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Idk why they bother me. It feels like she wants me to mother him
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I've done something I very rarely do and dropped my toddler off at my mum's for an hour to go and have a coffee alone. Sleep regression and teething and my periods due is turning me into a pressure cooker of anger atm. It's at the point where we're having 5+ tantrums before breakfast nowadays. One because he doesn't want his morning nappy changed and dressed for the day. Then he doesn't want daddy to go for a shower, he wants him to read books with him. Then because he wants to go downstairs while I'm trying to get dressed and quickly do my hair...then because I wouldn't let him watch teletubbies...then because I said he can't go outside into the wet garden with no jumper or shoes and socks...😭😭I am... exhausted....I use half an hour of teletubbies most mornings to allow myself peace to get the cleaning up and prep for the day done but I think I'll have to just say no TV at all anymore because of his behaviour over it. When does it get a tiny bit easier or have I just got an angry little boy....
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I’m just venting. I got married on the 31 of December 2025. I only did it because I wanted my child to have a two parent house hold. The problem I’m having is I don’t trust my partner. He’s a composer cheater in my eyes. He believe that all men cheat. And all women do is cheat but hid it well. It’s just temptation. It just makes me sad because at one point I really did love him. But I felt like I should had left when he cheated the first time,when I told him I was pregnant. I haven’t left yet hoping he will change. As a 30 year old man that still has a child mindset. It’s so much more. I’m just tired. Positive note, Happy 2 months to my little love!!!
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My husband hates his job, and it’s back breaking work for very low pay. I’ve been encouraging him to change his careers, but he says he has no dreams. I told him to really think about what he likes and what he’s good at, and he finally came up with a career he’d like to explore. The issue is that this specific career is not something I am willing to support. He brought it up and I was immediately appalled, so he shut down and told me nevermind and that he’s sorry he brought it up. He said he just thought about what he’s very good at, and I said he’s good at lots of other things. I never thought this was the direction he would turn, and it’s probably the one job I am putting my foot down on. Now he won’t talk to me about new careers at all. I honestly feel stupid even saying what the job he wants is. Just know it’s not a respectable job I want the father of my children having, in my opinion.
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So my husband and I have been together over 7 years. We have a 5 year old together plus I have a 10 year old from another relationship. We have been staying with my husband’s grandmother as he wants to save to buy a house. I let him know that I didn’t think this was a good idea as she is mentally unstable and is known to snap on people. We have been there for two years now. The whole time my anxiety is super high as any little thing will make her snap out. This morning as I was running late she began yelling at me over lights being left on the night before-in front of my kids.asked nicely if we could chat about it this evening as I had to get to work. She then got louder and told can’t do anything right as the night before I burnt a hamburger. So I called her psychotic. She then ran and called my husband at work to tell him how I called her psychotic, but left out the part how I asked her nicely to talk to me this evening. My husband then ignored me all day. When I messaged and said I think it’s best if the kids and I move out of his grandmothers all he had to say is “that is probably the best decision”. Then went back to ignoring me. I feel like if I have to uproot my kids over a situation he put us in as it’s “for the best” then it’s probably “for the best” we end the relationship. But I don’t know if I’m just being spiteful atp
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Is there anyone else out there who is struggling to cope with their partner not being able to cope well with their 2 year old. He can cope in small doses, but when he has to look after her for more than a couple of hours he gets really stressed. I'm so scared he's going to walk out and I'll be left to be a single mum.
