Middle name ‘Sweet’ for a boy?

My partner and I agreed we wanted the middle name for our child and any other future children to be Sweet because it’s my grandmas maiden name. So instead of having a middle name or a hyphenated last name we would use it as a middle name. But worried that he might be teased for it when he is older? Looking for honest feedback!

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I personally think if it’s a middle name it’ll be to much for a boy

I personally love it. We have a surname “strange” in my family that I only found out about after I had my kids. If I knew it totally would have been one of their middle name!
I also don’t hear much about kids being teased for their middle names. If he doesn’t like it he can always not tell people about it or just use “S.” instead

I don’t think it would be classed as unusual these days… as a middle name it won’t be used every day but is there on paper… and will mean something to you. Maybe more difficult to match with a boys name but do what feels right to you, doesn’t matter what people think/ say… they are a lot worse out there

I like it!

Sorry if it's not what you want to hear but I'd say he could definitely be teased for it

Hard to say if he would or not but these days people get teased and bullied for allsorts, nevermind your name so I wouldn't worry too much about it.
I know a little girl called Daisy Flower [Surname] so it's not that unusual these days to have 'unusual names'. 😊

Honestly I have no problem with the name itself, I'm just a little confused about giving the same name to all of your kids

If it’s something you and your husband agreed on and you feel good about it do it ! Calling someone sweet or the adjective sweet is neutral and it just so happens to be your grandmother‘s name! if that’s what you want go for it!

I wouldn't do it personally but that's just me. Most people or places doesn't use middle names I grew up in New York our middle name were just the letter and if that on any document unless we stated otherwise I hated my middle name my husband didn't know mines until we filed for our marriage license but then we moved to Florida they use all your names on everything even if you don't say you have one they'll add it once you show your ID or birth certificate. But I don't think they'll get teased like that especially with the madness of names in the world so whatever your hearts desire.

Yeah would agree that he could be teased if the children in school found out his middle name. I am a teacher and kids can really be brutal 😬😬

My sister and I as well as my kids and hers all have my moms maiden name as our middle names. Obviously we’re female. I have a daughter and the rest are all boys

I personally wouldn't do it.. I also don't understand why the same middle for every child?

I think it's nice to honor your grandmother, but I think it may be better to wait until you have a girl and use the grandmother's first or middle name to honor her in that way.

I love it! And I don’t feel like a lot of people who would possibly tease him would even know his middle name. Kids don’t know each other’s middle names unless you make it known.

I seem to be in the minority but I think it’s great! It’s a middle name - it’s not like they will use it every day.

I’m a teacher - kids pick on others for the weirdest and smallest things. You’d never send your kids to school if you thought like that. I honestly think we should focus more on making our kids respect differences as well as being resilient.

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