Ladies how do you feel about your partner watching porn and masterbating??

Doesn’t bother me in the slightest. He isn’t cheating, he’s just dealing with a natural urge. Don’t let it bother you 🙂

I understand how you feel. Masturbating is healthy though and it’s better than him forcing or pressuring you into sex. He’s respecting your needs so try to respect his. He sounds like he’s not doing anything else wrong in the relationship so don’t make this a barrier for you both or he will only do it behind your back and it’ll drive a wedge between you. Instead maybe ask ‘what porn have you been watching’ or jokingly ask how many times in a week has he masturbated it’ll bring you closer together and might even get you in the mood more to have more sex and then he won’t be watching it as much?

Personally, I would rather him not watch porn because it gives him an unrealistic expectation of a natural and healthy sex life. That being said, If we were to watch anything, I would want it to be together. I honestly don’t mind if he masturbates without me especially because he usually uses the sexy photos. I sent him as his ammunition lol.

Idk I watch it myself , we’ve watched it together. My drive has always been higher than his. I’m a very sexual person so I think nothing of it … idk if thats bad 🥴 but I def don’t feel like I’m cheating on anyone.

It's a perfectly normal thing. It's healthy to masturbate, you should as well. Did either of you masturbate prior to the baby? Also, if he's not doing anything else I wouldn't be worried about it. But if it bugs you so much, talk to him.

@Katie we used to have such a great sex life before baby I just don’t want him to replace sex for that. It’s gone from a few times a day to a 2 times a week maybe, so I get he’s filling in the gaps still having a high sex drive. Will definitely try and have more open conversations about it with him thanks so much for that advice. No longer feel like I’m mad in the head about it!

@Lucia I'd try talking to him. I doubt he'd use it to replace sex. But just talk to him. I'm sure it's just a slight overreaction.

@Paris we both did before hand but since being together I’ve dropped it and he’s kept going. I just feel we should save ourselves for when we do have sex to make it more special if that makes sense?? Like why does he need to cum all week when he could just save it for a couple days of great sex!

Me personally, it does bother me cuz I've tried everything to please him but i guess it's just an addiction now after having my 3rd baby i have 0 drive and for him to say its MY fault he does it was it for me cuz he always makes me feel insecure about my body and no shit compared to models i do look like shit. He not once considered the fact that my body was healing and going thru some changes and im supposed to care about his needs? Fuck that he can live in his fantasy world all he wants

Totally get where you are coming from and understandable how you might be feeling given it being post pregnancy. Definitely healthy for him to adapt to his needs due to your circumstances. I would say It’s only healthy for your relationship if it’s open and like others have said talk regarding it, don’t make it into a bad thing use it to bring you closer together. I personally think it’s normal. However he does need to think about how it affects you too and hopefully you voicing your feeling he will reassure you upon this. Be open but also be considerate of one another this will only help you both communicate on a level to understand one another on this topic. Good luck lovely! 😊

I feel the same about my bf watching porn. Mostly because he specifically searches for "teen porn". Like I just turned 20 so I get that his preference is/ was my age but im wondering if years from now it'll still be "teen p" and im already insecure about my body as is. And I know he definitely has a breeding kink and he likes to see it drip out and even said our sex was kinda vanilla. but even when I was pregnant and he could come inside he didn't try to initiate more or watch after we finished, he'd just lay next to me. Or go clean up. But I know for a fact even after he comes after masterbating he will look at images of it coming out of other women's v's. I've brought up that it makes me uncomfy. I don't even watch porn. I usually think of him or sometimes it's just stress relief and takes literally 30 seconds. He has a high sex drive and sometimes in not in the mood but a lot of times he doesn't try to initiate anything, just says I'm going to the other room. Which is code for masterbating.

There's so much more I want to say but this probably isn't the right place for that 🤷🏻‍♀️

I masturbate and watch porn pretty regularly(do it a few times a week sometimes). He’ll masturbate in front of me while watching porn (doesn’t bother me). We’re very sexual naturally so we’re open and it doesn’t bother either one of us. I don’t tell him when I masturbate all the time, I don’t think he tells me either but it doesn’t bother me. If that’s the only thing, I wouldn’t make it a big deal especially if you’re not in the mood at all the time.