Lately I’ve been feeling a bit let down by a couple of people. One is my cousin in law and one is my friend. Up until i moved an hour away I was very close to them both and spoke most days and saw them every week or fortnight. I’m pregnant now (due soon) & I just had a “big” birthday last weekend. Neither sent a card or came to see me. My partners cousin hasn’t even come to visit we’ve lived here 7 months! Sometimes it takes days for them to reply and with my partners cousin I feel it’s just empty promises like “oh I’ll come and visit when my car is fixed” or “I’ve been so busy” baring in mind she doesn’t work & her kids are at school full time 🙄 I know what will happen they will all be eager to come over once my baby is born. They will make the effort then won’t they. I always try and make the effort with friends & family ie send a txt and a birthday card or go and see people regularly. I can understand people matching my efforts and if I didn’t bother with them then I’d expect the same back but it does upset me & I know I can’t change other people’s intentions or efforts. What do I do? I feel if I call them out & say it bugs me they just use loads of excuses or it’ll be awkward afterwards…
I feel like my husband took a low blow. Backstory I didn’t get my license until last year before I turned 25 (ik crazy af but my parents and him thought I didn’t need it) anyways I just got my own car in February. I’m still getting used to driving with my four kids by myself in a town we just moved to in December. I have diabetes and sometimes my blood sugars drop when im anxious. We were listening to miss independent I was joking by saying I was independent. He looked at like you got to be kidding me. He looks at me says “ you definitely are not independent when you can’t even take all four kids with you to a Drs appt” I look at him like he has 6 heads I wanted to say he was stupid af for wanting me to take four kids with me to an appt that was urgent with one of our kids.
My husband was always so supportive and believed in women, but now he’s hanging out some new coworkers who watch a lot of these YouTubers with problematic views. He’s starting to really buy into what they say, and a lot of them are incredibly misogynistic. It started with offhanded comments about how women are always the problem, and leave it to a woman to fuck things up, which would start fights between us because I was so taken aback. As we fight more, he pushes more into these beliefs. We’ve always shared things like chores and parenting, but now it’s falling 100% on me because he believes they are “woman jobs” and I can’t keep up with the extra house work on top of my job. If I ask him to watch the kids for even 30 minutes, he calls it “babysitting,” and he makes it sound like that 30 minutes is the end of the world, where now I have my mom filling in for his portions that I can’t take on. He mocks my friends and says horrible things about them based on female stereotypes, that aren’t even true, and I have repeatedly put him in his place about this. I’ve also expressed to him that I’m loosing faith in his ability to be a part of our family when we are raising 4 little girls with bright futures, and I don’t want them to hear these comments that essentially resort women to objects. He’s constantly asking for a one sided open relationship, because these YouTubers preach that men aren’t meant to stay loyal, and it’s just their nature or something. His actual friends, who he’s known way longer than these new friends, have also distanced themselves because of his comments about their wives/girlfriends, but he blames me for the distance and says it’s because he gave me too much control in our relationship so they can’t respect him as a man. Today he wanted to go to the bar with these coworkers after work, but the place they always go is closed. This bar is a 100% female ran bar, and they are closed today because the owner sent them all out of town for a professional development opportunity. My boyfriend was pissed and flipped out about how women ruined his day, and said if they wanted to send someone they could’ve just sent one, but he just knows they all whined and cried that they wanted to go too, like a typical woman. He then got very performative with a fake whining voice that frankly PISSED me off. I’ve never backed down when he acts like this, but he continues to buy into these believes.I told him these new “friends” of his and their influence are about to cost him his family, but he just scoffs. I told him I’m tired of the misogyny, and he can go stay with one of them tonight and see how much better life is without any women in it. I told him he doesn’t need yo ask for an open relationship now, because ours is over, and I hope he has fun sleeping around because it cost him everything we’ve spent the last ten years building together. He says I’m just being a typical dramatic woman, and that I need to just learn my place. He says it’s his fault for not learning to put me in my place sooner. Planning to contact a divorce lawyer this weekend, once I’ve cooled off from being so angry. But emotionally, I’m not okay. I feel like this man is a stranger.
I snapped on my husband last night. The last two days he decided to go visit his mom’s house (aka: relax away from the chaos) and leave me to take care of our three month old alone. If he was working I wouldn’t care at all, but he literally just decided he’s taking two days off ig. When he finally walked through the door last night I went and locked myself in our room. I told him not to bother me for a god damn thing. He can do dishes he can figure out how to shower, shit, cook and eat all while dealing with our baby and put her to bed and take care of the dogs all of it. I am dealing with PPD and on medication. He tells the world I have PPD but is doing nothing to support me. I said to him “the worst part is I don’t want a break, I want to spend time with my husband and baby. But I need support and the fact I feel like I have to lock myself in my room to get that support is really fucked up.” He didn’t say a word back. I feel so guilty I put all of that on him last night, idek why I just do.
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