it! We fought he got mean then we broke up i miscarried Then I was really into it when got back together. Just put security lingerie on and the baby is safe and loved in their energy with God and so please have sex and enjoy it just get it on!!!

I don't have much of a sex drive as of late, and I don't feel guilty about it. I also don't feel sexy in the slightest. I have a big belly and stretch marks in front and my back has exploded with spots due to the pregnancy so I only really want to do it in the dark. I had a talk with my partner because I worried about his needs and he is fine not having sex, his libido isn't particularly high anyway but the last time we went to have sex I went on top and the baby was kicking so its kind of freaked him out 🤣🤣 I did say to him it could be like 3-4 months until I am ready to have sex and he looked a bit daunted by that but he will survive

And have sex like 3 times when pregnant, because I just feel sick all the time. If you’re not feeling it, just don’t. Your husband can sort himself out.

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Besides the fact that the honda civic is kind of uncomfortable to fit the huge car seat, the stroller snd stroller seat attachment. which i don’t wanna have to repurchase and buy a smaller one. The car is SHIT. The car runs weird right off the bat anyone will say that when they drive. The engine light is on. There must be a hole or something in the AC unit because the AC is broke and everytime we put the AC gas in it it ends up leaking within 1-2 weeks. AC gas is kinda expensive to be refilling it that often. My dad doesn’t think I should put any money into this car to fix it. We still owe about 3k. We want to trade it in however my parents think that I should get a NEW car since this used car gave us such bad faith. Mind you, when I got it and for a couple months after, none of these problems were there :/ I drove from NJ to BOSTON a few months after getting it and the emergency sensors went off and the car was shaking bad and i had to pull over. Never found out what that was about.

I have 5k to put down. BTW, my parents are heavily involved because i’m 24 and I live with them (me and my bf) in hopes to move out when we have the funds for that. I don’t wanna ask my BF for any money. I know he’ll just throw it back in my face down the line during an argument because he thinks a paycheck is the extent of his contribution as a partner and father. Whole other story. My parents can’t afford to throw any money at a new car. My dad thinks I should get a new car that’s relatively recent like 2023+. Not for the aesthetic but because he thinks insurance rates might be better for a newer vehicle. They want me to ask my BF to contribute since it would be a family car for us. That he would also be able to ride around in when he’s not driving to work in his own car. I dont wanna downgrade to just 1 car because he goes into work incredibly early and I dont wanna have to wake my baby up at 4am and take him to drop his dad off. I also just need my own car because Im starting a part time job soon. I could just use my part time dollars to pay it off but what if I’m stuck with a car note in the event anything happened with this job? My bf and his family suggested we buy a car from enterprise because it’d always gone well.. however i told him there’s a lot of risk in buying a RENTAL CAR. and he said there’s also a lot of risk in buying a used car from a dealership. He said you’re NOT getting a new car. a new car to me isn’t about the aesthetics, it’s about the security that we wont have the same issue we’ve had with the used car i bought in 2024 which was seemingly great when we first got it.

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