MIL Said Sick Baby is Payback for Husband's Colic

My MIL is always obsessed with talking about how colicky my husband was as a baby. She kept saying, "I hope your baby doesn't have it." She seemed disappointed when our baby was born and only cries when she needs something. She got sick recently, and while we were going on a date while my mother watched the little one his mother called. We answered and told her she was still sick but not as bad, so we decided to have a date night. She promptly said, "Well, I guess that's payback for your colic." I don't have a mother in law. I have a southern monster in law. Lol.

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Ewwwww. She’s completely self-absorbed.

As a mom who’s baby had bad colic for like 10 weeks I could never think of saying this to him one day when he has children of his own

Omg I don’t understand why women can’t support women, I totally feel for you! It’s so frustrating as a new mum to hear things from other people specially your MIL! They always forget the time when they were vulnerable and adjusting to motherhood and act all like they were born “know it all”

I feel like this is almost a “brag” for her. My MIL does this too. Every time I see her (every couple months) she tells me about being pregnant with my husband and what he was like as a baby. She did this long before I even got pregnant. I feel like she’s got a lot of pride for carrying him (he was a month and a half overdue) and raising him despite his colic or other issues. I feel like she’s proud and wants to share it. As annoying as it is to listen to anyone compare their experiences but I try to move past it with a smile haha!

I'm fairly sure she is a narcissist, but she hides it well with southern charm.

Jesus I mean come on. Why it is always shit like this. Mine was like (when he had his 8, 12 & 16 week injections) well you were fine so he will be. He cried non stop and only wanted to be held, sleep and eat.
Then just little things like ‘oh he gets that from you’ even though I also have that. So I make a point of pointing it out now I’m not keeping quiet.

That bitch was waaaiiiitttiiinnggggg to throw that at you guys. So annoying. I swear, some of these mil's are something else.

Like your husband could help it? And saying it's payback that your baby is sick is just sad.

@Laurel Right? I don't understand why she has held onto that over all these years.. and honestly I'm sure it was because she was a first time, young mom that didn't know how to help him with his gas.

That’s an absolutely horrible thing to say and just so inappropriate. My mom will talk about how my brother (the oldest) was a horrible baby. Colic, projectile vomiting, awful labour, my dad went right back to work so she was alone. My brothers oldest child was the same and my mom just kept saying I’m so sorry she’s like this, I know how hard this is, what can I do to help you. You know nice supportive mom things.

My mother in law whines constantly about how my husband was a “lazy baby” and she had a hard labour with him because he was lazy and didn’t come out. Then he was lazy because he didn’t latch to breastfeed. With my son I had to have several repeat anatomy scans because his positioning for heart images was never great. And my in laws said oh he’s lazy like his father. I snapped and said I didn’t appreciate my unborn child being referred to as lazy.

in our community

Is this insanely overpriced? I posted on my local support group for parents of kids with disabilities asking about summer camps....

I got a message about a daycare that will be holding 3 different summer programs that run for 3 days in the last week of July for 450 dollars per child. 450 dollars for 3 days of "camp" seems like a rip off to me especially being for kids with disabilities???

Overwhelmed…..

I’m so fucking overwhelmed and frustrated I’m done being a mom!!!! I get ZERO fuckin help from my husband. Only help I get is my mom and that’s if she comes get us. I don’t have a car. Can’t go for a walk. No park. No nothing but a 4yr and a 3month old in a two bed 1bath apt 24/7 365 being basically a single married mom!!!! I’m over it!!!!!!!

Having a mental breakdown

My kids love chicken nuggets for lunch, im sure this is my fault because I dont like to spend my entire day cooking meals but thats beside the point. The great value dino nugget recall has me sick to my stomach terrified. I already have a fear of food and getting sick from food, then come to find out something weve all been eating was tested for potential super high lead levels freaks me out beyond belief. Not only for my kids but for myself too. I might be crazy but ive already called poison control, called their pediatrician, and scheduled a lead test blood draw for myself.
I feel like such a shit parent. I just want the best for my kids but I feel like im failing them in so many ways right now. I wish we could afford to get the best most healthiest organic food for them and I wish I had the time/energy to make them all their food scratch so I know what theyre taking in is good for them. With the prices of literally everything raising, how are we supposed to do this?
My entire body aches today from either a virus or a autoimmune flare up and then to find this out just has me feeling like shit in every way. I hate all of this.

Is this normal parent child bonding to you?

Overheard my husband and his brother discussing their next trip to forbidden planet… and he tells him he plans on bringing our 1 year old along. Now I don’t know a whole lot about it but from what he’s explained before it’s a fiction/ fantasy comic/ book/ toy store. He’s always said it’s packed and he is in there for ages. Not sure why they’d think that’s a fun thing for a 1 year old to be dragged to, as well as the fact that our child has never been exposed to any cartoons, screens, fiction books etc and won’t be any time soon. She would have no clue what she’s doing there and will get bored quick.
I’ve spoken to him before about pushing his interests onto our children, understandable when it’s sharing a toy or short book or pictures that seems normal, however I’ve had to address him in the past regarding purchasing silly items to only take a quick picture or video of child with it and share it with his family making out that our child is interested in or even sometimes obsessed with them just because she’s holding them and looking at it (what kid wouldn’t 🙄). He’s been doing this kinda thing since she was a baby, she’ll crawl and he’d record her crawling to one of his toys and plaster it on his family group about how much she likes the toy now… as if she had a choice in the matter when it’s purposely put in front of her while all other toys removed, y know? I know he thinks I’m being extra but I’m an educator, I value teaching children and babies to explore appropriately, fostering their interests and following their lead. I feel my husband just wants her to be dragged into such places or ideas so he can be performative, and from my observation he only bonds with his siblings over avengers, Pokémon etc etc because they were glued to the TV and YouTube as kids and still are. I feel strongly about exposing her to these things at such an early age but I don’t think he understands. I totally get wanting to share your interests with your child but I mean just because I love makeup, I’m not about to show my child tutorials and get her a kit. I want him to notice what she loves doing, and work with that. Not just what brings him pleasure. His style does not feel natural or appropriate to me.

MIL passive comments

My husband and I agreed we had the fortunate opportunity to have me be a SAHM. Our finances are thankfully sound and we don’t have to worry!

Of course my MIL doesn’t know this we don’t speak about our finances to her bc we are doing better than 90% of the family and don’t want to rub it in anyone’s faces.

I don’t plan on working until our kids are grown right now we have our first kid 11 mo.

Every single time my mother in law is around without fail she brings up how I could work or bring in income. My husband has told her my job is mom and right now we aren’t looking for a job i am enjoying being a mom. I know it maybe my MIL insecurities but it’s very annoying to hear it feels like I am not doing “enough” as a SAHM alone.

Weaning

Please can anyone help, I’m struggling with weaning. Is it normal for baby to scream, cry and gag when giving them pureed vegetables? I am blending them with formula.

I have tried a few times but it’s horrible watching him get so worked up. Does anyone have any advice? Should I just wait and give him a bit more time?