Husband busted on kik
Hi last year I grabbed my husbands phone while he was sleeping after nightshift to call my own which I had misplaced. When I opened it the kik app was open which was filled with endless dirty chats with other women, sending dick pics etc. From what I could see he was always using a fake name and it did appear to be random people however I was too sickened by it all to really look into anything further. I woke him up and we had it out. I kicked him out for a few days. He was pretty open with everything that it was only random chats due to sexual frustration and has made an effort since to be a better husband, has an open phone policy and always happy for me to check etc and swears there will
Never be anything happen like this again. Prior to this we were in a bit of a rut. Having minimal sex. He wasn’t overly considerate or helpful which led me to not being overly interested in sex. I also had suspicions he was up to something as he was always really protective and secretive with his phone. My husband and I have been together for over half our lives. Started going out in high school. It’s been nearly a year, he certainly has proved himself with making much more of an effort I just find I can’t get past it. I wish I had looked further into his phone before he had the chance to clear everything when I first discovered it. I feel like I’ll never know the whole truth and the whole situation has really messed with my self esteem and left me feeling pretty worthless. We are due to have our 3rd child next month and I do want things to work out but how do you have a relationship when trust has been broken?
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Remember his behavior is not your fault. You're perfect the way you're.
I’m going through all of this currently. You’re not alone. Stay strong, trust your gut, seek therapy to help you heal & he should seek therapy to find the root of why he would do this.
@Abi girl, me too.
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An struggle every day to me , i asked couple therapy hoping that will help us, my heart is fully broken but i would like to try , i also discovered this behavior recently, 1 month ago but this was happening since we met so i felt more than betrayed, he asked for an exclusive relationship while I was not up to deal with such responsibility but i accepted because he asked for while i was the only one doing it, he also said the same as your husband, that was because he likes attention but never wanted to met in person, anyways is cheating for me and i feel like my whole relationship was a big fucking lie. We decided to have a new start and hoping the best for both of us, he also accepted he has wrong and wanted to go to therapy, after all this situation he changed a lot and i feel its working but my mind its driving crazy , i can't get it over even when i know he's doing his best efforts,so i hope couple therapy help me to get it over because i cry everytime i remember everything i saw in his phone.