Support and advice

Hi All, I was taken into hospital with pre eclampsia and had to have an emergency c section at 28 weeks . My little girl is now 3 days old , I would really appreciate some support and advice .I am really struggling with it . She currently needs support with her breathing but they say she is stable. I am still very unwell and on a ward on a different floor to her and can't see her much. The midwives keep telling me to focus on getting better but it just so hard . I keep crying and I don't really no why , I feel really lonely without her . I feel like I missed out on experiencing the joy of pregnancy and feel I'm grieving my pregnancy. I know that she is in the best place and there was nothing I could of done to stop this but I feel like it's all my fault and I'm a bad mum.

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Take it easy mum, I had emergency c on the 20th and baby was born at 27 weeks. It’s hard, but please take care of yourself. Baby girl will be okay, God will take care of her 🙏🏾

I'm so sorry firstly it's a big shock and day 3 is also full of hormones, which is why you are incredibly overwhelmed. Your baby is in the best place, the staff and care is amazing and they are the best people to care for her. For now you have to focus on yourself so you can be there for her. There is a lot of processing to do, but for now I would say that's a good place to start! The group premature births is a much betger group for support, I found very useful with around 1300 people there who have had premmie babies. Thinking of you but it's amazing your baby is stable+

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Hey I've only just seen this life's been really chaotic!

Your not to blame, my waters broke at 22wks and luckily I held on untill 24wks it was a long tough journey but my son is now 17months old, he's doing amazing!! He did need support breathing untill around his actual due date, honestly these babies that come early are so clever and do amazing things!

As above have mentioned its alot to process, once again your not a bad mum - pregnancy is just something I believe non of us have control over and every pregnancy is different! ❤️❤️

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