Would you forgive husband for kissing another woman

My husband kissed another woman while drunk at his work Xmas do over a year ago. We had counselling, tried to make changes for our relationship to work and get through it but now over a year later I feel we have gone back to where we were before and I just feel I've lost respect for him knowing what he did. Our second baby was just 4 months at the time. I feel lost and feel like I don't want to stay with him but feel guilty for the kids. We have tried the counselling and although it helped initially, nothing has improved.. would you forgive you partner? It was just a kiss but that still is just as bad for me

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I feel like it depends. Party of me wants to say I’d forgive him and the other part wouldn’t. Having kids is stressful and as new parents, it can cloud judgment. Now I’m not defending what he did at all. It was wrong. You wouldn’t do something like that but still. Idk what I’d do tbh

Yes I would. The issue here (in my opinion and experience) is NOT the kiss. It’s his actions and his lack of ability to change and grow. I’m sure you were having issues before the kiss. That was just his way of acting on his unhappiness. At least that’s my thoughts, anyways. Also to play devil’s advocate- did you make the choice to move on and forgive him? Was that communicated? If it was, it’s time to do that. Try focusing on yourself and bettering yourself. He will see the changes in you. Also, I have dealt with infidelity so if you need to message or talk, feel free

Yes! What Liz said

Yeah, it really depends. My mind could take a kiss at a work party and go down a dark hole... But at the same time, he was honest about it? Did he feel bad about it? The only reason I'm not like 'leave him' is because I'm from a broken home, and have been in some bad bad relationships... No relationship is perfect! At some point when we have kids and things change, we don't always feel the same about the person we're with, but that doesn't mean throw them out. My advice is always "think about what YOU REALLY WANT"

My partner flirted with a a woman at a Christmas party (drunk).I told him nahhh grab your stuff and go. I was only 5 weeks PP. He felt terrible literally awful. He has totally made it up to me , he did everything I asked and I do trust him now. But if he went and kissed her. I would have broken up with him . Drunk or not that’s just embarrassing yourself, me, our family. You’re an embarrassment and I need a man , a real man that respects me when he leaves the house. Someone with class and dignity (who can handle his drink) if he decided to make it up to me while we are separated I’ll consider it.

No I wouldn’t personally, that’s unacceptable and being drunk isn’t an excuse to disrespect your marriage or family. I’d be feeling how you do (stressed, worried, lost respect) and I know I’d never recover fully so best (for me) to just leave him right then

Nope

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