Want more kids?

Is this anyone else's first baby? Did you think you would want more kids but now maybe questioning yourself? I wouldn't say my daughter is particularly hard but she's a baby. I love her very much but I don't really know how I feel about going through this again. It would probably destroy my husband and I's relationship if I didn't agree to another child but I don't feel that's a good reason to have another. Everything is already so hard and expensive these days.. I just don't know. Plus I'm breastfeeding and that's alot. I think I need to be done with that too. Anyone else in this boat?

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Yes! My husband and I always wanted 2 kids but since we’ve had our daughter we both agree we are a one and done family 😅 we love her more than life itself and are so grateful but DAAAAMMMNN.

Couldn’t be more opposite, i never wanted kids… 4 months in i already want the whole experience again lol

Me lol… first time mom and was adamant I wanted two kids and now I’m popping birth control like it’s a life line and in the one and done club 🥲 this postpartum shit is no joke I’m struggling over here lol

I thought I wanted 4 but I’ve just had one and I MAY have another one but that will be it. But I definitely need a few years in between to recover. We’ll see. But definitely not 4 I will die.

This! Any time my husband or anyone else mentions another kid I internally panic. Our baby is a pretty easy-going guy but my husband and I really struggled to communicate and my anxiety was horrendous for the first few months. I finally feel like myself again and our relationship is finally starting to feel normal and improve. I cannot imagine intentionally putting myself and our marriage through that again. I already sort of had the thought that before agreeing to get pregnant again I would need us to go to couples therapy. I also just stopped breastfeeding and pumping this week. It has been hard for us since the beginning and baby wasn’t gaining weight properly early so we’ve been supplementing w formula for a while. After I returned to work my supply suffered even more and it just didn’t feel worth it to drive myself crazy for a couple ounces a day. I feel a lot of guilt about not being able to breastfeed for longer, but here we are…

Depends on how the stars ✨ align. I got lucky with my baby since I have a history of endometriosis. I’d love to have another baby, hopefully a girl bc I just had a boy… but I am older (37) and pregnancy and post partum were hell.

I think that’s a super normal feeling with a 4 month old. Don’t feel like it’s all or nothing, maybe in time you’ll feel ready again, you’ll miss it. You have no idea.

Maybe keep her baby stuff after she put grows it and wait a few years and see how your both feeling then if you want to be done once she’s on more of a routine /sleep schedule. Then if you want another you have some baby stuff but if you don’t you can get rid of the other baby stuff

lol yes. I guarantee I will never miss a BC pill again 😂

@Courtney in the same boat if I may how come you didn't want kids? Now that you had one do you want another one?

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I’m 32 weeks pregnant with twins. I take care of my 4 yo, 2 yo, and 1 yo. I barely have energy to stand anymore. I cuddle and watch movies with my kids all day at this point. My husband is less pushy in this pregnancy in wanting to be touched or love up on me. But I feel more like a tool these days more than ever. He gets frustrated (not to a crazy degree) but I can tell he huffs because he’s probably sexually frustrated from me not wanting to be touched on. (my boobs are super sensitive atm) I love having the babies part, but the pregnancy also now has me feeling like a baby making machine. And a tool with big boobs made for touches and my husbands pleasure. Ofc I love my husband and kids, but with my hormones all wack, it really doesn’t feel the same when you’re not turned on. It’s so hard for me to get turned on. I’m uncomfortable all the time in my own body. Babies moving in there all the time. My children cuddle me all day but get rowdy at the end of the day, so I end up getting touched out and I can get irritable when my husband tries to touch me affectionately. He doesn’t have the tact necessary for me right now, when I wish he wanted to go in for a normal comforting hug I’m let down more often than not, there is almost always a boob groping involved as well. I tried to just let him touch me last night so he could get it out of his system, but he could tell I felt tense. Wish my boobs weren’t such an uncomfortable place for me to be touched. Idk why I’m making this post. Probably just to vent. Wish men were equally as emotionally intelligent as women. Wish I didn’t feel like I still owe him something because he’s picking up a lot of the house load and yet I still need to ask him to do more before these twins arrive. He’s tired every day when he comes home, so he takes a shower sometimes works out, and helps get the kids to bed. So it’s a struggle getting him to help any further than that. Weekends are my only time to get to him. But it’s a struggle to find time on weekends too. I know if he wanted to he would. But there’s just no drive.

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