Husband cheated after I gave birth

Find a pit of hungry snakes and push him in.

But in all seriousness, a therapist and a good divorce attorney. This man doesn’t deserve your kindness or forgiveness.

I’m in the same position

You tell him it’s over and sleep in separate rooms

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It’s sad asf after all we go they can’t hold off for 2/3 months without

I’ll message you xx

If he can't prioritise and support you in your most vulnerable days what makes you think he will prioritise your child when you need him to? Store evidence for your divorce because it will make it easier.

Personally, I'd leave straight away. There's no way he has respect for you and the fact its more then once with multiple people and he's probably paying for the hotels to. Its so disrespectful and you deserve better.

Also trust will never be there again and you don't deserve to be second guessing everything. You deserve peace, love and support right now.

Urgh leave this disgusting excuse of a man. He enjoyed sex with these women?! When you’re home healing from birth. There’s a special type of asshole to do that. Like Kelly said sleep in different rooms and do not let him sweeten you up.

Stay for now. Prepare yourself for leaving. Everytime you go grocery shopping, take out some extra cash. Same thing when buying stuff for baby. Either take out cash or keep the receipt and do a return. Take pictures of evidence of everytime he cheated. Stockpile a Fortune, once you are healed and feeling secure. File for divorce. You have to still nurse the baby was you need the house. And you can have him stay somewhere else. Have him pay for both places and you spend nothing.

And then depending on where you live, you may or may not then have to go to court for custody.
You may or may not have won the house in divorce.
And he may or may not need to pay for the child's welfare.

Do your research, and plan for what is best for you and your child. Having PPD is hard but I find I push through the hardest parts because of my child. Remind yourself you are doing it for them and it will help motivate you to keep moving forward.

He may try to apologize saying he never will do it again. But the trust is broken and Trust just like a fancy vase once broken even if you try to fix it it will never be 100% the same again.

Personally, I would ask what he would like to do. Then do the exact opposite. This guy has zero respect, boundaries and class. You can do better.

Tell someone that you trust so that they can help you through this. If there is no one like that reach out to an organization that can help you. It’s very easy when you feel so overwhelmed to want to pretend that it didn’t happen and just stay with him. I agree about preparing yourself taking cash out. If you need a boost go on a dating site post about yourself and you will see how many people are truly excited to be with you! You can do this. Keep looking at that baby and know that you want to provide a stable loving relationship for you and especially your baby.

Im so sorry you are going through this. Talking from experience dont stay for the child, i was brought up with 2 parents in an unhappy marriage and its so damaging. You deserve better, he has no respect for you! I wouldnt even be able to look at him! Hope you have a good support network round you and lots of love🥰

As you are in a very vulnerable position, you need to be smart and RATIONAL! Don’t act up… pretend everything is normal, heal yourself and start planing your move. He clearly doesn’t deserve you or the baby around him. Be smart, cause emotions right now won’t help you. I know it’s easier said then done but this is life! Sending you good wishes 💕

So sorry you are going through this it's rough! I found out at 23 weeks that my partner had been having an affair for months, we split and he wasn't very supportive the remainder of the pregnancy. Fast forward to now with an 8 week old and I am genuinely so glad we aren't together. I had a c section so recovery was tough and had to learn to do everything myself as his involvement is limited (a few hours a week when he shows up) but and it's a huge but, I've done it and I'm so proud of myself and I PROMISE if you choose to leave him, you can do it too and actually my baby and I are so calm and happy we have our little routine and our bond is incredible. Whatever you choose you just need to put you and baby first and know a decision now doesn't have to be forever if you don't want it to be (I.e. if you stay and in 6 months you decide you don't want to accept what he did that's 100%okay) you got this xxx

this!

this sounds so familiar can we message xx

Leave. They never change.

