How much (may I ask) is everyone who pays for nursery actually paying.
As of April our fee’s have increased but I must admit I’m in shock and embarrassed if anything to admit we can’t afford the additional £65 a month it is costing us.
We currently pay £161 now, our son goes
8am-6pm Monday and Friday. As we both work obviously he goes term and none term time.
What do I do he’s in a “contract” technically with the nursery. It’s currently taking 3 days wages to afford the £161 we pay now. I understand we use the government top up pot but he’s only claiming 20 out of the funded hours and I don’t know what to do!
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From my experience fees go up every April so I would expect this. Unfortunately wages don’t go up as much :( there’s not a lot you can do other than try to cut down elsewhere to afford the difference and ask the companies you work for if you will be getting a pay rise. Child benefit is going up by a measly £52 per year in April so I suppose that covers one month of increase for you. I wish I had more positive suggestions.

3 days £280 a month after tax free childcare and the funded hours.
We’re actually dropping to two days from next week as I’m now on mat leave and we’ll pay nothing as they’re fully covered by funding. The 20 hours will be because you’re stretching the funding over the full year.
Did you not get advanced warning of the fee increase? Do the nursery offer a payment plan? x

We pay £760 per month four days a week with the 30 free hours. The fees are stretched so 22 hours a week yours seems super cheap ?

£175 a month for 2 days after tax free childcare AND funded hours.
Prior to funding we paid over £1000 a month for 2 days a week.

We pay £525 per child for 5 days a week 9-3 year round (£1050 per month total). Your nursery seems crazy cheap!!

£900 a month 4 days a week with 30 hours stretched all year round!
wish ours was only £161 😩

We claim the full 30 free hours & tax free childcare but only send our son 2 half days a week (8am-1pm) and we’re getting bills for £60 per month. Dread to think what a full week would cost us and really feel for full time working parents. They don’t do anything to help really!
Fortunately our nursery’s non-funded weeks (Easter/Christmas) have become optional and we’re able to take him out over these time periods if we don’t want to pay the full price.

£161 seems super cheap , what’s the daily rate ?

We’re in wales so we don’t have the funded hours until 2.
For under 2, full time is £254 then over 2 is £232 (unless you’re in a flying start area then it’s less but approx £18 a day) that’s before the tax free stuff.
I pay £175 a week for my 1.5 yr old for 4 days a week (8-3:30)

Almost £300 for 3.5 days a week 😩 also in wales so no funded hours until the term after their 3rd birthday

2 days a week and after the 22 hours funding we get and the 20% tax free childcare we only pay £65 a month which is for consumables such as food/actives etc x

We aren’t paying yet but I’ve been researching and they seem to vary wildly between places. Don’t feel embarrassed about struggling costs are spiralling and life if bloody expensive right now. Sorry not much actual help but there is no shame xx

Just under £400 for 3 full days a week and after 30 funded hours spread over 51 weeks

I pay £790 a month 4days a week and that includes 30hrs funding but stretched over the whole year

My little boy does 2 days, our nursery only let us use 9 funded hours per day so we pay for 1.5 hours a day plus food. Our fees have gone up too, this month it was £150 but that doesn’t include bank holiday Monday. We use the tax free childcare account so paid £130

I pay around £80 a month for 4 full days but that’s after my staff discount (as I work at the Nursery he attends,) and after his funded hours

we claim 30 hours a week and send our little one in monday-wednesday 8-6.
our prices have just gone up now that she is 2.
this month our bill was £440 (excluding the 20% tax free). that’s with 1 day off due to the bank holiday

My daughter does 5 half days a week funded but my son is under 2, and just paid £900 for the month for the 5 half days a week

£1080 a month😵💫😵💫it’s insane

Our twins go 2 & 1/2 days and we at around £250 combined a month after the 22hrs funding we use (we go 50 weeks a year)
We also pay around £120 for our eldest as wrap around care

I paid for April £940 - she attends 4 days a week. 22h (she goes to nursery all year round) of funded hours, the rest is paid as usual. That was without the tax free top up.
Our daily charge is £90 per day and £2.20 for consumptions per hour on the funded hours.

So yesterday, we got a notification that our nursery fees had gone down because the government had provided more funding to the nursery to cover the additional extras. After the 30 hours funding, and the tax free childcare we pay £112 a month now for 3 full days a week.

Three days per week, term time only with 15 hours funded per week and we pay just over £500 a month🫠
Cannot wait for her to leave in July and move on to primary school

Son does 15hrs a week spread over 2 days, I don't work so only qualify for the 15 Hr funded as he is over 3. We just pay for the food which is £28 a month.
Considering adding an extra day which is £38 before 20% military discount in the summer as we are expecting baby number 2 in June but unsure.

