Preggo sex isn’t what it’s cracked up to be for me 😭

Hey ladies, I’m 32 + 3 weeks preggo and I’ve started to struggle to orgasm during sex. Sometimes it’s painful when I’m about to and when I think I have it’s not as intense before the big bump. I’m not sure if it’s cos my baby is a lot heavier with the head down and I’m a very small frame woman that I’m finding it painful than others. Even with oral I legit cannot cum I don’t know what is wrong with me lol! I tried a vibrator the other day just to see and even with that I couldn’t tell if I finished cos the feeling is different. I’ve read on here about preggo sex being insane but I feel like I’m the only one that prefers sex not pregnant 😅 I used to love sex and my partner and I have a great sex life so it’s pissing me off not being able to orgasm like I used to. Have you had a similar situation?

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I definitely have no sex drive since I’ve been pregnant. My boyfriend and I still have sex but I could definitely go without it. Lol. I’m honestly looking forward to the 6 weeks without sex after my baby is born lol. I hope I get my sex drive back once I have my baby.

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I second brandy 😂 ready for the 6 weeks cause then I won’t feel shitty for not putting out! My sex drive has been shot since being pregnant and it SUUCCCKKKSSS. We couldn’t stay off of each other before and now I don’t look forward to it often. I’ll be 33 weeks this weeks and the further along I get the more I don’t want it.

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This may have to do with your pelvic floor. The pelvic floor stretches during pregnancy to support baby. But it can also cause the pelvic floor to weaken. The pelvic floor plays a big part in orgasms. The stronger the pelvic floor, the more intense the orgasm.

In my situation, I was experiencing a lot of pelvic floor pain postpartum. I went to a pelvic floor physiotherapist and it was the best thing I did. My only regret is that I didn’t see a physiotherapist while I was pregnant (despite not having the pelvic floor pain at that time). I would strongly recommend you seek a pelvic floor physiotherapist now and continue postpartum.

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my whole pregnancy i had sex 5 times. i honestly just didn't want it, i found it more or less the same as pre pregnancy so it wasn't worth it to me with the added pregnancy pain. maybe 4 weeks after i gave birth my sex drive came back with a vengeance and every orgasm was amazing. since my hormones levelled out it's back to pre pregnancy.

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Girl im at 22 weeks and im struggling!!!

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I have a high sex drive. I am 38 weeks and I still have sex, but I miss sex before pregnancy ngl. At this point is a bit hard and when I orgasm my bump tightens so much but it’s good to orgasm and sperm is good for the cervix as well so yeah x

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Me and my husband both have a high sex drive and have always done it at least 5 times a week, pregnancy hasn’t really stopped that for us. I love the intimacy. However I definitely miss pre pregnancy sex 😂 once I got to around week 34/35 it did get very different. I think it’s harder to orgasm/cum due to the big bump being in the way tbh. I’ll always get Braxton hicks after too so pretty uncomfortable. Definitely don’t think pregnancy sex is insane 😂😂🙃

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You have all been so reassuring because I thought it was just me😭🤣! Thank you for for not making me feel alone in this ❤️

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literally me! I thought I would be sex crazed because I had a high sex drive before baby but nooo ofc I go the opposite direction 🤣😩

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thanks for the insight! Tbh I’ve not even started any pelvic floor exercises so it’s probably so weak lol! I’ll make an effort to start today 🤣

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the things women go through is not a joke 😭😭

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Orgasms used to make braxton hicks come on really bad for me , i could see them from the outside

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