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New to the group, currently living in Newport and have a four month old son and ten year old daughter!

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Did I cause my emergency c section?

Hey.
My wee one is now 11 weeks old and I feel I have recovered well from my c section but I cant seem to shake this guilt that I have.
I was induced due to high blood pressure and the start of pre eclampsia. I was against an induction and would have preferred a planned c section but the Drs convinced me to go ahead with the balloon induction. As soon as it was inserted I was in a lot of pain (especially in my back) but it was to be kept in 24 hours. Once removed I was only 1cm dilated and they broke my waters. They wanted to put me on the hormone drip and I refused as I wanted to see if contractions came on without it and they did. 4 hours later, I was contracting every 3 minutes and had the epidural but the contractions continued intensifying and my baby's heart rate was dropping dramatically, which is why I was rushed away for an emergency c section. Im wondering if I'd had the hormone drip, would the outcome be different? Would I have dilated faster and been able to have a vaginal birth? I don't know if I made the right decision not having the hormone drip. Anyone else's experience similar to mine?

ARFID: what do you say when you don’t want to eat something being offered to you?

So I see posts on here sometimes about how it’s rude to deny food or ask for something different and if you get hungry enough you’ll eat etc. and obviously I know they’re speaking in a more general sense but I’m wondering if you have ARFID and you don’t eat a food being offered to you do you admit that or just say you’re full (assuming you know this person but not well enough that they already know about your aversions etc.) do you bring your own food in? Sometimes I will leave something I can eat or snack on in the car so I can eat on the way home. I just always say I’m not hungry but people catch on eventually .. I’m rambling now lol

So non arfid people: what do you want people to say/ do in this kind of scenario?

C section

Guys my C section is in 10 days and i’m soooo scared, please talk anything c section to me such as your stories, how you calmed your anxieties, things i will need to take with me, literally anything, im absolutely terrified!

How are you getting scans so early?

I’m 6 weeks pregnant today and don’t have my first NHS booking appointment until 8 weeks, with the first scan scheduled for 11 weeks.

I love reading posts in this group, but I’ve noticed some mums are getting scans from as early as 7 weeks (sometimes even earlier!).

It would be really helpful to have more information about these early scans (if you are comfortable sharing!) to help those of us who feel anxious and would like reassurance before the NHS-recommended timings.

Self referral - Badger Notes

I recently found out I’m expecting my second so did a self referral in order to have a midwife and sort out the booking appointment. I made the referral on the 3rd April so taking out the days for Easter, it has now been 8 working days since making it.

How quickly or slowly did you guys get the first contact from the midwife team?

This is completely different from when I had my first as I just phoned up and got a call back from them within 24 hours.

Having to go incognito as no one knows I’m pregnant yet.

Showing?

I’m 6 weeks +5 and I feel like I have a bump already it’s really hard at work because people are starting to notice, anyone else have this