My boy goes twice a week and it costs me £127 on top of the funded hours. I use the tax free childcare account so it actually costs me around £100. His 2 days are anytime from 07:30-18:00
The nursery provides all food, nappies etc.
An extra ad hoc day costs £88

We must be really lucky then as we claim the full 30 hours and don’t pay anything additional. So he goes 3.5 days a week and it is entirely paid for.

£850 a month for 2 kids to go 3 days a week. 2 funded days and one day where its 2 hours funded and they rest of the day we pay so effectively we just pay a reduced full day price.

My son goes two days a week full days 8-6 and I pay £42 per month.

My little girl does 8-4, 5 days a week, we get 30 hours a week and we pay £120 a month (childminder) £4.50 an hour no additional costs x

I can’t imagine how much we will get to pay as we can’t claim any of the hours and are based in West London 😅

Ours has gone up to £231 a week so were moving to a school nursery in 2 weeks time which is £30 a week instead!

Ours will cost £1400pm for 5 days 7:30am-6pm, and that includes the free 30 hours!!! No idea why it's so expensive

We pay just over £1100 for 5 days 8-6 and that includes the 30 hours which is spread over 52 weeks 😢😬
Have taken Eva to the pharmacist, A&E and the GP. They all said the external one is impetigo which I agree with. For her tongue (it looked a bit different yesterday and the day before when they saw it) one said dehydration and one said thrush. Chatgpt now says Gingivostomatitis? She can’t eat anything from the pain and antibiotics and thrush medication haven’t helped. Taking her again to the GP in a few hours. 🙁

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My baby is currently 6 months old, and I’m already thinking about going back to work when he’s around 12 months.
Honestly, I don’t really want to leave him at nursery this young, but I also want to continue building my career.
For mums who started nursery around 1 year old — how did you find it? Did you feel like it affected your bond with your baby, or did you both adjust okay?
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my bf just told me i need to go on walks because all i do is lay around and sleep... when i work full time still, manage to take the dog out when it's time and actively clean up around the house ?! i got upset bc it's like he's implying i don't do anything but sleep/ lay around but i only do on my days off... when all of it was a reminder to do his hair when he gets off work ? tb "you can go on a walk bc your body will be tired a lot some i'm not used, im playing around bc i used to burn 400+ calories a day".

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I've been working full time from home since covid hit in 2020 and now have a 1 year old that I am raising. It's a challenge balancing work and being a mom/wife. But I struggle with the idea of putting my daughter in daycare. Anyone else in the same boat? If so, how are you coping? What are some tips that make things easier?

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My father in law gave my nearly 4 year old some sweets the other day and he said “in this bag is your baby sisters share”. Her baby sister is only 6 months old so I had to reinforce to her to not give her sister otherwise she can choke. My eldest daughter doesn’t fully understand risks etc. would you be annoyed with father in law? I’m very angry even though he was probably joking. Or am I overreacting.
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I’m posting this anonymously because I’m really struggling and would genuinely value some honest advice from other mums. ❤️
I’ve been with my partner for years and we have a 3-year-old daughter together. The biggest issue in our relationship has always been his relationship with alcohol. Before having our daughter, there were some really bad incidents where drinking and going out with friends seemed to take priority over our relationship.
Things did improve after having our daughter and the incidents became less frequent, but whenever he does go out drinking, I’m filled with anxiety because I never know what state he’s going to come home in.
Mother’s Day was particularly awful. He came home extremely drunk, was sick and urinated on the sofa, despite me repeatedly asking him not to get into that state. It completely ruined the day for me.
Then this weekend it happened again. He went out drinking and ended up walking home. I noticed through his location that he had been in the same place for around 30 minutes and couldn’t get hold of him. I was so worried that I contacted the police, but ultimately ended up getting my 3-year-old out of bed and driving around looking for him because I didn’t know what else to do.
Eventually he came home, clearly having passed out or fallen asleep somewhere, and then passed out on our brand-new sofa and urinated on it. The next morning he was still intoxicated and spoke to me horribly. This all happened with our daughter around, which is something I’m finding particularly difficult to deal with.
Now, as always, he’s saying he’s sorry and that he’s going to get help and stop drinking. But I’ve heard this before. This has been going on for years, and I’m struggling to believe that anything will actually change.
What hurts me most is that I feel like he has a choice. He could go out, have a few drinks and come home safely to his family — but instead he repeatedly gets himself into a state where I’m left worrying, cleaning up the consequences and dealing with the emotional fallout.
I desperately want to keep our family together. This is the only family life my daughter has ever known, and that makes the thought of leaving incredibly painful. But I also know I can’t keep living like this, and I can already see that it’s having an impact on my daughter.
I’m feeling completely torn and honestly don’t know what I should do anymore.
If you were in my position, what would you do? Would you give him another chance if he genuinely sought help, or would years of broken promises be enough for you to walk away?
Please be kind — I’m really struggling and just looking for honest advice from people who may have been through something similar. ❤️
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