Hitting phase

My son is 20 months old and he has recently started hitting/kicking/pulling hair he does it to us (me&dad) but he also has started quite frequently doing it to other children too, often very randomly, sometimes it’s clearly linked too frustration (he doesn’t want to share etc) and sometimes it’s sort of rough and tumble play like he does with his older cousin (she’s 6) and he clearly hasn’t understood who/when to rough and tumble🤦🏻‍♀️🤣 but often it’s just random he’ll just pull a kids hair or hit them or throw sand or something at them. There’s no reason for him to do this he doesn’t see violence and I try to do gentle hands and hands are for hugging etc but he just hits and then strokes 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️ I remove him from the situation and redirect his attention, it’s been about two weeks now of this and I’m really getting quite stressed out (probably being 6 months pregnant adds to the stress) and it’s starting to get to me because I don’t know how to change this behaviour. Lots of people saying it’s just a phase but no other kids his age seem to be doing this nor do the other kids at the park etc so yeah any advice or words of kindness would be great haha I’d like to add I definitely think it’s a phase because for the same period he just whines and whinges and cries about everythinggggggg and he was never like that he was so like breezy until about two weeks ago and now I have some sort of Tasmanian devil 🤣🤣

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My little girl is 2.5 years old and is going through this phase. I always look around and think none of the other kids are doing it aswell. Hers is often linked to when she gets over excited she can become very grabby and tactile so I try and take her to a quiet place of distract her attention before it reaches this. It is such a tough time though because she can be like that with other children it makes me super anxious taking her to busy places etc as I just feel it’s an incident waiting to happen. Just know you’re not alone 🫶🏽🫶🏽 we got this

Oh mama…so i just had a daycare meeting asking why my son is “suddenly” like this. Everything you are describing.. he’s doing. Has been doing for about a month now. I have bite marks and bruises from past bite marks. And it is so frustrating. Husband and I have tried different approaches.
Gentle parenting does not work when he’s in full tantrum mode.
And when we set him straight he hits himself.
I’ve cried myself to sleep at night for the past month out of frustration. It’s affecting the kids at daycare and my working life. I have to constantly go pick him up early.

He’s a terror. And I just want this to pass.

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