Renunciar a mi trabajo

Hola mamás! Estoy por renunciar a mi trabajo porque quiero estar los primeros años de mi bebé con ella. Mi esposo me apoya en la decisión que tome, aunque me pesa mucho dejar mi trabajo aun no me siento emocionalmente lista para llevar a mi hija a una guardería.
Mi idea a futuro es encontrar un trabajo más flexible que me permita estar más tiempo con ella.
Qué experiencias me pueden compartir aquellas mamás que renunciaron a su trabajo para dedicar ese tiempo a sus hijos? Me da miedo arrepentirme de mi decisión pues tengo un trabajo estable y bien remunerado.

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Yo dejé de trabajar (hago pasteles sobre pedido ) primero todo mi embarazo fue de riesgo y tuve que estar en cama y pensaba en volver en marzo pero la verdad quiero disfrutar a mi bebé por lo menos un año, mis clientes me buscan y piden que regrese y eso me entristece un poco por qué es algo que amo hacer pero disfruto también el estar con mi bebé yo estoy apunto de ir a terapia para llevar un equilibrio ya que antes era mi dinero con el que vivía y ahora tengo que pedirle a mi esposo para todo y eso me incomoda 😫 es un va y ven de emociónes … entre querer volver a trabajar o quedarme con mi bebé

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La independencia financiera para mí es importante, tengo 7 años sin trabajar pero trabajo en casa y al inicio fue difícil la falta de ingreso. Emprende si quieres ser mamá presente emprende independizate

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Hola, Ale. Creo que la independencia financiera es muy importante por salud mental. Quizá el primer año sea válido, pero es importante como mujeres no depender, aunque entiendo que dejar a nuestros bebés es lo más duro. Lo que te recomiendo es que empieces a buscar trabajos remotos/ home office. Emprendas desde casa o empieces a estudiar una habilidad donde después te puedas desenvolver vía remoto.

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Yo también deje mi trabajo por la misma razón, empecé a sentir que mis horas ya no valían lo que me pegaban pq eran horas que tenía que dejar a mi bebé. La verdad para mí ha sido una excelente decisión y no he sentido ni un solo día arrepentimiento. He conectado mucho con mi bebé, tenemos nuestra rutina, le pongo algunas actividades y juegos, tambn trato de darle sus momentos de juego solo en lo que saco uno que otro pendiente de la casa o leo algo para que tome su independencia. Yo en lo personal pienso que los primeros años lo que más necesitan es amor y atención, no demandan juguetes, ni ropa cara... y pues si vivir de un solo sueldo en casa a veces es un poco complicado pero la verdad es que si esta en la posibilidad yo lo recomendaría... Si tengo el plan de volver a trabajar, al menos medio tiempo pero ya pasados sus dos años o cuando entren al cole

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Yo también renuncie a mi trabajo para estar con mis niños
Pero encontré un trabajo muy flexible
Arreglo mi horario y trabajo los días q quiero
El ingreso es bueno pero necesita gustarte ser sociable
Estoy contenta
Aunque si extraño salir a oficina

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Si hay algo que te apasione y te permita generar ingresos sin dedicarle tanto tiempo puede ser una muy buena opción para contar con dinero propio. Home Office no te lo recomiendo, yo sentía que no podía atender ni a mi hijo ni al trabajo bien y me estresaba mucho, al menos ese trabajo me demandaba mucha atención y mi bebé igual. Pero cada mujer, bebé y familia es diferente, sigue tu intuición y tu sentir

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Hola te cuento mi experiencia, yo renuncie a mi trabajo cuando tenia como 3 meses de embarazo, la realidad fue difícil porque tenia 8 años laborando y extrañaba muchísimo mi independencia económica, me deprimí durante el embarazo y entre todo eso mi bebé nació prematura, fueron meses difíciles y la depresión seguía, hoy mi bebé tiene 10 meses y me doy cuenta que fue la mejor decisión que he tomado porque estoy en cada etapa de mi bebé, claro que me gustaría sentir esa independencia, pero los meses que llevo con mi bebé ya no regresan

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Estuve en la misma situación que tú y que muchas.
Renuncie a mi trabajo cuando mi bb estaba por cumplir 3 meses, la idea de meterlo a guardería tan chiquito no me convencía por un lado era LME y por otro los tiempos en mi trabajo no empataban con la guardepara recogerlo y lamentablemente no contaba con quien me apoyara

Hoy mi chiquito tiene 1.8m y aunque extraño muchísimo trabajar, tener independencia económica, etc...

Creo que fue la mejor decisión y estar presente en estos primeros meses de mi bebé y no perderme de sus logros, no lo compensa ni el trabajo mejor remunerado.

El tiempo ya no regresa y aunque no lo veamos se va rapidísimo

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Hola, yo renuncié a mi trabajo de casi 3 años por cuidar a mi bebé. Cuento con el apoyo de mi esposo, quien trabaja fuertemente, es difícil porque la dependencia económica, cuando siempre has sido dueña de tu dinero. Es difícil pero es posible, no me imaginaba dejando a mi bebé en brazos de otras personas. Espero encontrar un trabajo remoto que me permita seguir siendo mamá de tiempo completo y ayudar económicamente en mi casa

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Hola. Pues desde que estaba en mi penúltimo mes de embarazo dejé de trabajar porque mi cerebro de embarazada no me dejaba poner atención en las cosas importantes (soy traductora audiovisual) y ahorita si me siento súper frustrada porque no tengo ingresos y tengo que pedirle dinero a mi esposo, él dice que no hay necesidad de que trabaje que a él le importa más que esté con mi bebé en su desarrollo y ya más adelante vuelva a trabajar. Lo he pensado y volver a hacer traducciones requiere tiempo y mucha atención y sería descuidar a mi bebé, entonces sí creo que por el momento no podría trabajar como suelo hacerlo. Espero más adelante regresar a mis andadas y no perder el toque, no quiero arrepentirme después de que no le di el tiempo necesario a mi hijo.

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