My husband just scratched my brand new car 😔🥺

I feel so sad right now. All I keep hearing is the sound of it scratching. I told him a few seconds before that he was too close to the wall next thing we just hear a scratching sound going across the car. Then it broke the side of the bumper around the wheel off.

I want to cry so bad. He then says his not use to driving this car but his sorry and it’s his fault he says.

Now he is in the garage trying to clean the scratch then tells me it’s cheaply made 😡. It’s not a cheap car it’s a luxury car and I don’t care it’s my car.

Ughhhhh I just want to scream and cry!!!

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I know it's probably not the opinion you wanted to hear, but it was an accident. He's said sorry and he's fixing it 🤷🏼‍♀️
What's the point in being mad? Any car is easily scratched.

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As someone who worked with luxury cars
…. all they care about with making the vehicles is the luxury features. They don’t care about the actual car itself, so they typically are cheaply made. At the end of the day accidents happen, though. You’re just lucky he’s trying to fix it too.

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I know. It’s an accident. I keep telling myself it could have been me as well 😞

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I Hope he is fixing it 😒I would have been pissed off

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I scratched my husband's car 1 week after he got it by accident. I was opening my car door to put the baby seat in and pushed it against his door.
I was nearly in tears about how sorry I was.
It's just a car - give your husband some grace. He's a better man than some.

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Oh dear Go get it repaired accidents happen is this really about the car or your husband not listening to you when you say something

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I feel much better. We are looking to get it fixed. Also I blame my pregnancy hormones.

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She should be lucky he's trying to fix it? Lol girl some of these women have standards lower than hell 😭 why should she be lucky he's taking accountable and trying to rectify his mistake?

I hope he can fix it but if not I hope he can pay to have it repaired but smh even if he paid when your married, a dip on his finances is a dip in y'all finances.

I'm sorry, sucks it's happening to you 😭

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Thank you. Appreciate it

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@Keisha I hope your men make you feel like shit for your mistakes in the name of "high standards"

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girl bye 😂 she wasn't making him feel like shit by saying she wants to scream and cry. Implying she didn't do neither. She's allowed to be upset for 24 hours that he messed up her car.

She doesn't immediately have to get over it, you're allowed to have emotions like anger and disappointment with men. I promise a man won't leave you if you aren't happy with them all the time 😊

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yes she is lucky. If I was in that situation where I broke something of my significant others and then I said sorry and was trying to fix it and then still have someone up my ass saying that they’re so upset and they would rather scream and cry after I said, sorry I’m trying to fix the mistake I’ll be pissed off and be like F you I’m not fixing it anymore because how does someone with that kind of attitude deserve it getting fixed whenever someone is trying to fix it already. If you did something like this to you husband and he started acting this way how would you feel? Why don’t you become better for your men and accept when they apologize rather than continuing to make them feel like shit? Cuz this is just ridiculous.

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reading is very fundamental so perhaps you should review the post again. She stated she wants to scream and cry, not that she actually did.

I would understand if my husband was upset and wouldn't need to be coddled because he has a justifiable reason to be upset. No where did she say she didn't accept his apology. You can accept an apology and know it was an accident and still be upset. That pick me in y'all be so ludicrous.

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Update: I feel much better. In the moment we all get upset. My husband said sorry and tried to fix it. I am not mad at him. He apologized and tried to fix it. He will take it to the dealership sometime next week.

But just to clarify I am not mad at him. I was just upset because he said it was cheaply made and that he was not use to driving the car when he has drove it a few times. Not much but a few times.

I am forgiven and forgive him because that could have been me and I would t want him making me feel bad about it. The car still works and gets me to A to B. I’m honestly still not happy seeing the scratch and the bumper hanging but I try not to look at it. I actually act like it doesn’t exist. I avoid going on the side where it is. I’m sure he feels bad enough so I’m not going to make him feel any worse.

It was just in the moment where I felt like screaming and crying because it was a brand new car.

All is well and I don’t want you mamas arguing with each other, it’s ok 😊

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