FIL overstaying his welcome at my house…

My husband and FIL are really close and I’m happy that he got to come visit us for originally two weeks (which is already too long in my opinion), especially because my husband has a very demanding job and works over 60 hours a week and I work from home, so most of the time I am stuck at home alone with him all this time, having to do all the grocery shopping and cooking for his father too, etc.). My husband and I had a trip planned to visit my family in Canada for Christmas and his father decided to extend his trip and stay for a month with us and then join us on a long road trip to Canada to stay with my family for a week. Not to mention for the week that we stayed at my parents house, we had to share a bedroom with him since there were a bunch of people staying at my parents’ house. I feel like I have zero personal space. Today my husband had to go back home for work and his dad was going with him and I’ve decided to stay for a little longer at my parents’ house since all the family is here for the holidays. His dad was planning to stay at our house while I was going to stay in Canada and then leave before I came. However, today when I was saying bye to him, I said “thanks for coming, it was nice seeing you I probably won’t see you since you’ll be gone before I get back” and he said oh I think I’ll stay longer. I’m flying back with my mom and my grandma (only for 3 days) and he said he wanted to stay for that too. At this point he would be at my house for over two months… I can’t take it anymore. I am so hormonal and just get so emotional all the time and could really use my space and have my house back. I should also mention that his father is having money trouble (which happens and I like helping out as much as I can) but we’ve been paying for absolutely everything this entire time, taking him out to restaurants several times a week, coffee shops, all the food, the entire road trip expenses, and got him Christmas gifts. We have a baby on the way and obviously need to start saving more for the baby. I just find it extremely insensitive for him not to acknowledge that maybe he’s stayed for long enough and that we’ve been spending too much money already and we have a baby on the way. Not to mention, I sense he has a bit of jealously of my relationship with my husband and he wants him all to himself (which I get is normal somewhat), but he mentioned to me on 5 separate occasions how I should stay in Canada with my parents for as long as I want to since he will be there with my husband. Uhhh… I don’t need any permission as to when to return back to my own house.

Am I overreacting for feeling all these feelings? How would you solve this issue? Do I tell my husband that I need space in my own house now? I don’t want to be rude and for his dad not to feel welcome… but I mean after two months.. that just disrespectful at this point.

Thoughts??

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