Telling your Employer

@Alexis I think I’m gonna go with 20 weeks. At that point it’s likely to start really showing, and the risk has gone down quite a bit, and it’s still quite acceptable I’ve read. There’s a chance I could run into people at some networking events at that time, so as much as I’d like to push even later, I think that’s what I’ll go with. The only other thing I was thinking was waiting another month to 24. I’ll contemplate that maybe depending on how big I am :)

I'm a dog groomer at petsmart so my place of business is a bit different I told my manager first than told my employer and said I was going to wait a bit until I told him but was to exited and had to tell him.

Just told my work last week at 11 weeks. I sent an email to my boss, HR and scheduler

@Alexis I’m sorry you had that experience, btw!

@Alexis I work remotely and go into the office about twice a month so I could easily just wear something baggy those days.

@Anneli oh for sure. My manager at this job thankfully is treating me well but I read in the handbook I only needed to give them 10 weeks notice and I was like hmmm… I could. But, I tend to show a bit early so idk if that would work lol

@Eva agree I’m in this camp!! Thanks for sharing.

@Alexis I just don’t trust ANY company or business to treat you fairly. I believe I will be treated differently once they know I’m pregnant and there’s no benefit to giving them a bunch of notice. Giving them three months notice seems super generous.

@Anneli this. When I was pregnant with my daughter I told my managers because I was very sick with her. They acted excited for me but then turned around and started writing me up for “looking miserable while on the clock.” Then wrote me up again because I was so sick one day I couldn’t get out of bed and had to call out. My husband tried to get me to take some sort of legal action but as we looked into it, small businesses in Michigan kind of get free reign if they have under 10 employees so I was SOL. It sucked. And it sucked even worse because 90% of the other employees were moms. But all because I was a receptionist and not going to school for hair🙄

I don’t plan to tell work until as late as possible maybe 6 months? I don’t want to be denied big deals I’m in Business development. Yes they aren’t supposed to discriminate but let’s be realistic.

I told my manager when I found out at 6 weeks. I also told him I won’t be coming back after lol 😭🙃

I let mine know around 5 weeks because he kept asking me why I was low energy and looked sick. I started with my manager, when I’m a bit farther along I’ll be talking with HR about maternity leave and stuff.

I’ve only been with my current employer since July so I was pretty nervous. I told her I was going to leave early that day and probably take a nap. She asked why I literally said “don’t freak out. I’m pregnant” She then cried and hugged me.

@Ashlyn how nice! Did you say, good news, I’m pregnant or how’d you tell her? Sorry not to be nosy but trying in my head to have this convo and have it go smoothly as I think they may react badly - lots of work not a lot of employees and me breaking the news to her. 🤦🏻‍♀️

@Briunca yess. I’m worried they’ll react badly. 😞 I don’t need any extra stress. Pregnancy has been hard enough already

I told my direct supervisor the week I found out. She was so happy for me she cried. She offered to tell the director for me so I will be doing that this week.

I just started a job and haven’t told them yet and I am worried. That’s the crazy thing right.. how we have to break the news to our jobs and not knowing how they will deal with the matter..

I told my manager at 8 weeks after the first ultrasound

i haven’t told anyone at work yet, but planning to break it to my manager 3 months before due date to avoid getting special treatment or getting assigned smaller projects than usual due to upcoming leave (i work remotely so no one will know otherwise)

I let mine know early because I was a new hire and didn’t have any leave days accumulated yet for my first appointment. I sought out my lead and told her that I had some news. I told her that I would be needing to take a day for my first prenatal appointment because we just found out that I’m pregnant. She was sweet and let me wait to tell admin. When I told admin, it was after work that I had the chance. I couldn’t find any of them, so I sent a text. I think the text took out the disapproving part of it (I’m a teacher in a high needs school that doesn’t use long term subs). Now everyone just knows. I suggest a text if your workplace is pretty informal honestly. Especially if you’re nervous.