I would defo leave, but need to be smart about it, don’t let him know that you know, give your body the time to recover and prepare your exit, keep proof of what he did. Once you are physically and mentally ready, leave.
As much as I understand that as human we can all make mistakes, that defo isn’t a mistake he regrets and is already planning on doing it again, he doesn’t care about you and the family you built together and you will be better off without him

of course x

Ideally most people would want to have such a good support system around so that you can leave straight away but this might not be possible. I guess it’s best if you can prepare for leaving & looking after you & then do it once you are recovered & have a plan. Or maybe you will try to work through it but idk it’s pretty low for him to do this to you are your most vulnerable, it’s heartbreaking for im so sorry you are going through this. Just remember lots of women do go through this but there are also good men out there if you do decide to leave. It’s all on him & nothing on you x

Leave this man, they don't change. He has a problem. And you, mama do not need this, please. Such disrespectful ass especially for his child

What kind of dad and partner is he to you?

I think I would try focus on one thing at a time. Healing and having a domestic partner to help or healing and having my own space. Do you have someone else that can come and stay instead.

What an awful thing for him to do. So sorry to hear that. I mean, his morals are obviously non existent. Do you really want to stay with someone like this, just because you share a child and are feeling a certain way about your body? If it were me, I wouldn’t take that dishonestly and disrespect. I would leave. That type of man isn’t for me tho.

He doesn’t value you or the family you both created. Get out now. Because if you wait you might try to convince yourself to stay.. sometime it’s easier. But He literally wants other people. It’s not a debate.. he already did it. My heart brakes for you. But just know that there is someone out there that would never even think about doing something like this to you. You deserve so much better.

Buy your time, it will take a while, focus on baby and when your ready make a plan for your future.

Honestly don't stay because you have a child together. Speaking from experience that is not a good reason to stay. Leave. If you have family or a friend ask them for help.

Leave him

Been there. 😔

His actions are extremely disrespectful. As someone who is in the process of leaving a cheating partner, my only regret is that I didn’t do it sooner. I dealt with a lot of instances of inappropriate messaging issues with my ex. Because it wasn’t physical (that I know of), I gave him several chances because we had kids/were pregnant. Honestly, it never stopped and only got worse over time. Where there is no trust, there is no relationship. A life of questioning what your partner is doing, is not healthy. Only you can decide what to do, but just know you and your child deserve better. I know my future self will look back at me today, and be thankful for the decision to leave. I can’t be the best mom, if I’m caught up in resentment and hurt all the time.

I am so sorry you are dealing with this, noone deserves to be treated this way especially when at such a vulnerable time,
My advice would be to have some time apart to really think about what YOU want moving forward, is your relationship worth saving and working on for you, or is this something that you arnt able to move on from, only you can answer this question, once you know what you want to do you can make arrangements from there,
Whatever you chose to do you need to make sure he is aware of how he has messed up and that his actions are completly unacceptable.
And please remember that as hard as it may be if walking away is right for you then it is also right for your baby, they deserve to see they're mum happy and be treated with respect x

What a bastard! Well tis fabulous weather for a bonefire. Take all his shit and set it alight wee flower. I’m old af and I’ve noticed that men can panic when a baby makes its way into the equation and have a fling to stop themselves feeling trapped. It’s an extremely immature approach, but it happens. It is akin to self sabotage. I’m so sorry it has happened to you darlin x

Men like that ain’t worth shit . I know how lonely it can be , right now you need him most - but your not gonna be able to look at him without remembering what he’s done - have you told him you know ? I’m so so sorry

I have no helpful advice I’m afraid but just wanted to send some love your way ❤️ I hope you can move on and be happy which ever path you decide on x

This makes me so angry for you and my heart just breaks for you. It’s absolutely disgusting when men treat women this way especially when you just gave birth to his child. He is not worthy of you. Like someone above mentioned, you need to play it smart. Don’t let him know, start making a game plan while you are healing. You need to focus on you and baby, but you also need to think of a way you can leave and be stable.