Almond mom behavior

So I love my mom and I know it’s never intentional and she has a lot of her own issues but I’ve had horrible eating disorders for over 15 years now and it just seems like she doesn’t get that mentioning her weight loss to me or counting the calories on the back of things in front of me is really not helpful at all. Especially me being 11 weeks pregnant my body is going to really start changing soon and she’s mentioned three times in the last week how much weight she’s lost and I just don’t understand why she has to tell me …tell anyone else …but why me? Idk she’s always had this weird thing of doing and saying things that makes it seem like she almost wants me to be sick in some way but I don’t want to give up on her. I think just having a conversation again about it is necessary but idk how to make it stick in her head that if I don’t see changes in certain verbiage and see a certain mindfulness around certain topics than I have no choice but to limit my daughters exposure to her and that’s the last thing I want to do but I refuse to give my baby girl the same fucked up path that I was put on

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I'm in a pretty messed up situation too, I can't afford daycare and my mom babysits my son for free so I let her watch him but she talks abt me to the whole family she will smile in my face but talk abt me behind my back (I know our situations are kinda different but kinda the same in a way)

I'm also 11 weeks pregnant I'm raising 1 gonna be 2 babies alone and I can't afford to not work but I also can't afford to pay for a babysitter all the time so this is my situation right now so idk what to do either I talk abt it and she denys it all but I've seen her do it first hand so my advice just talk but if she's as toxic as my mom is she won't listen

I'm gonna message you!

ugh I’m so sorry yeah so you’re stuck with having her watch him …..it’s really not right for her to be talking bad about you to your own son. I’m sorry you’re in that situation. That’s really difficult

@Angelica no she doesn't talk abt me to my son just the rest of the family, I wish if I wasn't doing something right she'd tell me not the whole family

Do you guys have a lot in common? Maybe “weight” is what she has had in common with you and she think you would be “proud” of her. You have a baby, something positive in your love coming - maybe she’s thinks she’s being positive to talking about what’s going well for her? - not saying she’s in the right - just another point of view?

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