Behavior issues

Hello! Have you tried a behavioral rewards chart ? I am a retired nanny of 20 years and it has worked every time. Every day she is good at school she gets a sticker… star…. Piece of candy. Something that is your choice that motivates her daily. Set up a family activity, the zoo, dinner date, something she enjoys. Each day is a step towards that goal and it’s exciting for them to work their way to good behavior.

Thank you! I will try that. I have so small stuff like painting her nails or letting her pick a movie for movie night but i will add more options to it.

Even a rewards jar works. I used cute craft fuzzy balls for rewards for things the kids did. Clean up toys, good listening, being polite to other children and adults. When it was negative behavior, I removed the fuzzy balls and made the child remove them. That way they know that they did was not good behavior and they can change it. When the jar or bag is full, then reward with fun activity.

Try to figure out the root. If the root is going to school, make it really exciting. Having them pick their backpack, their outfit for the next day and offering choices in general makes school exciting. Also, remind her she’s going to school not because you don’t want to be with her but because you have so many things to get done “mommy loves spending time with you and I miss you SOOO much when you’re at school. I can’t wait until you get out so we can read your favorite book together.” Always find the root of the behavior and address it. I wouldn’t do the reward system. It works but it creates people pleasers and children who think you listen to adults no matter what. It kills intrinsic motivation. Not worth it for the behavioral change.