@Keisha Valdez thank you! It feels better just being able to vent about it!
I can say Spanish men are difficult. The way they are raised is the females do everything and the guy nothing other then work and the “hard manly things” smh it’s annoying. I’m Spanish myself and my husband and We are trying to get out of those roles, just hard cause the man and women roles are Super imprinted in the Spanish culture.
@Sara definitely! I've tried so hard to compromise, after all, I married him, I married his culture. But I feel like there no compromise from him to learn what's important to me too
Communication is key girl. It really is. Talk with him (out of the house). Really get things out in the open about how you feel. I don’t feel you are stuck. This may just be a bump that you two as a family need to pull together and jump over it.
@Zuleika we've tried couples therapy, everytjing! I try and invite him for date nights, try do nice things inside the house, nothings ever good enough there's always something to complain at or always something "better" he could be using the time for. It's like talking to a brick wall! Everything just goes back to what his mum would do "well my mum was fine with my dad doing this"... etc!
Exact same position exact pretty much mines an arsehole put me through hell in pregnancy but I feel very stuck it’s so hard we have a mortgage my older lad is sort of attached to him n we have a lil girl together I only work part time n absolutely no where offers anyone any help with housing no more so it seems so yeah I feel trapped xx
He’s not his dad n your not his mum but it’s good you are trying as it means there’s still feelings there from your side. See I don’t even have that in me xxx
I believe you can work through this. Channel your energy somewhere else for the time being. Maybe stop trying so hard and see if he notices (now this is just me).
I'd be saying well good for your mother but I'm not your mom and I'm not here to wipe ur backside so here's the hoover and mop and crack on cos that's what my dad did 😂😂
I'm so sorry for what you are going through. I pray for everything to turn out for your good.