Gender neutral or girl name?

So my husband and I are finally deciding to name our miscarriage baby from September 2020. I really think our baby deserves a name and I don’t know why we didn’t do it sooner. We lost him or her at 6 weeks so we don’t know if it was a boy or girl, so we need a gender neutral name. I really like the name Aolani (pronounce Ae-oh-lah-nee) which means heavenly clouds. I love the meaning and I think the name sounds perfect, but my husband thinks it’s more on the feminine side. Some websites say it’s gender neutral and some say girl. Please help I would love to use this name but I would like your opinions! Thank you!

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Malak ( Ma-Lak ) means angel in Arabic
Frankie ( adapted from Frances ) means free one
Noa ( no-ah ) loved, affection

Just a few, hope you find the perfect name 💕

Ours is Fern. It's more a girls name in the UK but I'm confident it would be perfect for an androgynous or trans teen so baby can be whoever they want to be.

Jesse?

Maybe use it as their middle name? It is a beautiful name. I also think it sounds more feminine.

I have 4 angels, I didn't know the gender to 3 of them. My first angel I called Robin (like the bird because I was always told if you have a Robin land near you it's a loved one from heaven visiting you) xx

If you love it then use it. We chose Rowan because the oldest has a flower name so we wanted another nature name, it’s more on the boyish side of neutral.

Robin is a good one or Riley

I grew up with a Lani who was a boy and no one ever teased him that it was a “girls name”. Lani means Heaven and is also Hawaiian like Aolani. Maybe that would be a nice compromise? I hope you find what’s perfect for you, your hubby and your angel baby.

Go for Aolani. It doesn’t matter if some think it’s more feminine as it’s only for you anyway and the meaning is lovely.
I always think of my lost baby as Harry as we loved the name Harry for a boy and Harriet for a girl.

Aolani is beautiful and has such significant meaning. i can understand why your husband thinks it sounds more feminine - but it is a gender neutral name, so it's perfect. 💕💙

a few other suggestions, all gender-neutral - although a few your husband may potentially think some sound more feminine;

Cielo - "heaven".
Kamalani - "heavenly child".
Vega - the name of one of the brightest stars in the sky. ✨
Aster - "star".
Celestine - "heavenly".
Vesper - "evening star".
Leilani - "heavenly child".
Seren - "star".
Lani - "heaven".
Marvel - "miracle".
Amani - "peace".
Eden - "place of paradise".
Dove - symbol of peace.
Shiloh - "tranquillity".
Haven - "safe place/sanctuary".
Araceli - "altar of heaven".
Xolani - "peace".
Pax/Paz - "peace".

💕💙

Hmm sounds a bit more feminine to me due to the eee sound at the end. I think Aolan sounds more like a boys name to me and could be a loving nod to the name? Just my initial thoughts! Hope you find a name you love!

I have a female student named Aolani.

I named mine Jessie as it means God's gift

Pick a name that is meaningful to you guys. We named our baby Parker... because it was unisex and meaningful to us because we had our first date at the park and then got engaged at that same park. Also, I think Aolani is a prefectly wonderful and unique unisex name for your baby.

So sorry for your loss! Alani sounds lovely, and I don’t really think it matters if it’s more feminine. It has meaning to you and you like the name.

With that being said, other names could include:
Avery
Charlie
Ellis
Finley
Harlow
Jamie
Laiken / Laken
Madden
Marley
Oakley
Quinn
River
Sloane

Skye

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