It is just human and has nothing to do with you, the men who say they never play with themselves are just telling their partners what they want to hear

My boyfriend has adhd, his sex drive is so high every day he watches porn tbh it don’t really bother me, and it’s not in person & he will never meet these woman. Also weve got a good sex life xx

@Jessica this is it I just can’t get over the fact he’s potentially fantasising over unrealistic sex, like you wouldn’t sit in a room watching two people have sex so why do it on your phone? I feel modern day technology has given men a way to have this access to porn that they should never need

@Mekenzie seeing what my partner searcher kind of gives me a complex. Like ‘petite but huge ass’ even tho he says he like my body I don’t look like that and I don’t want him fantasising over women’s bodies no matter what just makes me feel shitty. Watching people having sex in a room would be cheating I feel like so why do they need to watch it online??😭

@Mekenzie my messages are open!

@Sharn Thankyou so much!🙏🏼

Doesn’t bother me 💖

@Maleni girl it is not your fault at all it’s definitely a mans thing that they need this constant stream of cuming I just wish that they could understand how unrealistic it is thinking all woman look like that especially after having a baby.

He shouldn’t be shamed for it, it’s not unhealthy, if my husband told me not To do it then I would think he was trying to control me

He does it I do it We have sex together We watch porn together Totally fine If you are uncomfortable though it is definitely something you should mention and talk about

I'd probably be glad he's leaving me alone 😂😂

Honestly I’d try not to let it bother you. I know my partner is masterbating but I’m glad of him not trying to have sex with me and it’s perfectly natural and he has needs as do we when we feel up to it. Me and my partner haven’t had sex for the whole pregnancy so he’s just relieving himself which is totally healthy. Just try and be more relaxed about it and think to yourself he loves you and it’s just two random people he’s looking at it doesn’t matter. He’s being respectful by choosing not to cheat and like you say he loves you but is just relieving himself. Try not to let it bother you focus on yourself xx

For me personally it doesn’t bother me. I mean he tends to ‘sort himself out’ looking at personal rudie things I’ve sent him mostly 😂 but if I’m not in the mood, I’d rather him watch porn and do his thing than pester me 😂😂😂

Me and my ole man just had a conversation about this yesterday. I’m pregnant and have been lucky enough to have a partner who’s more into me while being pregnant so I’m not worried about him getting it else where. He just has kinks he didn’t want to share thinking I would think bad about him. There some in there I can work with and bring to him and there’s some I can’t cause he isn’t comfortable enough doing that to ME. I know he’s been masterbating, I’ve noticed his actions and he’s finally fully admitted that. It’s not because of the lack of sex, cause we do have sex. Just some times it releases the dopamines for him to be happy. So if he wakes up in a bad mood, he’ll jerk it before coming to me with an unnecessary attitude. I’m not mad about it. I’m pregnant, I don’t want to fight or stress. I had him tell me his kinks and what he likes so I know he’s not looking at what I can be or do online. Helps me feel better knowing all we had to fo was talk about what we want and like to try

@Lucia men biologically need that release more than we do. I actually stopped since I got with my boyfriend but he still does constantly. It's just how men and women are made up. They're still sexually satisfied though. I don't think it's too concerning. It's common. Like most men common. But I still say talk to him if it's bugging you so much.

@Paris thanks for commenting but honestly I don’t think it should be normal for men to do I think that’s something that society has made up as technology has evolved and people just run with it now because they’ve been desensitised. Think back like 60 years ago when you didn’t have a smart phone you wouldn’t sit around watching people have sex because you didn’t have the option. So why now is it so socially acceptable? If your partner said ‘hey I’m going to sit in a room and watch two people have sex and masterbate over it’ you’d be like hell no so why as women should we settle for men doing it virtually through a screen?

@Lucia you think just because maybe it was documented men didn't masturbate back then? They just did it in person. It's not a new concept by any means. Sex is as much a big part of history as anything else. It's not something we teach. But if you look into it's always been a constant.

@Paris oh I fully know that, trust me I’d have much less of a problem if he sat there with his eyes closed thinking about me … it’s just the fact he’s getting a different physical representation of sex in that moment rather than me ya know?

I’m not happy with my man watching porn at all, he knows how much it makes me feel insecure, but that’s mainly because I have a high sex drive too and it’s nearly always me wanting it/trying it on. Though whenever I am not in the mood, he masturbates over videos/pictures of me which I have absolutely no problem with😂 I understand men have a different sex drive to us, however there’s no excuse to ‘need’ to watch other girls and can just masturbate over you instead. That’s my opinion anyways🤷🏼‍♀️💕

@Shannon thanks girl I could provide alllllllllll the content if that means he stopped watching other women… maybe I’ll suggest that to him appreciate the response :)

@Lucia they literally had magazines for this.

