Pregnant by my sneaky link

so I got pregnant by my sneaky link who is 7 years younger than me.. overall he is a good person but mentally not mature for me. I’m keeping the baby and now because I’m keeping it he thinks we are together. How do I deal with this without stressing myself out.. I’m not 16 wks and feel like I been stressed my whole pregnancy because I now have to deal with him.

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I think you just need to have an honest conversation w him and hopefully w a baby on the way he will do some growing up

so I’ve had this conversation multiple times! and it doesn’t seem like he’s respecting my wishes. I don’t want to be a bitch because I want to have a healthy relationship when the baby comes but it’s like he is not getting the point that we were never together nor will I force something now that I am pregnant

Just make your boundaries clear and straight forward! Example: We are not in a relationship we share the responsibility of our child!

are you telling this woman that because she had sex with this man she is now obligated to be in a relationship with him?! Because I know that’s not what you’re saying. It sounds like they had a casual relationship, and things happen, that doesn’t automatically entitle him to be her SO.

To OP, just keep trying to maintain a professional stance with him. He may not get it right away, and it may be exhausting at times. Keep communication strictly about your child, treat him like a coworker, and if he respects boundaries, hopefully you can upgrade him to a friend. I hope you can have a successful coparenting relationship. ❤️

that’s totally unnecessary to say that, just because she wants to have fun doesn’t mean she is entitled to be with them (pregnant or not pregnant) single moms are powerful and strong woman. A child needs a happy and safe home (even if it is one parent household) and they know some days they will see their other parent. Just because you don’t believe it then you shouldn’t shoot negative thoughts to a mom that is asking for advice. She is not selfish whatsoever.

thank you for your encouraging words. I will try my best to treat the situation as such.

FYI to the bitter baby mom in the chat .. I never said I was going to get a single mother! The father will be fully involved, I am not obligated to be with anybody whom I just had a casual relationship with for years. I’m keeping my baby and the father will be involved along with everyone’s parents. When it comes to me.. I am focusing on my career and my child not a man.

btw you will be a great mama,

💕 thank youuuu

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