Help please 😔😫

Advice or experiences please!

So my ex boyfriend has massive anger issues. He explodes at the littlest of things, the arguement is never his fault it’s always because of my reactions.
He’s very manipulative and a total narcissist! I have messages since the start of my pregnancy telling me to abort, wishing miscarriages and even telling me he wants no involvement due to different reasons. Then I get the opposite side too, he wants full or at least 50/50 custody. I will never trust him with my daughter, I think he’ll lose his anger with her and I am terrified of what he could do or how he’ll react!

How do I limit contact or make sure it’s assisted only?? Everything is logged with the midwife, I’ve had so many hospital admissions due to stress and it effecting the baby.

How have you coped co-parenting with someone who’s emotionally abused you for months and scared of what could happen next? I can deal with it but I do not trust him having her by himself.

in our community

Is he in the wrong here or am I?

My partner of 4 years is not the father of my 3 children I have to my ex husband, my ex and I had a bad break up, things took a sudden nasty turn after a long rime together, dv, courts injunction but things u turned and he has a timetable with the kids now. He sees them every other weekend for just the day and some half terms but not too much really. He pays maintenance and he has for 4 years even when he couldnt see them. He called n said his changing jobs and he needs to pay 250 less this month and then for the next few weeks he will pay weekly instead of monthly and add some extra on so the 250 less will get paid back. My partner said if he cant pay he cant have them.. if he cant afford to pay this week properly he cant afford to havr the kids next week in half term. He asked for a Monday til friday with them, he wants to take them the cinema and trampoline park and to see family. I said child maintenance and his quality time with the kids are two seperate things just as what happened between me and him is seperate to how he is a father am I wrong ? Is he wrong ? What would you do ?

How would you feel towards them???

If you had been arranging a surprise party for over a year, meaning these people had a year in advance to plan time off or literally anything else, only for them to cancel one by one the same day you confirmed they’re available, how would you feel towards them?! Two are saying they used the time off for various family members emergencies. One doesnt know if they can, because heaven forbid they actually write one weekend off for a friend of a lifetime, over his girlfriend of three years. Another is apparently changing jobs and can’t take time off(yeah because you definitely cant ask when starting a job for time off🙄(I’ve personally done this and never had an issue)). And his very best friend? Apparently having heart issues out of no where at 28 years old, and what would you know, the only day they can do his echo is literally his best friends birthday… *(Keep in mind, we have a child who has had OHS ourselves. We aren’t strangers to heart issues). Would you want to find out you possibly have a heart issue on your best friends bday out of any day of the year? Not only that but its a milestone. He turns 30. Most of them do this year too. It was supposed to be one last weekend hurrah but instead they all decided to flake at literally the last possible minute. I genuinely hate these guys. Ive known them since HS. I figured they would at least show up. Nope. I tried. I did. I tried… Because of them all the plans are ruined.

Don’t know what to do. CPS

What do you do when you get a call at work saying your husband was arrested and your kids are being taken away from you.
House is empty. No laughing no crying. Don’t even remember the laugh or the coos from your baby before leaving to go work at 10. All because my step daughter said that she got hit by daddy with a baseball bat while sleeping. And my son who is 2 fell down a flight of stairs in a walker while I was away at work. Police, homeless shelter managers and my sister in law and mother in law came thank god I called them.

Everything is finalized till next week Wednesday. What do you do?

I can only hope and pray and go to work and pray my babies get back to me…

Partner/Husband Support

So many women seem to have the same problem of their partner thinking being a sahm means they do not contribute to the home or kids. So many women, even the ones who work, seem to be carrying the load of running the family with men who although supportive have to be given instructions on what they are to do. It’s quite interesting.
Do your partners do pretty well with helping? Are any of you in a relationship where now u feel u want to end things because you see your partner has a unrealistic expectation of rearing children and maintaining a home? Is it how you thought things would go? Did you and partner overcome this challenge?

Week 2 of baby led weaning

We started BLW on Sunday and so far have done carrot and sweet potato and it's been going great! For the rest of the week we have brocoli and courgette. But I'm stumped on what to do for next week?

I've seen loads of different advice/suggestions but not sure what I should do. Should I stick to 1 ingredient at a time or start offering a couple at a time? And should I stick to offering food once a day (usually mid afternoon) or should I offer 'breakfast' and 'lunch'?

Fussy eater

I am about to lose my damn mind here! My little boy basically eats nothing but porridge - he gobbles that up and turns his nose up yo almost everything else.

We are under the dietician & speech and language because he was in hospital for a month at birth for various things*, particularly not feeding. The dietician is pushing me to do more milk (I agree he isn’t having enough) AND three meals a day and I am going insane prepping food that he won’t even open his mouth for.

Any other mums going through the same thing? Please DM me because I need help!!! 😵‍💫

*He does have a genetic disorder but he’s developmentally well when it comes to feeding, he just hates almost everything I try feed him!