@Taylor agreed but I think we can also agree that videos these days are definitely way more detailed then a magazine picture and desensitise men to sex way more

@Shannon My man seeing positions and activities that turn him on that I won’t do or we can’t do is why he watches.. also some men aren’t open about their kinks and what they like.. Most women think that because they have a 🐱 that it’s enough, just like us, it isn’t. Sometimes seeing or feeling certain things just does it.

@Taylor yeh I can understand that, I’m just going by my relationship as we’re very open about both our kinks and are happy with doing that for each other. But I get that it depends on what it is and whether you’re both comfortable with it.

From my understanding, it's more a physical need, and sometimes I am sorry that they have this daily need for cum. My husband says he gets angry and restless if he doesn't release it regularly. I was much more into sex before pregnancy, but now I can't do much and know he watches porn quite a lot to meet his needs. Does it bother me? Yes but I I'd not argue over it as he will do it without me knowing anyway. Thank you for posting it and all the opinions, I just realised I feel the same way as many of you. But we are all beautiful and sexy even if our bodies are not perfect as on most fake porn videos

I have sexy stories app on phone. I also just watched the new Magic Mike for Mothers Day lol. We been together 10 years. Women like sexy too.

@katie Thankyou for this! I wish I could just get over it and pretend it didn’t bother me but it does. Like you said he should just respect it and not do it if I dislike it so much but to be fair to him I still need to have a proper open conversation about it. I just fear that because it’s such a normal thing for him he might be hesitant to stop because it’s ‘not a big deal’

@Rachel I don’t quite get this point?

I dont think its disrespectful its not cheating its visual stimulation. Have you ever tried watching it with him and maybe spicing things up. Thats not sating his bored of you or that he wont continue to watch porn and masterbate but perhaps if you felt more comfortable with porn it wouldn't be such an issue for you. It quite normal for both men and women to use porn a d masterbate. If you're not interested in watching yourself maybe leave him to it and dont ask if/when his done it then it wont upset you. X

Tell him how you feel about him watching porn and when you don't feel like doing anything in bed tell him to give you a moment to want it. Me it took me two months to want to have any sex but the birth control I am on makes me tired so I haven't been in the mood

@Sierra we don’t really ask each other directly ‘should we have sex it so you wanna’ so there isn’t space to turn him down we kinda just flirt our way into it or it’ll just happen naturally. It’s the fact I’ll be breastfeeding and he’ll be in the toilet doing it then lie about shitting lol. He does it off his own back when he feels like it just can’t seem to shake the idea of him doing it watching other women. Would deffo prefer it if it was our videos but I don’t know if that’s even my vibe, just save it for the bedroom I think

@Ingrid I feel your point but I guess it’s just the thought of physically watching other women in such a sexual way that bothers me so much. I wouldn’t mind so much if he looked at content of us but we don’t really take content. Deffo something to put forward to him but in simple terms yeah I just hate the fact he’s looking at other people fucking. I know it’s never going to happen but imagine the scenario: he’s sitting in the park on his lunch break, Then he came home and said there was a woman in the park playing with herself so He just watched her… I’d be like wtffff. In person or on a phone I can’t get behind looking at another woman’s pussy not to mention what he’s thinking while watching it, that’s the bit you’ll never truly know

@Sie the fact that the birth control I am on makes it to where I don't have a sex drive anymore

It does bother me and my partner knows,that being said I think he still watches it now and again. But it makes me feel awful about my body which has changed for our family..

@Rachel all women definitely deserve better than that. A husband should have eyes for nothing else especially not for unrealistic porn videos. Seems unfair that they get sucked into it and then it effects the woman either their feeling or their sex life just all round I think porn is terrible. Not masterbating that’s not the issue it’s the porn watching.

How do you find out he’s doing it if you don’t mind me asking?

Came here to say I watch porn 🤷🏽‍♀️ sometime I just want a quickie and having sex is too much effort especially I’m almost 37 weeks. Love my man and our sex amazing but still watch porn lol I’m sure he does too but not excessive since I can’t have sex like that rn.. So no I’m not bothered by it. We have no feeling attached to the porn it just a tool to help jack off 😂