Potty Training - is she not ready?

My daughter is 2.5 now and last Monday (1st May) she said “no don’t want nappy, want the potty” in the morning so I thought right let’s seize the opportunity and start potty training. It timed well with me being off a few days too. First day we went bare bum, she had 2 accidents but all else was on the potty - she even bought the potty to me on 2 seperate occasions to show me she had done a wee and then a poo. Day 2 we did knickers, a couple of accidents but I was frequently sitting her down - we also did a short car trip & midwife appointment with the travel potty which was fine just a couple of accidents at home. The one day she was at nursery was awful she never went when they offered but wet herself 10 mins later each time, I was warned it may happen. Saturday (Day 6) she had no accidents at all wearing leggings & knickers so thought we had really turned a corner. Then Day 7 and 8 have been awful she refuses to sit on the potty if we try to get her to, goes mental and has been having accidents all over the house and at nanny’s house.

Am I expecting too much too soon? Everyone kept saying to me “you watch she’ll be dry in a week”. We go away on Monday next week for a week to the Isle of Wight and I’m now dreading it - my husband wants to re nappy her and start again when we get back but I really don’t think that’s a good idea!!! Would really appreciate any shared stories of similar or advice please?? Reward chart did NOT go well she went nuts because she wanted all the stickers at once 🤦🏼‍♀️ so I got rid of that quite quickly. She loves her princess potty book, loves knickers and we’ve had a potty around for ages to get her used to it. Also loves clapping when she’s done something and flushing it and waving goodbye.

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My little one has been similar was pretty much potty trained with about 2/3 accidents over a week going out with no nappies, then we went away to stay with family and I was paranoid with any accidents on new carpets and she’s now gone back almost to square one!! Could cry, so for us I really regret going back to nappies

thank you for sharing xx I really think we need to persevere with her 😫 but she gets so fuming the last day or so if I try and put her on the potty I also don’t want to do any damage and scare her off of it if you get me

I know it’s so hard to know what is right to do. But I suppose if she isn’t happy and same with my little girl, it’s not a race so not really the end of the world if they go back a little bit. Just frustrating after thinking we were there😂 I suppose that’s toddlers for you, always finding a way to keep us on our toes!

My middle daughter is now 8 and when she turned 2 decided ahe didn't want Nappies anymore, everything went great for a week she was dry through the day apart from a few accidents if she was engrossed in something etc, after that first week she started regressing and having lots of accidents and decided she wanted to wear Nappies again so I let her. When she then decided she wanted to wear nickers again I went for it and took her lead she was then dry day and night in 2 weeks. Its normal to regress but she may just not be ready and there's no harm in going back to Nappies especially if you have a trip coming up to make it less stressful for you all. She'll grt there eventually it does take some time x

I would say get rid of the knickers for a little bit, they can feel too similar to nappies to start with. We did 3 days of nothing on the bottom, then added trousers and we did have quite a few accidents compared to the 1 or 2 total we had the first 3 days. She wore trousers without knickers for maybe a month before we introduced them. I wouldn’t put nappies back on now as it will most likely confuse her. I found the more we asked her to go to the potty the more resistance we had and if other family members were constantly asking she’d refuse and end up having an accident, instead every so often I’d just remind her about the potty and if she said no I’d accept it which worked better. Definitely recommend the oh crap potty training book xx

absolutely right we’ve done 2 days of no knickers with bare bum or just leggings if we’ve had to go out and she’s been so much better! Amazing how much the knickers confused her!

Also backed off constantly asking and that seems to have helped, more “it’s there if you want it” or “Mummys going for a wee, do you want one?” Both seem to work xx

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